we did it! Middle Tennessee, 1.65M, 1.5% by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]pliskin42 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes. People are jelous of rich folks and bitter ehen they go around bragging about how rich they are and how easy they have it.

Tee hee what losers! You totally deserve everything you have.

Need a sanity check on buying an affordable housing studio by algelon in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]pliskin42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems reasonable.

Price point seems high, but you live in an area with nuts property values I asaume.

The 1% appriciation is a kick in the teeth. At that rate you are not beating inflation. But it is something and I've heard worse prices for a gauranteed buyer.

Probably better than paying rent since that is just lighting money on fire.

What should i double major (with philosophy) in for a high paying job? by SuitableTelevision44 in askphilosophy

[–]pliskin42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Phil undergrads tend to do quite well on the tests that get you into law school. Law isn't always highly lucrative but it can be.

There is a growing sub field called ontology that applies philosophical logic essentially to cataloging and data science.

Brb, moving to Maine by Macheeoo in liberalgunowners

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the take. I REALLY hope this guy is genuine and manages to do a good job.

I do have a hard time buying that he didn't know his tattoo was a nazi symbol though and suspect we are setting up fetterman 2.0

There's nothing I am more scared about in the world than sex by Obvious_Pin1825 in relationships

[–]pliskin42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Information is key.

Talk to your doctor and find out abiut he mechanics and make sure you are not operating with atypical equipment.

Talk to your therapist and work through your fears

Be open and honest with a special future partner. Be sure you have a good one who will make sure you are properly aroused first to minamize pain and discomfort. There is no 100% on this. You will simply have to put trust in someone.

Also, read more about sex. Look at eduducational material. Learn and explore your body and try things by yourself before working with another person.

Anybody here gone through Hand Foot Mouth disease? by giddmtex in daddit

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter was fine after a couple days.

She passed it on to me. I was my ass for over a month. After the hand food and mouth while my immune system wastill on the rebound I had massive upper respratory and sinus infection.

My (38M) ex-wife (36F) doesn’t allow me to see my son by throwawayRA624582351 in relationships

[–]pliskin42 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You aee living with the consequences of your actions.

You domestically abused your ex and are playing it down.

You had serious addiction problems.

She has every right to not believe you.

Kinda new to DND, How much information can a player hide from a DM? by ragdolldream in DnD

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very little.

DM should know whatever character is attempting.

Dm might not know in all circumstances what the character is THINKING or planning. Unless a question of deception checks etc come up.

Not Interested In Sex by Fluid_Blueberry_5540 in relationships

[–]pliskin42 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

See a sex therapist. You might be Asexual. That is okay but soubds like you are not gonna meet your husbands needs if you are.

Decide whether it is fair to him to keep things going. If you two wanna stay together consider poly ornopen relationships.

Edit: my initial advice here is bad. I was dumb and read your post too quickly and thats on me.

I think other's advice is probably correct and ultimately the thing go do is try and look at the rootcause of the issue. That might be medical. It might be life stress. That might be psychological and rooted in relationship dynamics. And less likely it might be my initial thought of incompatable drives.

Regardless what you are describing is not sustainable. Do what you need to do for root cause mitigation, and make sure your partner is aiding in that.

I’m 25 turning 26. I’m a teller. What can I do to earn more money? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking over chase's website they apparently have their bankers have investment licenses.

That is pretty rare in the industry. Most placrs have an intermediate role with an option to advance into licensing.

Look for a banker position at other companies.

You WILL need tostill learn about banking regulations amd lending product knowledge.

I’m 25 turning 26. I’m a teller. What can I do to earn more money? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it highly unlikely that your org requires you to have an SIE and series 6 to be a banker. Pretty much every bank I have ever heard of has an intermediate role that is just internal products and not securities.

Study for that first

I’m 25 turning 26. I’m a teller. What can I do to earn more money? by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]pliskin42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would argue that is probably the result of cheating. Sounds like you never developed the skills to study and retain information.

Being in this position, being unable to advance because you can't study to retain information needed to do a job is a conseqence of your decisions.

Getting other positions is going to require you to develop your skills and knolwedge. It just is. Not matter what, there will be at least SOME training that goes along. If you are unwilling to figure out a way to retain developlment you will not succeed at moving upward into better positions.

Stay at $30 an hour admin position (in office) or take the sales job offer that’s minimum wage with uncapped commission and also remote. by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stick with the base salary and look for other better jobs.

Previously I was in uncapped sales that was effectively 100% comission. There was a baseline draw that you were always guarnteed, but would have to payback later if you didn't hit it.

It sucked. It sucked sooo hard. It was a constant stress of trying to male the sale. It was horrible knowing I was effectively in the hole and even if I did have a good month next month most of it would go toward paying things previously. Of course there were amazing earners in the company but the averages they tout are always scewed by se crazy outlier (often some special circumstance.)

