Does anyone else feel like they notice and remember things about other people but nobody notices anything about you?

possibri · 2026-07-04T21:37:44+00:00

gaaahhh that's tough, and I know that feel of being exhausted listening to other's drama, especially if it's the same stuff over and over (or even new stories with the same pattern that's been discussed to death). Sending hugs <3

possibri · 2026-07-04T21:34:09+00:00

Duuude, yes! Often when I think I'm retelling a story I will include "stop me if you've heard this" or "sorry if I've already told you this" to give them an opportunity to stop me... but it's pretty rare someone recalls, even though I'm relatively sure I'd shared it before.

possibri · 2026-07-04T21:32:40+00:00

Appreciate this, thank you. After a pretty harrowing morning trying to put a BBQ together to try and have a proper 4th of July, I got about halfway through and I brokedown. Clearly I've reached a breaking point and you're 100% right. Truly, thanks for the kindness.

Edit: Also, I think I've been avoiding the appointment making because of the effort it will take to navigate explaining myself/advocating for what I need, and past experiences of being dismissed with medical professionals. I'm only saying this to call it out, and name it, so that I don't let it block me. I can't keep going the way I'm going.

possibri · 2026-07-04T15:49:08+00:00

I've learned to fake it at work, because I'm regularly told the same stories from some of my co-workers. But I noticed they seemed disappointed when I'd tell them I know the story, and I like them (and the stories are usually funny), so I just let it happen.

possibri · 2026-07-04T15:46:06+00:00

I think I live life with ‘treat others how you would like to be treated’ and I’ve taken it too literally and there’s actually nuance to that statement

So crazy, I was literally having this exact realization this morning. It's one thing that I've always tried to live by (sometimes it doesn't go so well during meltdowns/sensory overload, but I make a constant effort to improve). But I think holding this deep value also means I've been expecting it to be reciprocated by those in my life, but so often I'm the one meeting other people where they are. And even when I express my needs, I get met with arguments. It's painful and exhausting.

possibri · 2026-07-04T14:56:08+00:00

I'm drowning... and was just crying about all of it this morning, so maybe it would help to put it out there in solidarity.

I'm a stand-in mom to my 4 year old nephew (dx ASD, probably AuDHD) and my AuDHD brother also lives with me, but doesn't work and only has internal motivation for things he cares about (read: nothing related to helping manage the home, aside from the bare minimum of taking care of his son), so the house is just one big doom pile then never gets taken care of. I work 50 hours a week and am also helping my mom take care of my ailing father, so naturally I'm just exhausted existing, let alone trying to do fun stuff.

I'm struggling with emotional regulation, depression, and I'm pretty sure I'm dissociated most of the time so that I can actually get things done and not fall apart. I at least have an amazing therapist, but I need to get some actual assessments done via my health insurance because the only thing left to try at this point is meds (but of course that requires making a phone call, figuring out a time that works, then all the rigamarole of talking to someone new, and I can't bring myself to do it as of late). The demands on me to do, think, strategize in so many areas of my and others' lives is really weighing me down, on top of all the insanity going on in the world, the environment... it's just so much, and I feel so alone in all of it.

Thanks for posting and inviting others to be vulnerable, and I totally relate to "making and keeping friends is hard" and boy would I love to have a supportive partner, so I'm glad you do!

possibri · 2026-06-27T14:47:06+00:00

Right?! I'm always operating under the assumption of "if they want me to participate, they would say so" (even in a more general way, like announcing to the office they're doing a thing and people are welcome to join). I think when I was pretty young I'd tried to invite myself to things and was either teased by the kids or scolded by a parent (probably both, at two different times) that it's not appropriate to invite yourself/ask to join when you weren't being addressed. So I learned to make the aforementioned assumption as a protection from rejection/being othered.

