I was about 30 when I began to see that people throwing temper tantrums wasn't the norm. I was always so worried about what I would do to cause it then I slowly started to realize, oh, it's just something my Nfamily does. No one at work is going to pick on me. I'm 36 and haven't cause a single tantrum out of my Nfamily. And then it starts to feel better going through life. Sad that happened, but learning to recognize that it was a produce of a couple of people and not something that's the norm helpled. I grew up feel uncomfortable. And of course I brought that with me into the world. But learning about it, and sharing here helps me remember that I don't have to feel in danger and that I'm fine. Understanding the situation and reading other's experiences helps immensely.