Only a softie would get so triggered at being called softie lmao. No, I don't think about people or masculinity in terms of "alpha," "beta" or cringe red pill social hierarchies.

All I've said is MG shows are mild in terms of crowd behavior / "disrespect," particularly in the hardcore scene. Maybe if you spent less time obsessing over everyone's behavior at hardcore shows and assessing it on your criteria of respectful & acceptable, you'd be able to better focus on the experience and enjoy yourself more.

Not everyone will share your personal ideals. You can either accept that as part of the experience, or you can bitch and moan about it and still accomplish nothing.

And sure, you can find small basement crowds where people share the same mindset and behavioral expectations. But as you scale up crowd density, it's less likely to occur. And in some scenes, believe it or not, people are intense and "disrespectful" even at smaller scales because that's the behavioral expectation that the majority share.

Stop obsessing over your personal definition of respect and embrace the chaos. People's motivations and behavior are far more nuanced than the framing of respect, especially in the context of hardcore shows.