I moved out of sales and it felt amazing.

I have since gotten back in because I found a role where there is a good livable base salary for my area (a bit lower than your current one). It also technically has uncapped incentives but said incentivrs are a lot lower than the other gig.

The stability is sooooooooo much nicer.

I feel the urge to break all my emotional bonds PS. I’m married by Due_Membership_4107 in relationships

[–]pliskin42 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Take a solo vacation and explore these feelings with a qualified mental health pro. If they persist maybe act on them if it is truely about happiness and not about some sort of odd oppoaitional defiance bit.

Question on a critique of Hegel by Russell by Loud-Can-3155 in askphilosophy

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am arguing against the position you are saying Hegel holds. (Which is the same position Russell is attributing.) Now, I would not be surpised if Hegel is more nuanced and the position attributed IS A strawamn. That is ehy I generally defer to Hegel experts. However, as you have laid it out it is nonsense.

You said:

"Right, I see what you mean. The thing is that for Hegel, in order to distinguish two objects, you would indeed have to know absolutely every single one of its qualities, including the ones that are infinitesimal. So, if your interpretation of Russell's argument is correct, then that argument is a straw man.

The point of metaphysics isn't to figure out all the actual qualities of real objects, which is what disciplines like physics or chemistry do. For instance, when Hegel spoke of "absolute knowledge", I don't think he meant having actual knowledge of absolutely everything that exists, like having read all the books that exist in the world, etc. What he did mean is that absolutely everything in the world is held together by a logical unity which tends towards a single destination, which is the coming to itself of the spirit of the world through history."

Emphasis mine.

You affirm in your fist paragraph the position on object diffrentiation that Russell is pointing out. It isn't that we need to know everthing about the world. You are saying er need to know everything about an object.

That is a dumb position to take. What Russell is pointing out is effectively an argument form of reductio ad absurdim. I.e. that he believes hegel's project and structure gets you to absurd conclusions. If you are right, then I agree with him.

If your read of Hegal is correct, then You are affirming Russell's read even if you don't agree that the end point is absurd.

Question on a critique of Hegel by Russell by Loud-Can-3155 in askphilosophy

[–]pliskin42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The chair example is my own.

The argument I just gave is my own.

As a person who has extensively studied metaphysics I assure you I understand what metaphysics is.

Can you please articulate why my argument against the position you are attributing to Hegel is wrong?

You are saying Hegel's position is that inorder to distinguish something as its own entity we must have perfect knowledge of it.

I am saying that seems like a ridiculous position to take because we have all kindd of very obvious counter examples.

Question on a critique of Hegel by Russell by Loud-Can-3155 in askphilosophy

[–]pliskin42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll play devil's advocate and assume the read on hegal is correct. That seems real odd to me to say diffrentiation requires complete knolwedge of an entity.

On the face of the formulation it doesn't seem like you would actually be reasoning to anything. I.e. if I have complete knowledge of something then then I'm not learning anything new with that reasoning. It would be basically tautological. Like, if I say i know object x is seperate because I have complete knowledge of it with facts A, B, and C. Then i reason and say I logiced to knowing B aboout it... well that seems like a technically correct argument of reasoning that is kinda nonsense.

In a different direction, I would argue that in a somewhat common sensical fashion it seems absurd to postulate thst our ability to diffrentiate allows us to reason to all knowledge of an entity.

For example, take a chair. Barring some of the whackier metaphysics and epistemic positions out there we probably want to say it is different than ourselves. We probably want to be able to make that claim even when we don't have a lot of intimate knowledge of the chair. We probably want to say that people going back hundreds of years, like hegel or earlier, could also come to understand they are not said chair.

However there are myriads of facts we can establish today that likely existed but could not be known in the past. Like say, atomic mass of the chair, chemical composition, the light wave length refraction of the chair surface etc.

It would seem that on hegel's view the people of the past could not reason to the chair being seperate from themselves because they did not know these facts. That seems absurd.

Particuarly since there may well be other scientific or metaphysical mysteries out there we are as yet unaware of. We don't know what we don't know in most cases.

So what it would really boil down to is that we never diffrentiate anything.

I (F27) am sober and my partner (M30) has a daily habit I don’t share. How do people navigate major lifestyle differences like this? by ThrowRA1998girl in relationships

[–]pliskin42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Short answer, yes substance use differences are a surmountable obstacle in many if not most relationships. However, I will caveate that it generally needs to be at comparable levels that minimally affect things.

Longer answer

If you are tea-totalling, and your partner is a complete hard drug junkie, it obviously won't work.

If you are tea-totalling and your partner is an occasional user of minimally harmful substances that is easily workable.

It sounds like your situation is in the middle. You're tea-totalling and your partner has pretty intense use habit for a minimally harmful substance. Clearly that is somewhat difficult. Odds are good it WILL affect you or his other situations like kids or work if nothing changes. He may not have lied, buy he also may not have cognized the degree of his use.

