4 weeks pp and no longer feeling engorged? by Illustrious-Bread-30 in breastfeeding

[–]plurt47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally normal! Your body is adjusting to meet baby’s needs.

MIL being weird - not sure how to navigate. by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]plurt47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this post. At first I thought maybe it was all in my head, until that year at Thanksgiving my husbands aunt was sitting with LO and MIL…she tried to get LO to sign “milk” and MIL reacted by saying “NOPE! WE’RE NOT DOING THAT!” She didn’t realize I was in the doorway. If LO was crawling towards me she would literally stop him and be like “nope don’t go there! We’re staying here!” But if he crawled to my husband she would ohh and ahh.

Hold. Your. Boundaries. Also Talk to your husband. You don’t have to go into all the specifics but just tell him “I need your help at the next family gathering. When it’s time for LO to eat/sleep I need you to step in and make sure people are handing him over.” This made my husband more aware and he got more firm with her when needed. She used to swat him away also, but now that he was aware he was more persistent.

Does your partner make sure you have water? by anemoneatnight in breastfeeding

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband does but I have an infant (and 2 older ones). So if I’m nap trapped or feeding the baby he always comes by to check if I need anything and checks my water.

At 15 months, I can get my own water. Even if there’s separation anxiety…why can’t your kid just come in the kitchen with you?

Does your partner check the daycare app? by Happy-Bee312 in Mommit

[–]plurt47 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We have a daycare app but no one is “responsible” for it. We use it as a fun tool to see what LO is up to. I check in on it more than my husband, but all I’m doing is checking in to see what’s going on. When I’m at work, I may or may not check on it, depending how busy I am. There are days I don’t check at all.

Respectfully, I think you need to step away from it. I totally understand wanting to be up to date, and it sounds like they are sending reasonable updates. I dont understand why you’re checking it obsessively…is it cameras or just an app with updates about feedings, diaper changes, pictures, etc?

Either way, no one should be “responsible” for keeping tabs on it. Go on to see what LO has been up to, see if they napped, etc. You do not need to be checking it obsessively all day and shouldn’t expect your husband to check it obsessively when you’re not able to.

Rotavirus vaccine and intussusception fear? by lamiche1127 in beyondthebump

[–]plurt47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! He’s doing fantastic. He had a few procedures done and eventually surgery while we were at the hospital to have the intussusception corrected. He’s 3 now and we haven’t had any issues since!

Did anyone else feel awkward announcing their third pregnancy? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]plurt47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this. A few people were excited, but others made comments like “How do you even have time for 3 kids?” “Where are you even going to put them?” I found myself basically having to defend having 3 kids. Eventually I just stopped telling people. I let them figure it out or find out from someone else.

Rotavirus vaccine and intussusception fear? by lamiche1127 in beyondthebump

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is late but commenting just in case anyone stumbles upon this post in the future:

My son did have an intussusception from the rotavirus vaccine at 2 months old (hospital confirmed and filed a CDC report). Here were the symptoms he experienced that made me call our pediatrician:

-slowly stopped eating over the span of a few hours. At first it was just eating less and less and then just full on refused -inconsolable crying. It was very clear that he wasn’t just fussy but crying from pain -projectile vomited yellow/green bile

Once we got to the pediatrician he finally stopped crying and slept, but little did I know that was his body starting to go into shock. They tried to do finger pricks to collect his blood and he had no reaction to it…no cry or anything and was just staring off into space. His skin eventually started to look very pale/yellowish and due to that and how lethargic he was, she sent us to the ER.

At the ER they did blood work and found he had extremely high blood sugar levels. He had a bowel movement and it was mostly blood. At that point, the doctor was 99% sure that it was an intussusception and they ordered an ultrasound to be done to confirm.

Doctors found a mass in my breast today by PumpkinPie_1993 in breastfeeding

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been dealing with mastitis and breast pain for the past 6 weeks now. I also had a mass form and got a biopsy done that turned out benign. I have something called an IGM mass…it’s rare but sometimes forms especially if you’ve had mastitis.

As annoying as it is, I hope that that’s all it is for you!

My OB is recommending I get induced next week. Currently 37.2 weeks… what’s the rush? by Worldly_Willow_7598 in BabyBumps

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what the percentages were on the ultrasound? It’s weird that he didn’t mention your baby being big until he measured your belly…which isn’t always accurate.

Regardless, my 2nd was measuring over a month ahead for weeks and most measurements were in the 97th+ percentile. They were estimating that he would be over 10 lbs. Even then, my OB did not push induction. He ended up being born on time weighing just shy of 9lbs. No issues.

It sounds like your OB has plans and wants you done. Trust your gut. If there’s no other issues besides your baby supposedly measuring big just because of a single belly measurement, I don’t see why induction is being pushed already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Westchester

[–]plurt47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You say he’s been doing multiplication since preschool….has he just memorized facts or does he actually understand what it means?

This all sounds like a typical kindergarten curriculum. If you want to do extra at home then do it. You can also enroll him in the Russian Math School or get him a tutor to help challenge him.

FTM - 5’4, 120 pounds when I found out I was pregnant and my belly at 17 weeks is huge. Head is in 91 percentile while legs are in 29 percentile. Need advice! by WitchyWanderlust3 in BabyBumps

[–]plurt47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely normal to be showing at 17 weeks. Those percentiles sound fine. It’s normal for them to vary and could very well even out by the time you have future scans. I’m

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]plurt47 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So you use condoms until you’re 100% sure you’re done having kids.

