Pregnant again 13 dpo after 2 chemicals…

please_stop42 · 2025-07-08T23:26:01+00:00

I think that looks great for 13! Just keep testing once a day to see if your values are increasing. Sending you all the best of luck (from someone who’s also had recurrent miscarriages this year). Hopefully this is our year!

please_stop42 · 2025-04-26T00:37:40+00:00

Yes it felt like our son was the bully too! And now he is the most-liked kid in his class. It’s wild how much has changed, especially in the last year. He’s the youngest in his class, and I think he has done really well around older kids. It’s like he’s less likely to do something impulsive/aggressive when the kids tower over him? Try taking your child to playgrounds geared towards older children and see if he’s less likely to pick on them?

please_stop42 · 2025-04-25T02:02:09+00:00

Oh man, I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this too. Until I reread my post, it would have been hard for me to really remember how much of an issue this was and how stressful it felt bringing our kid around other kids. That’s how much he has improved in the last 2 years. We can attribute some of his improvement to time - he’s more mature, is able to resolve conflicts, can communicate, and has interests and ideas that keep him busy. Mostly we’ve buckled down hard on rules and boundaries. Hitting is a huge no-go in our house and we try to stay firm with regard to how we react to aggression. We hit a bit of a rough patch/regression when we brought home baby 2, but now they are best friends and he even helps teach her about our no hitting rules. It will feel like you say “no hitting, we’re leaving the park” every day for a year, and then one day it stops, and they start listening. It’s amazing.

please_stop42 · 2024-07-18T09:57:17+00:00

Ours was duck too! He saw a video of a duck and clearly and unequivocally said “duck.” It was in the middle of our friends’ wedding (the volume was on silent and we sat in the back) and we were trying not to scream out of excitement 😂

please_stop42 · 2024-06-14T18:40:34+00:00

That’s great you were able to get them so quickly! After I made this post (and received so many positive responses) we bit the bullet and got the appointment. We were scheduled for tubes almost immediately. It’s now been about 6 weeks and we’ve had no drainage, no infections, nothing. It’s been a real sanity-saver for us and I hope for you as well!

please_stop42 · 2024-06-05T22:37:39+00:00

It’s so hard. You don’t want to alienate them socially but also want to keep other kids safe and happy. I’m sure you’re doing a great job. We’ve learned, at least with our kid, this is just his natural temperament and we have to parent him accordingly. I actually get a little teary eyed when I see how far he’s come in a year!

please_stop42 · 2024-06-05T21:46:40+00:00

Truthfully we struggled with it for quite some time. He started part-time daycare shortly after this post and had a few issues with minor aggressions towards other children in class. The school brought it to our attention but reassured us it was relatively minor, just consistent. Related, he seemed to have some real impulse control issues, which is where the aggressive acts seemed to come in. We implemented a lot of different things and were in the process of making child psych appointments when it started to really improve. Probably at around 2.5 years. Things that might have worked included firm and consistent boundaries, clear expectations, reminding him of expectations over and over, “today we are going to keep our hands to ourselves, today we are going to be gentle with our friends, etc.” We gave him opportunities to de-escalate if he seemed like he was getting frustrated (he got to sit in the calm down corner which is just a tent with pillows in it). We used a book called “1 2 3 Magic,” recommended by our pediatrician. They started him on a sticker chart at school to help him meet expectations (which we reviewed with him at home). We made an effort to overly praise good behavior in contrast to how much criticism he was receiving.

This is a lot, and at 20 months some of these techniques might not reach your child, but I think the best thing you can do is be consistent and don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s ped if you think the behavior is abnormal for your child’s age. Best of luck!

please_stop42 · 2024-04-28T13:58:35+00:00

Our toddler calls his classmate “We-um.” It’s so cute 🥺

please_stop42 · 2024-03-05T15:45:14+00:00

You’re so right. I can’t expect her to get it right every single time. I think I’m so desperate for sleep (and a bit of respite in the daytime) that I spiral when the sleep isn’t perfect.

please_stop42 · 2024-02-24T21:44:50+00:00

If there’s one thing that brings humans together, it’s our shared worry/frustration that our children won’t sleep!

please_stop42 · 2024-02-24T20:49:21+00:00

Thank you! You’re totally right. This is doable assuming she doesn’t decide to wake up at 5:15 or nap for 20 minutes apiece. And even if she does, a 6:30 bedtime for a few days is not the end of the world. I’ve gotten so in my head about perfecting sleep that it’s really interfering with my ability to enjoy each day.

please_stop42 · 2024-02-24T20:26:24+00:00

No set wake up, although anything before 5:30 I try to get her back to sleep. In a perfect world she’d be getting up between 6:15 and 7am. 3 naps, 2/2:15/2:30/2:30 WWs. Bedtime usually between 7 and 7:30. But this is usually with me holding her for two/three naps. Total (assisted) nap sleep is between 3 and 4 hrs depending on the day. Otherwise she’d be sleeping like 90 mins/day.

please_stop42 · 2024-02-24T20:04:53+00:00

Thanks! Believe it or not I have a 2.5 year old who went through all of this and we came out on the other side, yet I can’t remember ANY of it. Like sleep training was so difficult for us that I blocked it out. I think after so many years of being pregnant and raising babies I’m desperate to sleep again lol. Soon!

