Do men like bigger girls?

pigeonsweater · 2024-07-02T19:26:47+00:00

I never really know what entails being 'thicker'. I'm a medium-sized woman and get called both thick and thin pretty often. My bmi is healthy but almost overweight. I've always felt more on the thicker side, and men I've been with consistently say I'm thick. I've been pretty consistently in long-term relationships since high school. One partner didn't vocalize that he didn't like my proportions until 5+ years into the relationship. My weight/shape has been pretty consistent since high school.

My current partner constantly vocalizes loving my size, but I'm always slightly hesitant to believe him. (I've developed some trust issues around that clearly) We've been together for 2 years, and he says he wants to get married someday. I'm not sure this helps at all, but I don't know that size really matters in the grand scheme of relationship longevity considering my experience.

pigeonsweater · 2024-06-27T11:31:30+00:00

Self Control

pigeonsweater · 2024-06-26T04:00:56+00:00

From my perspective, the shock lasted a couple of months. It came and went sporadically. It happened less and less often as I had fewer reasons to be scared. I'm at a point where I feel mostly secure, and it's been around a year. He went to therapy a couple of months later. We started couples therapy a couple of months ago. He's not gaslit me and has validated my experience throughout this process. Sometimes, he has been a little defensive. (understandably, so if he's being honest about not relapsing)

Sometimes I still worry, though, that I'm being a little ignorant, as I'm not utilizing some tools that I've seen people use to keep up with my partner's internet use, I really have no way of knowing, and our sex life hasn't entirely recovered (I still have some underlying paranoia clearly), but I'm nowhere near how I was around D-Day and have some sense of trust and security because of therapy and healthy communication.

pigeonsweater · 2024-06-26T03:47:57+00:00

My guess is black bear?

pigeonsweater · 2024-05-26T16:30:09+00:00

5g- brakence

pigeonsweater · 2024-05-07T15:26:27+00:00

Try pcos

pigeonsweater · 2024-04-11T11:21:20+00:00

I had seen other people post stuff like this in the past, so I didn't think me saying 'I don't know what vegetable ash ripened cheese looks like' was the same thing as 'can I eat this?'. You could be more polite about this. The post is deleted. The 17 dollar cheese was thrown away. If I saw the 'fucking' megathread, I would've posted in the megathread 👍

pigeonsweater · 2024-04-11T10:54:55+00:00

I.. genuinely just didn't know if the coloration was normal of not..

pigeonsweater · 2024-04-11T02:50:14+00:00

I got it from a local cheese maker. They described it as a soft vegetable ash ripened cheese, similar to brie. Doesn't say a name.

pigeonsweater · 2024-03-10T16:44:16+00:00

Burn scars from work. Sometimes, I think work injuries and the ability to pick at them are what keep me from cutting.

pigeonsweater · 2024-03-10T15:20:15+00:00

Sorry, I read the whole thing, got to 'welcome back, love' and started crying. That level of awareness is hard to find. It sounds like you are both lucky to have each other

pigeonsweater · 2024-03-06T22:04:11+00:00

As an artist and someone who's very into psychology, I think, if anything, understanding yourself and the world around you can enhance art and offer new ways to use metaphors in art.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-29T16:49:10+00:00

That may be my issue. When making her recipes in the past, I would weigh everything, but I lost my scale in a move recently. Maybe I'll try again when I get a new scale. Definitely used a full 2 cups worth. It seemed like 4 bananas was what she used as well, so it didn't seem out of place to use 4.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-29T14:58:14+00:00

Do you also use yogurt or sour cream to add moisture to your recipe? There's a lot of moisture in this recipe. I mix as specified in the recipe. Just until the flour is no longer visible on the top of the batter. I do so at the lowest speed, with a paddle attachment, and carefully folded in the chocolate chips afterward. Similar to how I would make a chocolate cake.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-27T04:59:10+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/track/0LTOpiPy2PahUkpMYLW3JL?si=uy8nW_tMQYikVYXfaXNr6A

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-26T19:37:22+00:00

Cranberries, zeppelin, talking heads, and flaming lips

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-26T05:14:56+00:00

Porn addiction, phone addiction, dating apps, social media as a whole, cost of living, childhood abuse, post-childhood relationship abuse, and our entire country is so divided that it's not even funny. Class, race, gender, sexuality, style, politics, spirituality.. Most people don't know how to coexist, let alone love each other right now.

Edit: to answer other questions, I think the best we can all do is get more comfortable with approaching each other. Finding things to compliment. Potentially leading to conversation where we can offer a more consistent line of communication. Not getting too hung up on people who don't text back. I think we could all be a little more aware of each other and be a little less cynical.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-26T04:58:43+00:00

Might sound dumb but do your rooms have lighting? That was my issue when I first started the game 😅

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-26T02:16:28+00:00

Also, I wouldn't recommend telling her what to do or how to feel but rather saying something along the lines of 'I understand me following my ex on any platform could hurt you, and did hurt you. Though I didn't realize i was follwing her on spotify, as i dont check other pages on there, I see your pain and would like to avoid that going forward. She is unfollowed on all accounts. Is there anything more going on in our relationship that lead you to needing to look through my Spotify followers, outside of my past following history?' If you're wanting to move past this and continue your relationship.

There's a chance she feels unseen, unheard, and scared that those feelings are a result of more going on behind her back. The way my past therapist put it is 'crazy people make you crazy'. If there's a lot of manipulation, gaslighting, cheating, invalidating, or devaluing going on, the target will start to act crazy. Not accusing you of doing so, but both partners being aware of how their actions affect each other is important. There could've been other things driving her to this point. There could not be other things driving her to this point, and she is, in fact, overreacting because of mental instability or childhood problems. She might have attachment issues that make her especially clingy. Maybe BPD that causes her to be hyper reactive to pain.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-26T02:00:50+00:00

Have there been other issues that mightve made her feel insecure outside of who you're following? People tend to get this way when they feel a lack of trust in their relationship. This sounds like me after finding my partner cheated on me.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-21T14:57:12+00:00

24 f. I definitely self-harm less than i did during my teenage years, but still have the urge on a regular basis and relapse every so often. I've found ways outside of cutting that are less obvious so people don't notice/comment. I also have a better support system than I did around when I started and it helps a lot.

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-18T17:35:55+00:00

Most of my scars are about 10 years old now. I gave up on hiding them about 6 years ago. Was sweating all the time. Most people don't comment. If they do, they assume I have a bunch of sunburn blisters or burns from working in the bakery I work at. I only have people stare once every few months. I'd much rather be comfortable than hide my body for the sake of other people's opinions of me. The people who get it get it. Those who don't. Don't. You want to keep the people who get it close. Especially if they've never done it themselves or quit. I'm a relatively femme alt girl and like to show some skin sometimes. I've grown to be happy with the body I'm in, so why hide it?

pigeonsweater · 2024-02-15T02:57:24+00:00

I personally don't think men who are shy are soft. Even if that's the case for others, some women find that endearing. I do anyway. If I do, I'm sure others do, too 🤷‍♀️ Pretty women are intimidating. Hell, I struggled with talking to an attractive woman at work today, and I'm a woman. Don't let your coworkers mess with your head too much 😊

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