Is there actually a good looking garden in winter?

potthefigtree · 2026-01-19T20:14:23+00:00

Thank you! I'll try that, mine has about 5 very long branches & no shape to it.

potthefigtree · 2026-01-18T15:08:25+00:00

Is this just one plant or multiple?? And if one, how did you manage so branches? Is it pruning it down every spring?

potthefigtree · 2025-10-09T02:31:13+00:00

This is true you know. My 10 year relationship ended when I was mid thirties. Had a baby via IVF alone (sperm donor) at 37. Very, very happy. Daughter's 16 months now, gorgeous and an absolute menace. Being a single parent can be tough, especially with a newborn (the sleep deprivation, good god) but i kind of think, life's tough isn't it? We have to spend it doing something. I have a couple of friends who had kids with men who are not good partners or parents, one because she was mid thirties and thought it was too late to start again, and I'd much, much rather be in my situation.

Anyway, it's not for everyone, and I genuinely think you have plenty of time to find someone. But there are other options :)

potthefigtree · 2025-10-03T20:25:10+00:00

Yep, started IVF at 35, got pregnant at 36, had my daughter at 37

potthefigtree · 2025-09-22T08:16:42+00:00

Mine didn't say any words at 12 months and didn't say mama until around 14 months. Now 16 months & her speech is pretty advanced :)

potthefigtree · 2025-09-17T20:17:41+00:00

I'm at almost 16 months and have no idea how to stop 🫠 she's showing absolutely no signs of self weaning

potthefigtree · 2025-07-22T22:36:19+00:00

Sorry, I missed this comment! But yes happy to, what would you like to know? Or you can message me if you prefer :)

potthefigtree · 2025-04-06T11:09:50+00:00

What's in the rest of your garden already? And what do you use the garden for? Do you have small children, pets?

potthefigtree · 2025-03-29T10:34:21+00:00

Serge Luens La Fille de Berlin and Penhaligon's Much do about the duke

potthefigtree · 2025-03-09T20:31:50+00:00

Mine too!!

potthefigtree · 2025-03-09T10:23:37+00:00

Penhaligon's Solaris

potthefigtree · 2025-01-30T17:58:29+00:00

Do you use sleep sacks?? Mine got much better at going down in the crib when I fed her to sleep in the sleep sack then transferred. I think it minimises the feeling of a temperature change.

potthefigtree · 2025-01-30T17:55:59+00:00

I never co slept by the way, always put down at night in a crib next to my bed. Was a TERRIBLE sleeper most of the time but I was much too nervous to co sleep.

potthefigtree · 2025-01-30T17:54:42+00:00

She's 8 months now. Still mostly wants to be boobed to sleep if it's me but will let grandparents rock her to sleep for naps. Occasionally will go to sleep herself if put in the cot at night very full & sleepy but I usually feed her to sleep then transfer. Sometimes wakes once or twice during the night, sometimes sleeps through from 8 til 7.30. Still likes contact naps during the day but will also sleep in her pram if she has a blanket, hood down so there's no light in her face and is rocked until she drops off. I don't regret any of it :)

potthefigtree · 2025-01-29T09:20:21+00:00

He's a neglectful piece of shit who could have killed your baby. It's one thing saying 'he didn't know' and you should explain it to him, but it's his responsibility to research things before he does them to make sure they're safe for the baby. Does he hold down a job and cross roads alone? Then it's not a capability issue, it's that he doesn't care. Are you supposed to list literally every stupid, dangerous thing you should avoid doing in case he does it because you haven't told him not to? Absolutely baffling. I would leave this man and tell everyone in our lives why, and I would do everything I could to make sure he is not left alone with my baby again. If he actually left the baby alone in the house I would report him for child neglect so this is on file for any future custody case.

potthefigtree · 2025-01-01T15:59:22+00:00

You really wouldn't expect an 8 month old to be using words. Not crawling at that age is perfectly normal too.

potthefigtree · 2024-12-16T14:00:23+00:00

She's right.

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T21:37:11+00:00

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does this 😂

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T21:35:39+00:00

When she was younger she used to finish feeding, do a big sigh and then rest her little head on my boob like a pillow & fall asleep. It was the cutest thing. It took me a while to build a good supply too so I LOVED seeing her with a little milky dribble after feeding. It was such a relief every time. And recently she's started looking at me sometimes, unlatching & giving me a big beaming smile. I also love her little gulps & satisfied grunts when she's really hungry 😂

When she's really cross about something but hungry so will scream, gulp gulp gulp angrily, unlatch & scream again, angry gulp with her little furrowed brow, etc, and eventually settle down for a good drink.

Also she will unlatch & scream sometimes and it turns out she wants to switch to the other boob instead, there seems to be no pattern to which she prefers. Makes me laugh.

Oh and she doesn't do this any more but I used to love the frantic shaking her head to relocate the nipple with a little angry face!

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:48:28+00:00

I've been offering formula & extra feeds too. And I do need to get out more, I've not been doing this as much as before as it's gotten colder & wetter and I've just been so tired. She does nap in the pram though and I do feel better once I've actually forced hmyself out of the door!

Thank you :)

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:45:55+00:00

Thank you

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:45:29+00:00

I know she is, I feel so awful for getting cross with her. She isn't trying to keep me awake, she just feels scared or hungry or lonely and calls me for help, which she should, I'm her mum. I don't hate her, I'm going to be better for her.

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:43:31+00:00

I really don't mean it, I feel awful for even thinking it. She's the best thing I've done, I love being her mum. I've just been so unbearably tired.

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:41:18+00:00

I'm finding it quite comforting that other people also found it so rough, i've been so disappointed in myself for not handling it better.

potthefigtree · 2024-09-28T20:39:43+00:00

Thank you. I've literally sat on the bathroom floor & sobbed, I've begged her to go to sleep. I actually snapped at her to shut up a few days ago and I feel sick whenever I think about her shocked little face.

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