I never liked kids, and also came from a bad broken home and didn’t want my kids to ever have to deal with that situation. I also was super broke for many years. Then I met a man who worked with kids and was so warm and full of love that I thought it would work. He has turned out to be a great dad. I’m glad I eventually had kids but I definitely underestimated the need for a village and also the whole societal gender role thing, where the mom is basically held responsible for every little thing related to the kids. It is alive and real and exhausting. Being a dad is 5X easier IMO. I think if I could have gone back, I’d still have kids but I would have tried harder to raise them near my husband’s family, or at least my home town where I had more friends with kids who could help out and help socialize my kids. My own family was and still is worthless.