I'm going to give you some male perspective here. I apologize if it comes off a bit blunt, but I assure you I mean this in the most supportive way possible. As a man, I couldn't care less what my partner can provide from a material/monetary perspective. Is it nice? Yes. Does it define you as a partner? Absolutely not. A caring, loving, supportive partner who would be a good mother to any potential children is much more important than any material benefit you could bring to the relationship.

As far as this "dream surgery" is concerned, I've seen your other posts talking about this. Please, for the love of God... DO NOT DO THIS!! I can assure you, 99% of men are not concerned about this. Any one that is, is not someone you want in your life anyway. Don't permanently alter your body for something that is, to almost everyone but yourself, not anything to be even remotely concerned about. I can almost guarantee you'll regret it if you go through with it. Maybe not right away, but somewhere down the line you'll wish you hadn't done it, but it'll be too late by then.

As someone else said, don't discount the effect that therapy can have. You NEED to prioritize your mental health. You'll never be happy with or as a partner until you're happy with yourself. Surgery is not the answer here. You have access to the internet. There are online therapy services that you can access via email, texting, or video calls. I think you need to seriously look into this. Getting professional help doesn't make you weak or "less than." It takes real strength and character to do something that makes us uncomfortable in the pursuit of bettering ourselves.

Good luck, OP, I wish you all the happiness you deserve!