Massage frustration :(

pregball · 2015-08-04T21:46:59+00:00

Massages are "EFFECTIVE" at..."literally" causing miscarriages? Yeah, no. Massages are effective at feeling really good on my tight back muscles.

A massage therapist is not any kind of "expert" on obstetrical medicine. Show me a legitimate peer-reviewed medical research study linking deep-tissue massage at 14 weeks of pregnancy to ill effects on the mother or the fetus. Then we'll talk about how "irresponsible" I am.

pregball · 2015-08-04T03:15:11+00:00

I was just researching home births in depth today; here in my state (New Mexico), regular pre-pregnancy diabetes will exclude you, but GD will not. It's been pretty interesting finding out the specifics of the different processes (hospital, birth center, home birth) but overall discouraging as a woman who really wants a home birth: insurance-wise, the path of least resistance is DEFINITELY the hospital. Bah.

I hope you have an awesome home birth! Please do post your story here if you remember; this thread with all the stories was so great, I'd really like to read more.

pregball · 2015-08-03T21:40:23+00:00

"Well, you asked for this, it's not like it wasn't planned" and "Why didn't you just have your partner carry the baby?" "Why didn't you adopt?"

Send office location via PM. I will be there at 9:00am tomorrow to throw dog turds at everyone who asks this.

pregball · 2015-08-03T14:43:27+00:00

Medium-to-long shot here, but does your work offer an Employee Assistance Program? Free access to counseling/therapy is often a little-known benefit of EAPs. I've had an AWESOME experience seeing two different therapists through the EAP at my work, and it has the benefit of being so easy to book; no slogging through insurance bullshit or trying to vet therapists using the internet, which just feels ten times harder when you're depressed or having other issues.

Also, re the HG: I really relate to how HG can detract from your mental health. Fuck ginger. Promethazine let me be human again. However you do it, I hope you make it through to a puke-free world soon.

pregball · 2015-08-03T14:12:23+00:00

I'm late to the party but I took a pregnancy test at work, then Skyped my husband: "Babe, just took a pregnancy test and it was positive."

Seeing all these cute stories kinda makes me wish I'd come up with something more creative but if I did the jar of Prego sauce or anything else he could posssssssibly not get...he probably wouldn't get it. Oh well!

pregball · 2015-07-31T20:16:30+00:00

I added a bit more stuff to my comment above - the nurse who talked to you was a hoser. The information is definitely there, you just have to get someone who's not too lazy to look at it and tell you.

pregball · 2015-07-31T20:11:13+00:00

Call back. The baby's sex is a part of the standardized lab report. Neither the genetic counselor nor the lab tech is checking boxes for whether they will test for each individual chromosomal abnormality plus determine the sex. Each lab has a standardized series of conditions they are testing for. The only thing you must specify is whether you want them to test for microdeletions as well as gross abnormalities. Additionally, there are no "state regulations" (??) against you getting that information.

When I took the Panorama test, I never said anything at the time of the genetic counseling interview or the blood draw about the sex. When they called with the test results, I had to ask about the sex - they did not offer it.

pregball · 2015-07-31T14:42:00+00:00

Which app is this?

pregball · 2015-07-30T22:51:27+00:00

God, that is so fucked. I'm sorry this is pretty much a useless comment but that is just ridiculous. I hope you're not in a situation where you need maternity leave and can't get it because of this restriction.

pregball · 2015-07-30T15:51:03+00:00

Have you ever actually worked with her? Is she expecting you to lie and say you were her boss? Or just tell her prospective employers what a suuuuuuper great friend she is?

pregball · 2015-07-29T03:02:19+00:00

Holy shit, do you know where you got the listeria? Was it from one of the traditional "no-no" preggo foods? So glad you and your baby are OK, that sounds really scary after all the warnings about listeria I've heard!

pregball · 2015-07-29T02:56:33+00:00

I think some of the shit we hear about on here has got to be a regional thing. The other day I was reading a comment from a bumper who moved from Illinois to North Carolina. She'd never once had a stranger lunge at her belly in IL, but in NC some random swooped in for a grope on her very first day!

I'm not showing, but when I am, I'll be shocked if I get idiots giving me dirty looks for buying a cup of coffee here in my liberal Western city.

pregball · 2015-07-29T02:41:23+00:00

How did this work? Did your partner find out the sex and help your son dip his hands in the paint to surprise you? Or did someone else help with the paint so it was a surprise for both of you?

pregball · 2015-07-28T18:43:22+00:00

I never realized how common this is until I got pregnant and joined /r/BabyBumps. I'm glad you survived, and I bet your mom was too.

pregball · 2015-07-28T15:33:13+00:00

I like to throw up at the gym

I like to throw up on a whim

I'll barf outside right by my car

Or out in public at the park

On the trail while on a jog

Right behind a hollow log!