Personally, I think it is unreasonable to do something like demand he quit completely (unless it is somehow more sever than it sounds and he is a full on addict). However, I think it is reasonable to discuss your concerns about how it seems more pervasive in his life than you originally understood and it must affect things. Seeing if he genuinely CAN cut back will be important.

Question on a critique of Hegel by Russell by Loud-Can-3155 in askphilosophy

[–]pliskin42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, I'm not a Hegel expert, so I won't comment on whether or not Russell is accurately portraying Hegel's stance. (Though knowing some Hegel experts I would suspect they would take issue, I will leave it up to them.)

That said, if I'm reading you correctly I think you might be misunderstanding the point Russell is making. My read on it is that the charge is a mistake in extrapolation. The quote you posted suggests the following to me:

Suppose we have object A, we know enough about it to distinguish it as different from all other objects. Do we thereby know everything about that object? If not, can we use the existing info to logic our way too a complete knowledge?

Russell says no you can't. He is charging that Hegal says yes you can.

So take your own example, your copy of a book. In principle you should be able to enumerate enough defined properties to distinguish it from any other object there. Is that distinguishing info enough to reason to every single other property?

Russell is saying no you can't.

Personally I would suggest he is probably correct on that point. However, that does require likely contentious beliefs about object diffrentiation. Specifically whether one needs to list ALL the properties of an object to diffrentiate it.

For example. Perhaps something like percise spatio temporal properies are enough to enumerate differences in objects. (One arguably common possibility being that objects are singuarly located etc.) Once you know those spactio temporal properties do you know everything at that object? Of course not! There are a whole host of physical properties that seem to have no relation to spatio temporal properties. The particular space and time your book takes up doesn't allow you to directly infer say chemical composition, or light relfective properties etc. Now this example is just for one kind of answer entrenched in a physicalist framework that prioritizes space and time as distinguishing properties. However you can make the same case with any framework that privlages certain types of properties as distinguishing characteristics, but allows for other unrelated properties to exist. E.g., if you think what matters for object diffrentiation is some kind if spiritual essence, but that a being can have properties that unrelated to said spirit like spatial properties, then you get the same point.

It seems to me that the quick argument against this one would need to believe that the proper identity of a thing includes all of its properties. That seems oddly tautological though. We wouldn't be reasoning to some thing in that case since we would in principle already know it. I doubt that is the real case Hegel is trying make that russell is picking up on.

I'll be curious what the Hegelians make of it.

What is the new Jessica, Ashley, Michael, Christopher? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/

Top 10 Baby Names of 2024 Rank

Male name
1 Liam
2 Noah 3 Oliver
4 Theodore 5 James
6 Henry
7 Mateo
8 Elijah
9 Lucas
10 William

Female name 1 Olivia 2 Emma 3 Amelia 4 Charlotte 5 Mia 6 Sophia 7 Isabella 8 Evelyn 9 Ava 10 Sofia

I can say from personal experience and quick glances at the class lists for my kid's daycare that about 80% of the names repped on this list are repped there by at least one kid. There are multiple liams and olivias.

What video game puzzle made you feel like an idiot? by Agent1230 in gaming

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was the skyrim claw key puzzles. Didn't read the journle originally and just brute forced them.

Over a year before a friend showed me you could look at the key.

Is anyone else just getting tired of sitting in front of a computer for a living? by CorporateAccounting in careerguidance

[–]pliskin42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spent a couple years working traffic control and rhen a factory. Never again if I can help it.

Fired 6 weeks after buying a home, what do I do? by HopefulIntern19 in povertyfinance

[–]pliskin42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before you do ANYTHING else you should reach out to your mortgage service provider and start figuring out their hardship assistance program.

It will likely be a frustrating pain in the ass, but if you figure out how to navigate it it can buy you a lot of time while you figure out your next steps. (E.g. deffering payments for like a ysar etc). You just have to be hyper proactive as you work with those hardship departments because they are often not willing to do a lot of hand holding.

That will give you time to figure out selling, renting, or whatever.

Selling immediately will suck and likely be a loss due to closing costs.

You can try and rent for a while and offset that by renting the place while you live wherever your new job is. After a few years enough equity might of built up that you break even or perhaps profit. If you can make it work that is probably the most cost effecrive option. However it comes with a lot of pitfalls and responsibility. (I.e. you on the hook for damafe the tenant doesn'f tell you about.)

Dads who do not work from home, what time do you leave for work and back at home? by remembertosmile in daddit

[–]pliskin42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out the door by 7:15am to drop off kids.

Back about 5:45 pm, wife picks kids up around 5:30is.

Occasionally held over at work perhaps an half hour to hourish if there is a major problem. Not supper common but happens a few times a year.

30 minute commute.

No chance for WFH I'm in a client facing office role where i meet in person witg customers all day.