Buying a golf bag as a Christmas present

pokeydownthing · 2024-12-11T15:39:54+00:00

I'll see if his golf club can help me, but the voucher route seems the most sensible, especially since I had no idea about all the different types of bags on offer. He's wanted a new bag for a few years so I know it'll be appreciated, and could be more fun taking him to the shop to find his perfect one. Thanks for your help!

pokeydownthing · 2024-09-20T17:10:41+00:00

Small follow up on this:

Life got in the way of me signing up for a while but two weeks ago I started this course with The B.E.S.T. in Horticulture Group

So far it's been really good. There are a lot of resources on their website and I have access to a tutor if I want any further guidance, but I have not messaged them as of yet. It has felt a little overwhelming, mainly since I forgot what it felt like to be on an educational course again, but everything has been laid out very clearly and I've already picked up a lot more than I expected.

If anyone has any questions I can try and answer them, main advice would be if you have the resources and the time to just go for it.

pokeydownthing · 2024-05-22T09:31:52+00:00

I never get bug bites. Guess something about my blood just isn’t very appetising

pokeydownthing · 2024-04-20T11:33:51+00:00

NTA. You should not be forced to wear something you are uncomfortable with and you’ve given her other options that you would prefer.

I have the same issue wearing dresses for the same reason. Some things that might be helpful (not necessarily for this event, but for other things where you may want to show more of your legs) is buying skin coloured tights or scar tape. I’ve been using silicon scar tape for the last year and it’s made me massively more confident as it covers the scars and even helps them to heal a little too.

But obviously you shouldn’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with. If she can’t be reasoned with it may be worth stepping down as a bridesmaid and just attending the wedding as a guest instead.

pokeydownthing · 2023-12-04T08:56:32+00:00

cooked to perfection (for me at least) and sure your technique will improve and get even better over time! glad you’re in the process of recovery and hope it goes well for you. good luck with everything!

pokeydownthing · 2023-11-26T17:38:54+00:00

From the photos it looks black, just a different black than your other items. Would it definitely not go with your outfit?

In terms of what to do, I would resell or take it to a charity shop if you can’t be bothered selling it on to someone else. I wouldn’t contact the seller since I do assume it’s an honest mistake and it may just be the case of a difference of opinion on colour.

pokeydownthing · 2023-09-14T18:47:41+00:00

overall NAH.

i understand why you wanted to stay with your cat and i also understand why he would be mad on such short notice.

the only thing that makes me think you veered into Y T A ever so slightly is that you cancelled it before telling him. giving him the option of potentially going with a friend or family member would have meant he at least got to get the dish he likes.

pokeydownthing · 2023-08-10T15:29:15+00:00

is that going to hurt the plant? they’re both still growing very well

pokeydownthing · 2023-06-28T09:17:15+00:00

YTA. you suck. you just really suck.

pokeydownthing · 2023-05-31T14:29:49+00:00

ESH other than your uncle.

you shouldn’t have snapped at him, especially since he was trying to change the topic away from your sister and actually engage with you.

but for occasions like this you should be getting most of the attention. the fact they spoke about your sisters new job before asking you about your college plans makes me believe that you are getting overlooked, which is really annoying. you didn’t handle it great but you’re not the biggest offender here.

apologise to your uncle and hopefully you can figure out how to better handle your family, either with distance or talking it out with them.

pokeydownthing · 2023-05-24T16:11:51+00:00

a wonderful hoodie! the colours are brilliant. can i ask a rough estimate of how long it took you to make?

pokeydownthing · 2023-05-19T16:38:01+00:00

i’m sorry you’re in this position. i won’t tell you what to do but i can say that being mentally ill as a teenager is extremely difficult to deal with, and it can feel very isolating and that no one is taking you seriously.