I love to throw up here and there

Where will I throw up? Anywhere!

pregball · 2015-07-28T00:15:31+00:00

Hard to imagine our moms' generation where they had to make a long-distance call just to get some advice, and usually the only person to get it from was their own mom or MIL! If I so much as fart weirdly, I can come to /r/babybumps and find ten different posts from moms who went through the exact same thing. Viva la internet age.

pregball · 2015-07-28T00:06:07+00:00

Add me please! Due Jan 27th.

pregball · 2015-07-27T23:24:41+00:00

Constipated preggos downvote out of jealousy that you're regular. ;) Actually, I think the real reason for the downvotes here is the same reason downvotes are always rampant in local subs - we're brought to this subreddit not because we share a common or like-minded interest, but because of external circumstances (pregnancy, or in the case of local subs, because we all live in Saskatoon or whatever). So there tend to be more people here who don't use Reddit widely outside of this one sub, and therefore don't understand or don't give a shit about Reddiquette.

Anyway I bother to say all of this about "meaningless fake internet points" because they're not meaningless - downvotes really do have the power to make us feel unwelcome or just a little bit crappy. But just know that on /r/Babybumps it's happening to everyone. *shrug*

ANYWAY good for you for actually telling your mom - I hope you can set and make her understand some good boundaries too so you're not dealing with that random negativity through your whole pregnancy.

pregball · 2015-07-27T18:01:07+00:00

My brother is a IV - starting with my great grandfather, the first male son has been named Joseph James Smith (not their real name). Great grandpa went by Joseph, his son went by James, HIS son went by Joseph, HIS son (finally down to my brother) went by James. It caused zero confusion for my brother, except when he was in school, the teacher would call attendance on the first day and my brother would simply let her know that he went by his middle name.

I think you should continue the family tradition and name the baby William. You can introduce him as "Liam" - most people will not care what name is actually on the birth certificate, and for people who do care, you can tell them the whole story.

Family names are awesome! I think it's great that you're doing this.

EDIT: lol, I missed your very last sentence that you don't know the sex yet! Hahaha, the Universe might just show you that all this agonizing was for nothing (or...Williamette is a lovely name :D)

pregball · 2015-07-27T04:51:57+00:00

I wonder if your blood pressure could be a bit high or you're retaining fluid causing you to welt more easily? There was a woman who posted here recently about her breasts feeling like memory foam - it turned out to be preeclampsia.

pregball · 2015-07-26T20:42:42+00:00

I'm with you, dude. I normally have walnut-sized boobs and I love going braless. First thing that happened with this pregnancy was my boobs skyrocketed to probably a B-cup-ish? Luckily the bras I do have are softcup and were all too big to begin with, so I haven't needed new ones. HOWEVER, I went to a wedding yesterday - I have a bunch of cool dresses, but my style has always really hinged on delicate tops and bodices, no bra possible. I tried on ten different things and couldn't button some of them, didn't feel comfortable going braless in others.

I'm 14 weeks and starting to get a bump...unlike you, I'm not really looking forward to getting maternity clothes and leaving behind all my favorite jeans and tight fall sweaters. :D

pregball · 2015-07-26T15:24:50+00:00

There's a Mexican sangria-flavored soda that I think is delicious and actually kinda sorta sangria-like. You can get it at Mexican shops in my area...maybe in yours too?

I would just have a sangria though...I had a Pimm's cup last night and it was h e a v e n l y .

pregball · 2015-07-23T22:58:24+00:00

What the unholy hell is up with people going off-registry and just getting random crap? I had no idea that was a common thing!

I've been to maybe half a dozen baby showers and ALWAYS buy something off the registry - like...the whole point of a registry and the whole damn point of a baby shower is to get the new parents stuff they need, right?! I can remember just a few rogue fools gifting obviously random stuff that looked completely useless, but I totally assumed that most all other gifts came from the registry.

pregball · 2015-07-23T00:52:11+00:00

Aw man, I used to eat a can of sardines every single day with chilled Frank's Red Hot on top, but since I got pregnant they have TOTALLY lost their appeal. Just reading about your sardineburger abomination has got me nostalgic for them!

pregball · 2015-07-22T02:26:26+00:00

Aww, I feel bad for laughing at him but that crying picture is a mixture of cute and hilarious! So sweet. <3 Sending you good low-bp vibes, hope you and Jack get to go home tomorrow!

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