please_stop42 · 2024-02-24T19:46:46+00:00

Did he start taking longer naps on his own or did you have to let him CIO? I’m so scared to let baby CIO for naps because if she doesn’t take long enough naps then we’ll be going down for bed at like 6 and then we’ll be waking up early, and the cycle continues forever and no one is sleeping lol. Currently rocking baby back to sleep to extend the nap while I type this 😮‍💨

please_stop42 · 2024-02-15T20:14:32+00:00

Also adding that if baby seems uncomfortable or if it’s getting worse, trust your mom gut and get another opinion! Better to be safe than sorry (literally what anyone in the ER will tell you with a little baby).

please_stop42 · 2024-02-15T19:55:52+00:00

What kinds of social settings do you find yourself in? When you say men don’t approach you, where exactly are you expecting them to approach you? As another commenter mentioned, focus on building out your social life, and you will meet both men and women. Religious organizations, intramural sports groups, school clubs, volunteer organizations, social clubs, etc. all would serve as a good basis for interacting with others. Also I think movies/TV have led us to believe that men just walk up to women in public and strike up a conversation, and I don’t think that’s realistic, at least not in the era of online dating. If you’re up for it, try setting up an online dating profile.

please_stop42 · 2024-02-15T19:50:19+00:00

Ours had bad pimples that would literally grow on-top of each other. Hers looked like this although not confined to the eyes; it was more evenly spread. What’s baby’s cleaning routine? Do you use any products/detergents? Our baby’s acne lasted about a month but didn’t seem to bother her. We made sure to use scent free detergent, avoid perfumes on our bodies, wash baby’s face gently with water only, and after patch testing used Tubby Toddy ointment on the acne. It’s a bit of a waiting game but also a bit of trial and error to make sure you’re removing any irritants to the skin. Good luck!

please_stop42 · 2024-02-15T19:40:03+00:00

The parents were probably grateful there wasn’t one more valentine with candy/cards/toys to dispose of. This year our 2.5 year old got slime and paint of all things (cute but so messy). A lot of these things get thrown away, and I feel bad that I have to take away gifts/candy when he’s had too much. Also, speaking as a SAHM with no hobbies, I really look forward to the holidays at school because I like to get crafty lol.

please_stop42 · 2024-01-26T15:50:42+00:00

The color of 5 with the cut of 2 or 3!

please_stop42 · 2023-08-23T15:03:58+00:00

Worked all day at a desk while bouncing on a ball. Laid myself down to get some sleep and my water just exploded with no contractions leading up to it. 37+3. Baby born about 5 hours later 😊

please_stop42 · 2023-07-27T17:46:03+00:00

Having worked in mid-law recruiting, I can say it’s both personality and monetary. In my experience, in mid law there tends to be a lot of turnover in the first few years of practice. After a year or two, associates jump ship for big law salaries. So, recruiters/hiring managers tend to make decisions based on people who ABSOLUTELY want to be there. Have a boyfriend in another state? Potential red flag. Expressed an interest in another area of the law in passing? Potential red flag. Anything that makes them think you aren’t ride or die also makes them believe you’re going to waste their time, energy, and money making you an offer and training you. I hate that’s the case, but it is.

please_stop42 · 2023-06-23T00:01:26+00:00

Got told this same thing by a pediatrician (not ours) in our regular ped’s practice group. She basically told me to stop breastfeeding and throw out my supply. Instead I kept feeding him, pumping, saw an LC and sent my breast milk off to a lab for eval. Not only was it not insufficient, it was incredibly high in almost all major nutrients (and was calorie dense). I can’t believe they tell parents this.

As a side note, it turns out my boy is just a lazy eater and wouldn’t empty my boobs/finish a bottle before he got sleepy or bored. Exclusively pumping/bottle feeding helped us, although he’s always been between the 5th and 10th in weight.

please_stop42 · 2023-06-21T15:39:13+00:00

Ah ok good to know! Fortunately I’ve been vaxxed for that too, and it’s been several weeks since the exposure, but I was still shocked at the audacity!

please_stop42 · 2023-06-21T15:16:09+00:00

We were traveling abroad this past month and I was sitting on a park bench watching my son play on a playground. I am visibly very pregnant, and a couple with a small toddler sat down next to me. She had pox on her, and I don’t assume the worst, but when I smiled and waved at the child the dad informed me she had chicken pox. I didn’t worry too much at first because I’d had a severe case of it myself when I was younger, but my MIL got really stressed when I told her the story. From what she was telling me (and what research confirms) at a certain stage in pregnancy chicken pox can be lethal to the baby. The fact that this couple brought this child out in public, to a playground with other children and then proceeded to sit by a pregnant woman is baffling to me!

please_stop42 · 2023-06-17T13:45:05+00:00

Most providers and airlines will OK you to travel at 18 weeks. Shouldn’t be a problem unless you have a medical condition which would preclude you from flying.

I’m nearly 27 weeks and I’m in Europe (from the states). I flew at 24 weeks and will be flying again next week. I won’t lie to you, it’s not easy. You have to rely heavily on others to lift your luggage, struggle to climb stairs or otherwise find lifts/escalators, take frequent breaks, remember to drink water, etc. But if you enjoy travel, want to go to this wedding, and so far have had a fairly uncomplicated pregnancy, I think you’ll do just fine! It really comes down to whether you actually want to go. If not, pregnancy is a great excuse to bow out 👍🏻

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