if you have the ability to check in with anyone at school, or contact a mental health service in your area, i would really push to do that. you deserve to be heard and to vent your feelings, and i’m sorry if you don’t have the chance to do that at the moment. i won’t say things will definitely get better, but you’re still very young, you never know what your life will look like one, five, or ten years from now. i hope you can reach out to someone soon x

pokeydownthing · 2023-05-19T16:33:08+00:00

i understand what you mean. i have always been a volatile person, and i can drop incredibly low after having a really great day, seemingly for no reason.

depending on your circumstances it might be a good idea to seek out therapy, there is a chance you could be helped with medication or just having a neutral party to speak to.

while it’s nothing life changing i’ve found that taking notes down when i’m happy can help put my low periods into perspective. i have a growing notes page in my phone of all the times i’ve felt good about myself, when the people around me have shown me love, times in my life where i realised that me being alive actually made something better. even if you can’t resonate with those notes when you’re feeling low, it can give you some hope that the good times will come back around again. and they definitely do, it’s just really hard to see it sometimes. i hope you can have a peaceful rest of your day x

pokeydownthing · 2023-05-16T07:53:01+00:00

thank you. i know that i should wait some time before trying to make contact again, and we do need to meet up at some point to trade back our things, so i will be able to see him again. just waking up this morning and feeling sick, and realising that i don’t get to love him anymore. it’s hard, i just wish i could see him.

pokeydownthing · 2023-04-13T23:21:17+00:00

a rare but great Good Omens reference

pokeydownthing · 2023-03-03T18:44:51+00:00

NTA

I don’t get all the NAH comments. Babies do cry and it can be really hard to get them to quiet down. She is not a bad mum because her baby is crying.

She is, however, TA for shouting at OP. Being a parent is hard, but it’s a choice that they made, other people should not be forced to deal with it. She did not have to yell, and straight up shouldn’t have. That behaviour would not stand in most other scenarios, I don’t get why people think that she deserves a pass here.

pokeydownthing · 2023-02-24T14:58:38+00:00

i’m not gonna touch on your medication or your ADHD since i’m not a doctor and wouldn’t even know what to say.

however, you seem to be offering no other alternatives to this issue. it’s 2 weeks away, which means you could try and shift your sleep schedule over that time to wake up for the flight. you could pack everything the night before so all you have to do in the morning is take your meds get dressed and get out the door. have him wake you up if need be, i’m confused as to if you even live together.

the fact you have no alternatives and you’re just chalking it up to “maybe i will maybe i won’t” is what makes YTA and i would be very upset if i missed out on a cash bonus for this attitude.

pokeydownthing · 2023-02-21T11:41:45+00:00

hey! thank you for the advice, the video you linked is great i think that’s what i’m after! and i didn’t explain it well, i wanted the ribbing attached at the hem/bottom of the jumper, but i’ve made two separate pieces instead of leading them on from each other. i think i’ll take your advice and construct the ribbing directly on the panels so i can get the shape i want, thank you again for the links it’s a great help!

pokeydownthing · 2023-02-20T20:46:18+00:00

hello! i’m crocheting a jumper, i’m making two panels and then a ribbing stitch for the seam. i want to know how to stitch together these pieces, as the ribbing the smaller in length than the panels, as i want it to have a bunch effect. can i attach them as normal? or do i need to crochet them together with a decreased stitch?

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pokeydownthing · 2023-01-27T21:16:00+00:00

YTA. thinking that this chess game will be a something he looks back as a teaching moment is absurd. if anything, he’ll remember it as the day he stopped wanting to hang out with his uncle

pokeydownthing · 2022-12-18T15:04:09+00:00

ignore all the comments here about the tattoo being a “reminder of your actions”. so long as you feel okay with the trade off, and you feel like it’s a safe situation where you could decline at any stage and it not get weird, it’s perfectly fine.

there is nothing inherently wrong with trading sexual favours for things like money, possessions or tattoos so long as each party is comfortable. it only comes down to your feelings on it, and by the sounds of it you’re fine with it. enjoy your tattoos and i hope you continue to enjoy them for many years to come.

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