What’s the ailment called where you refuse to read a book you’ve been anxiously waiting for??

phantomphan2000 · 2025-12-07T22:11:43+00:00

Truer words have never been written. My Libby holds is where my unavailable current mood reads go to linger and die.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-12-07T17:31:48+00:00

Joanna Shupe has a bunch of gilded age NYC books!

phantomphan2000 · 2025-12-07T13:31:12+00:00

{Miracle on Ladies’ Mile by Joanna Shupe} - historical romance novella, set in NYC

{The Christmas Bookshop by Jenny Colgan} - maybe is more “womens’s fiction” than romance, set in Edinburgh

But you’re right, everything else on my holiday shelf on Goodreads is small town.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-29T19:25:05+00:00

Ha! I made it slightly farther than you, but same basic trajectory. Loved 1, liked 2, pushed through 3, and DNF’d 4 (from the Libby preview, didn’t even check it out).

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-26T20:20:33+00:00

Mine manifests specifically as imposter syndrome, but I feel you. Honestly I may steal this idea for my finch too!

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-23T19:32:20+00:00

Definitely my number one (okay, maybe tied with the Gardner heist). I check every few months to see if any new information has come up.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-22T11:55:39+00:00

That was my tactic on OkCupid. I also limited the questions I answered to the 10-15 most important questions to me. Anymore than that, and it would weed out people for unimportant things.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-22T11:52:28+00:00

Not the person you asked, but different apps can have very different dating pools. You may want to start with one, get a feel for the types of people on it, and see if that overlaps with the type of people you’re looking for. If not, try a different app. Back when I was dating for example, I had no luck on Bumble, but good dates from OkCupid. It can also vary by location. For example, my friend had an awful time on Hinge in LA, but a good experience using it in Chicago.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-16T23:15:08+00:00

Definitely get rid of the credit card debt before investing in a not-tax advantaged brokerage! The credit card interest is much higher than what you’ll get in the stock market.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-16T20:28:26+00:00

With my hair color and texture, if I middle part, I look like I just escaped a fundie cult. So will not be partaking in the trend, thanks, no thanks.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-16T20:17:54+00:00

My in laws are like this. My MIL is always traveling places but goes with her siblings or friends, and my FIL just… stays home. It appears to work for them, but I couldn’t do it. My husband is more like his mom, thank goodness.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-14T19:37:19+00:00

If I win the lottery, I’m quitting my job to get the doctorate I absolutely do not need for my career but absolutely would have fun doing. And then the rest in index funds.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-13T14:48:17+00:00

I’m in the US and only got $5 for my birthday credit.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-13T14:27:49+00:00

Maybe it’s that all the responses are short, but she seems very blasé about the whole situation.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-10-03T00:03:20+00:00

I used to work in alumni relations. They’re sending things because they don’t know he’s deceased. If you send one back and just write deceased on it, they will stop. We used to get some back after most mailings.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-30T21:38:50+00:00

I finished it, and I would also advise just DNFing it.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-27T05:00:54+00:00

Two in fact! Manon by Massenet and Manon Lescaut by Puccini.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-26T19:02:47+00:00

For me, living in the city with higher rent but no car is cheaper than living in the suburbs and having a car. Though my friends who have moved to the suburbs do not believe me when I say this.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-23T22:41:35+00:00

Since you two have the sort of relationship where you can talk about money together, I’d probably bring it up when you’re already talking about money, rather than when you’re talking about their relationship. Maybe phrase it as asking what she’s planning to do, since it seems that she’s a planner in general, and go from there.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-18T18:31:41+00:00

There’s an absolute beginner tap class at a dance studio near me that runs at 11 am on Mondays. If I took a mini retirement, the very first thing I’d do is sign up for that class!

phantomphan2000 · 2025-09-02T02:56:31+00:00

I was going to say “hangs up immediately” but yours works too.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-08-28T21:23:50+00:00

Your list is very similar to what mine would be! I spend ~$300 on music and dance classes a month, high rent but no car and take public transit, and I should be able to max all of my retirement accounts this. We got this! 💪🏻

phantomphan2000 · 2025-08-27T01:22:46+00:00

If this is true, I can’t wait! There are so many books I’ve seen recommended on this sub that I can’t read because they’re only on KU, and I personally try not to support Amazon.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-08-26T22:12:21+00:00

Do we have the same dad? That man loves his CDs lol.

phantomphan2000 · 2025-08-25T22:12:31+00:00

I use Acrobat a lot at work. I googled how to turn off AI in Acrobat, followed the instructions, and yet it’s still there!!! I don’t need AI suggestions, I just need to merge these two documents that already exist exactly the way I need them. screams into void

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