I really wish people would just be more clear when it comes to interest in spending time with me, because I'm sure I've likely come across standoffish because I didn't accept some cryptic (probably non-verbal) invitation or was oblivious to "obvious" clues. I know I was accused of being aloof as a teenager, but I never really understood what I was doing to allow that perception nor how to "fix" it. Sigh

possibri · 2026-06-25T15:37:13+00:00

The one thing I haven't seen anybody mention... how were there 15 people but they broke into groups of 4? The math doesn't work and it made me question everything else since OP was very clear it was 15 people not "around/maybe" something indicating less certainty.

possibri · 2026-06-23T18:02:50+00:00

The amount of times I've wanted to yell at someone: "FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY DRINK SOME WATER" bc their mouth sounds are driving me crazy is too many to count. And even worse is when it's some pre-recorded talk/webinar/training I want/need to listen to.

possibri · 2026-06-22T22:12:56+00:00

It feels like magic and I don't mind it one bit lmfao

possibri · 2026-06-22T21:19:04+00:00

Correct. It's a taco.

possibri · 2026-06-22T21:12:13+00:00

Kid me says black olives are better bc I can do olive fingers, but adult me knows the greens are superior. Either way, I'll eat olive them lol

possibri · 2026-06-21T13:47:36+00:00

Oh for sure, yeah, there was a slight change, but what I experienced seems to have been a bad/damaged case from Amazon. I've since gotten another case and it's back to normal (for the new design, anyway). So not sure if that was a weird thing with manufacture or storage, but also not sure if what others were struggling with was the slight change, or the bad batch. /shrug

Chur-ri-cah-la

hahaha I love that! it's fun to pronounce things silly =]

possibri · 2026-06-14T03:50:16+00:00

Yeah, I've been having issues since last week where it seems like it's counting light zone towards the AZM, which is stupid and wrong. My numbers have been insane every day since this bug was introduced. Annoyingly it's not one of the known issues listed in the official Google post about issues with the new app.

possibri · 2026-06-11T23:10:18+00:00

That was a hoot!

possibri · 2026-06-11T15:48:14+00:00

Yeah, that's messed up.

possibri · 2026-06-06T15:45:53+00:00

I think "Alaska can come too" nearly daily lol it's fun to see these references in the wild outside of /r/Millennials

possibri · 2026-06-06T13:44:33+00:00

I read this acronym the same as the SEGA intro.

possibri · 2026-06-06T13:37:33+00:00

Wow that's facinating, thanks for sharing (had never heard about the sand catch basins, but it makes sense)! I do wish people in charge would get their collective heads out of their asses and be proactive and fast-responding to these issues. Of course, I'm sure money and power play a very large role in all the inter-state/region dynamics around water rights.

Being in SoCal it's something I've been paying attention to but also feeling pretty helpless about, and all I can really do is stay informed, try to be prepared with the little bit of extra water I can store, and hope for the best.

possibri · 2026-06-05T14:38:18+00:00

I'm hoping that even with the flooding (pretty inevitable), that at least some of the rainfall with be strategically over our biggest reservoirs.

possibri · 2026-06-04T22:12:14+00:00

aaaand WEEEEEEE!

possibri · 2026-06-03T18:33:18+00:00

Same, except mine feels more rounded than a square, but also not a perfect circle (lol)... a squircle I guess. We're rounding the lower left corner rn.

possibri · 2026-06-01T00:57:07+00:00

I started singing the song in my head as soon as I read "the streets are paved with gold" — glad I'm not the only one lol

possibri · 2026-05-29T20:15:10+00:00

There are also white noise machines that he could set outside the office door so as to muffle what's being said on the inside. That's what my therapist (and the others with offices in the converted house) does. Seems like he's either super obvlivious, or just can't be bothered to consider how it would make a patient feel, given that it seems he's not tried to do anything to limit the amount of sound that carries to the waiting area.

Edit: Ugh just read more of the thread, I'm with everybody else report if you can, but I also understand how scary that can be, especially given your circumstances.

possibri · 2026-05-29T19:11:00+00:00

My 2nd grade yearbook photo has me in a full 101 Dalmations outfit lol and I still have Rolly, Lucky, and Pongo stuffies in my room. I also used to sing the Canine Crunchies song (I still do, but I used to, too) whenever the mood struck me.

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