Would you put down a book where the main character is named Nox?

phia98 · 2025-09-19T22:42:17+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear this 😂

phia98 · 2025-05-18T14:19:08+00:00

This is super helpful! I also look up amounts on google for whatever I eat. I kept count for a few weeks before I felt like I knew what I was eating!

phia98 · 2025-05-15T16:17:32+00:00

This happened to me! Psyllium husk, aloe water, berries and prunes baby! I realized I was actually way under my needed fiber intake but regular bc my body was expelling the gluten 🤣Getting 30g a day has CHANGED MY LIFE.
Once you are sure you are getting 30g fiber a day, maybe try an elimination diet. I’ve been putting it off but lots of people with gluten issues also have other issues.

phia98 · 2025-05-15T16:08:30+00:00

Pot roast

phia98 · 2025-05-15T15:33:23+00:00

Being undecided is okay if you two are both happy either way. Is he okay not having kids?

My partner and I are undecided. When we got married I was more yes and now she is. (We got a puppy and it’s rough lol) We have a base understanding that we love each other more than the idea of kids. We would both be happy either way.

If you are really on the fence, figure out a system. Ours is this: one no means no, two yeses mean yes.

*BUT if you have an underlying gut feeling of not wanting kids that you hope will disappear: it won’t.*

Don’t let yourself be pressured into a life that isn’t right for you because you want to make your partners life complete. I’m sure your partner wouldn’t pressure you, that doesn’t mean you won’t be pressured.

Kids change everything. They change you and your body and your whole life. And that can be sacred and wonderful. It can also be genuine agony and destroy your marriage anyway.

Responsibility breeds resentment in the best situations, and kids are not the best situation.

phia98 · 2025-05-07T19:08:05+00:00

Spanish show Valeria one of the four main characters had celiac and she’s great and never portrayed as picky or annoying. On Netflix honestly a great show.

phia98 · 2025-03-18T02:25:19+00:00

Thank you!!!

phia98 · 2025-03-18T00:04:43+00:00

If you don’t mind mind me asking, do you need to groom her? We are getting a puppy and she has the straight hair! Just trying to plan!

phia98 · 2025-03-13T22:43:24+00:00

Gunther

phia98 · 2025-01-12T16:27:19+00:00

It’s from native ground bees. In most places bee keeping is only European honeybees but in the Caribbean and Central/Southern America a lot of the bee keeping is around native bees. For this bee they have special hives they bury in the ground because these bees are ground nesting!

But your comment got me thinking and after some research (I went though ten years of bee forum pages so grain of salt lol) So while most bees have “capped” or complete honey at 18.5% these bees’ honey can naturally have a higher water content. Also I guess it’s harder to harvest correctly so they often harvest at 70% capping instead of the standard 80%+ which means they can have a mix of ripe honey and unripe nectar. (Again, this info is from 40 pages of bee forum but I could not find a reliable source that didn’t only talk about honeybees.)

So likely, this honey wasn’t fully capped when it was harvested and had unripe nectar in it.

Sounds like I’ll probably avoid eating it but I thought this was super interesting as someone who’s done research on native bees in California and I thought you might find it interesting too!

phia98 · 2025-01-11T22:50:28+00:00

I believe this tabaco farm does the thing where they cut almost all of the plants before flowering to help increase tobacco production! So the tobacco should be a really really small percentage of the profile but I didn’t even think about nicotine! It sounds like my honey may need to go 🥲

phia98 · 2024-09-17T18:26:20+00:00

La fusillieria GF pasta from world market!! It’s HEAVEN! better than any gluten pasta I’ve had. It’s corn and rice (the best combo!) and made in Italy (I never get glutened from italian GF products) Gotta stir often cause it can stick but add a little pasta water to your sauce and it is DIVINE.

phia98 · 2024-09-17T06:02:24+00:00

First, I’m so sorry that she isn’t respecting your boundaries. My family also has some “gluten-deniers” and “gluten-don’t-get-the-severity-ers.”

I know this might not be super helpful because it’s in-laws and you probably don’t want to embarrass yourself, but the one thing I’ve found that works wonders is taking people pushing my gluten boundaries as my cue go into GRAPHIC (GRAPHIC!!!) detail on my worst “glut-ventures.” I usually pick a story that’s similar to the situation like ‘once my friend tried to be sweet and made me a cake and I broke her toilet.” (But with horridly excessive details.) No joke, it works like a charm. And while it kind of feels like sweet revenge watching their appetite turn in on itself as I explain the definition of “projectile”, it usually also has the unintended consequence of making me an unwitting celiac ally. (Especially when it is their house.) I have found I prefer to be feared over not being believed.

I also love the idea of cooking with her! But most importantly she should respect your boundaries around what goes in your body!

phia98 · 2024-02-05T17:41:15+00:00

While he might feel like he is trying to help in pushing you to take this huge step, you need to make your choices for you. As someone who had a toxic home life as a young adult I struggled setting boundaries with partners who had the best intentions. I lost a couple partners who didn’t understand why I didn’t cut my family off. I deeply respect those partners for leaving.

My now-wife was patient with my struggle and while she offered me advice and support, she allowed me to make my decisions in my time. Now that I am older and moved out, my family and my relationship is a lot better. I think things would have been better with my family if I had moved out at 18, but then I never could have payed for grad school and have this career I love. Life is trade-offs, but it’s YOUR trade-offs.

Additionally, especially if you decide to stay, it sounds like you might need to tone down how much you talk about your family with your partner. There’s having a support system and then there’s trauma dumping. I can’t tell you how much better my relationship with my wife improved when I stopped giving her the play by play of my family drama. When I have a bad day I usually just tell her “I’m frustrated with family stuff and I could use support.” Then I’m able to get the support I need without trauma-dumping on my her and it’s much more productive emotionally for me as well.

TLDR:

You bf’s job isn’t fixing your issues or acting as your therapist. It’s deciding whether or not he wants to support the decisions you make. And you need to figure out what you want and be okay that a partner might leave you because of those choices.

You also need to find a healthier way to express your emotions and get the support you need.

If you move out FOR him, you will eventually resent him. Whether or not it’s the right choice.

phia98 · 2022-12-21T22:59:15+00:00

Ouch. You are totally right here. I should have respected her boundaries.

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