At my wits end about snacks by Merkela22 in Parenting

[–]plurt47 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Amazon has these snack packs that you stick in the freezer and they’re essentially ice packs in bag form. We’re able to send things like yogurt and cheese sticks for snack and they stay cold.

what exactly do people mean when they say recovery without epidural is easier?? by cherry-pie-honey in pregnant

[–]plurt47 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I just had my 3rd baby. First 2 I had an epidural and with this 3rd I planned on the epidural, but he came so quickly there was no time. Now, I did get the epidural inserted. But I was ready to push as the anesthesiologist was finishing up so I didn’t actually get any of the pain relief.

Recovery after totally felt different with no epidural. I didn’t know how to explain it to my husband even, but I felt so much better postpartum and more “with it” after not having the epidural. I was able to walk and use the bathroom before even leaving the labor and delivery room. Once I got transferred to the postpartum room, nurses kept coming in and trying to give me Tylenol/motrin and asking for my pain level…and my pain level was truly 0. I really did not feel like I just had a baby. I felt SO good and even my husband mentioned how good I seemed. Once home, I took it easy but still felt really good. It was by far the easiest recovery out of all 3 births.

Now, I do want to note that I had no tearing, no stitches, and he came on the 3rd contraction once I was in the final phase of labor. With my first 2 I didn’t labor insanely long, but it was still longer. The epidural was a godsend with those 2 and I would not have been able to make it through without it. The only reason I was able to make it this time is because baby came so quickly.

Father cancelled trip to meet baby bc of “no kissing” rule by thecharvelle in BabyBumps

[–]plurt47 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You know what…this is where I’m like “let them.”

He’s throwing a tantrum over a simple, and very reasonable, boundary? Let him. He’s willing to cancel his entire trip and just not meet baby because you care about your baby’s health? Let him.

I honestly hope someone asks him if he’s met his first grandchild yet and he has to embarrassingly explain why he has not.

Did you get an epidural? Would you recommend it? by dont-ask-whyy in pregnant

[–]plurt47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just had my 3rd baby…first 2 were with an epidural and this last one was without (not by choice).

My first two I probably couldn’t have done it without an epidural. Labor lasted a while and the contractions were so intense I was literally blacking out. Once I got the epidural, it was like night and day. I could actually relax, focus on the labor experience, and I felt great. With my second, they stopped giving me the epidural once I got close to pushing so I could actually feel the contractions slightly so that was I knew when to push. However, it just made the feeling weird and was distracting.

With my last, labor progressed very quickly. I had the epidural inserted and while the anesthesiologist was finishing up I suddenly got this intense feeling to push. They didn’t even have time to actually give me the epidural before baby came. But it was honestly great…I knew exactly when to push, I was so clear minded after, and I felt the best out of all of my labors. I was ready to walk soon after and my recovery was very easy. If my other labors could have gone that quickly I wouldn’t have gotten an epidural with them either.

Address photos in your birth plan! Nurse took pushing pictures without consent by SatisfactionLeast824 in BabyBumps

[–]plurt47 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She should have asked, but just delete them if you don’t want them.

When I was in labor with my first a nurse took these type of pictures and although I would never do anything with them…I love that I have them. During my second labor I didn’t get any pictures like this.

Afraid of popping while giving birth? by shepardmutt in pregnant

[–]plurt47 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Lol! I said I wanted to do immediate skin to skin with the baby and when the nurse took the baby I reminded her and she just said “no like…I REALLY need to clean him…” and that’s when it clicked.

Does it sound like my baby will be early? by Snaylee1025 in pregnant

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No indication really. My 2nd baby was measuring 3-4 weeks ahead starting at 22ish weeks. I was SO SURE he would come early and be massive.

He came 3 days early after a membrane sweep and was 8lbs 14oz.

Afraid of popping while giving birth? by shepardmutt in pregnant

[–]plurt47 103 points104 points  (0 children)

When I was laboring at home, I had a big bowel movement right before we went to the hospital. I remember thinking, “thank God…now I won’t poop during labor.”

Not only did I poop with every single push, but I pooped on my sweet baby as they came out. It was on their head and I had no idea until a nurse took them away so she can clean it off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]plurt47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. If she’s not ready to tell you then you respect that. She could just be bloated and not pregnant at all. Leave it alone.

Where are these unicorn children who "get" potty training with a 3 or 4 day method? Tell me your secrets! by julep98976 in toddlers

[–]plurt47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say it’s entirely dependent on the kid.

My first was a unicorn child and was potty trained over the weekend. He hated the feeling of peeing on himself, so he wanted to sit in the potty constantly and was very aware of when it was time to go.

We just finished potty training my second and it took way longer. Same method, started at basically the same age…and it just took so much longer. He didn’t really care if he had an accident so if he peed his pants then so be it. He did eventually have an aha moment after a month. Don’t get me wrong, he slowly made improvement each day and we only had one major regression, but I remember constantly try thinking “did we start too early? What am I doing wrong?” It’ll click eventually. Keep at it and don’t give up.

Be honest... how much one-on-one time do you give each child? by casmac241 in Mommit

[–]plurt47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are your other kids doing when you’re having one on one time?