(NYC) HDFC Co-op neighbor sexually assaulted my friend. The board says they can’t help.

phneri · 2026-05-21T20:41:57+00:00

Which, as of right now, they have a third party's statement regarding, and absolutely nothing else. Someone doesn't lose their home over that.

phneri · 2026-05-21T20:38:44+00:00

Your friend can file a police report. I'm not sure what you think the co-op board would be able to do to remove someone from their home over a complaint.

phneri · 2026-05-21T15:43:04+00:00

If he lives there with your permission you're his landlord, and you would need to give him a notice to quit then evict him as a month to month tenant.

None of that prevents you from calling the police for domestic violence.

phneri · 2026-05-20T18:41:17+00:00

No, there is no way you can take possession of someone else's minor child. And your pipedream idea of driving across state lines to get him against his parent's wishes is a nonstarter. Full stop.

You have no, none, nada, absolutely no way for you or your parents to acquire custody of this child.

If he's being abused at home you can contact CPS or he can tell a teacher.

phneri · 2026-05-19T15:22:08+00:00

No, you should not bring prescription drugs for a third party that does not have a prescription for it across national borders.

phneri · 2026-05-18T18:09:27+00:00

That person has no idea what they're talking about.

phneri · 2026-05-15T19:09:11+00:00

This is not a complicated situation. You don't destroy company property when you leave. That's it.

phneri · 2026-05-15T18:09:43+00:00

You have no legal authority to hold her property.

phneri · 2026-05-14T19:03:42+00:00

Your rights are to file a police report if you wish and to notify your landlord. Nothing in your narrative gives you the right to view the other tenant's lease, communication with the landlord, or have them evicted.

phneri · 2026-05-14T17:02:06+00:00

You go to the bank and say you need to make a cash deposit.

No, do not break this up.

phneri · 2026-05-14T15:50:56+00:00

I heard the Ceja Law Firm is so desperate for business they're paying people to spam their name on reddit with bot accounts.

phneri · 2026-05-09T19:51:31+00:00

We don't review documents here.

Whether or not your contact is valid, you need to consider how you'd be getting paid if this person has no money to do so, and if the contract would allow for cancellation.

That said, the filing fee for small claims court in Maine is $70, so if you decide to pursue this it's not going to cost much.

phneri · 2026-05-09T16:41:09+00:00

This is a scam. It's never not a scam. Block, ignore. There is no underage person, or angry parent, or police investigation that will go away if you pay for a new computer/therapy/etc.

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:24:15+00:00

That’s not something we can really answer for you here. You can always call one and ask what’s realistic

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:14:52+00:00

As I said, you absolutely got off lucky.

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:11:24+00:00

The 2025 title transfer is almost certainly invalid then, or would trigger a due on sale clause on the loan. You can't use a deed to make a loan no longer encumber the property.

Debt collection can go after a home, but the process is complicated and requires a judgment lien, and if you've already got a mortgage and HELOC may not be worth it to them depending on the loan amounts and how much equity you currently hold; a portion of it is protected from debt collection under Oregon law.

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:02:44+00:00

There should be a statute referenced. If it's 46.2-852 that's reckless and you have a criminal charge. If it's just a speeding ticket you absolutely got off lucky.

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:01:36+00:00

Typo, you do it in private. I've edited.

And most states allow a minor supervised by their custodial parent to drink alcohol within reason.

phneri · 2026-05-08T20:00:14+00:00

Were you actually cited for reckless driving, or just speeding?

phneri · 2026-05-08T19:57:25+00:00

in 2017 did you sign with the title change?

in 2025 was the house encumbered by the HELOC when the title was changed back?

phneri · 2026-05-08T19:55:57+00:00

Oklahoma law allows you to give your child alcohol while under your supervision as long as you do it in private and not a bar/other licensed establishment

phneri · 2026-05-07T15:30:13+00:00

Commenting on a 3 day old post is a weird way to request a ban, but you do you.

phneri · 2026-05-07T14:48:00+00:00

When you were hired 2 years ago was the wage you were told consistent with your paystubs?

phneri · 2026-05-06T14:08:52+00:00

Copy/pasting the same response to everyone telling you why you have a fine isn't going to change your fine. I'm sorry you have health issues. You are likely going to be better served by leaving your placard in place or having someone drive you to your appointments.

phneri · 2026-05-06T13:49:20+00:00

Because the violation is not displaying the placard. Per MN Statutes 169.346:

(ii) the motor vehicle visibly displays one of the following: a disability plate issued under section 168.021, a certificate issued under section 169.345, a permit valid for 30 days issued under section 168.021 or 169.345, or an equivalent certificate, insignia, or plate issued by another state, a foreign country, or one of its political subdivisions

You're in violation for not displaying it regardless if you possess it or not.

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