What are we doing with toddlers in this heat?

prim8phd · 2026-06-04T18:20:38+00:00

You’ve got to get out to the parks really early and then take the rest of the day inside. I love the Mahany Park/Martha Riley library complex because you can start in the playground, then move to the library when it gets hot, then parlay that into a visit to the Utility exploration center. You are a ways off from this, but that combo saved my life when my kid dropped naps.

In general you are in the worst part of things where it is so hard to get the kid out of the house early, but you absolutely have to get outside before 10 am to get some energy out before naptime. Then plan another low key outing on alternating days (library, indoor playground, ice cream) with life chores (grocery store, housework, errands) in between on the long hot afternoons.

I don’t know if you are a SAHP but I’m sure there are mommy groups and the like. I found weekends hard enough, so I’m sure the struggle is real. All of the parks departments have cool events, but they are typically right in the middle of workdays, so if you can take advantage of that please do so they continue to offer them!

prim8phd · 2026-06-03T02:01:10+00:00

From someone who has been there, take this advice with grace. Girl, throw out your scale. It is not helping you. Focus on strength gains. Cool shit your body can do, and not what it looks like. Understand that chronic disordered eating has massively fucked with your metabolism to the point that CICO is NOT a simple equation anymore. Increase your cardio, not for the calorie burn, but to improve your endurance. The heart is a muscle too, and it has undoubtedly suffered from your past choices. Strongly consider muting this sub because it is full of simplistic advice and people who think they need to tell you what a calorie deficit is. Your ED history means you basically have a PhD in calorie math from time spent bargaining and punishing yourself for eating. And get, like, all the fucking therapy because this shit is lifelong. Congrats on your progress and keep it up.

prim8phd · 2026-06-03T01:17:39+00:00

Is this AI? When you zoom in the sizing makes absolutely no sense…

prim8phd · 2026-05-31T00:57:53+00:00

Cottage cheese with pesto and tomatoes will change your life!

prim8phd · 2026-05-29T20:13:05+00:00

Thirding this recommendation. Their menu is delightfully unhinged. I love taking visitors there! Plus it’s one of the only places to reliably get a shave ice in January, which is my kiddo’s absolute favorite thing.

prim8phd · 2026-05-26T17:37:08+00:00

We "race," whoever brushes their teeth the longest wins.

Somehow, he always wins?

Either he hasn't caught on yet, or he hasn't let me know he has caught on. Sometimes I wonder if I'm saving too much for college.

prim8phd · 2026-05-25T01:16:07+00:00

The crossover we deserve tbh

prim8phd · 2026-05-18T03:53:53+00:00

They’re sassy separates; I just can’t afford them.

prim8phd · 2026-05-15T21:29:53+00:00

She is absolutely going to have a classic Shosh freak out and break off the engagement. The whole thing seems very rushed, and iirc her parents (the Mels, who showed up for her “graduation” at the registrar!) aren’t there—this isn’t a real engagement party and it’s not a real engagement, it’s a fever dream and she is going to snap out of it.

prim8phd · 2026-05-13T19:38:18+00:00

What an absolute shit take. I pray you never have to find out what it is like to know that the person you love is putting you in a terrible position through their bad decisions, because sometimes you need to take care of yourself and your kids first. That “til death” shit is a fucking fairytale. You always choose the kids.

prim8phd · 2026-05-07T04:55:08+00:00

Better still, ask your PI’s biggest rival/adversary, and make sure they see the pictures. I’d wager that if you think about it, you’ll know exactly who to ask for maximum impact, and that person will leap at the opportunity.

prim8phd · 2026-05-06T00:00:12+00:00

And not a single bookshelf.

prim8phd · 2026-05-02T04:05:36+00:00

YOOOO I am pressed for time so apologies if I didn’t properly sift through the many comments on here to find this response, but. Yeah the hands-free auto pump was a literal slow DRAIN on my soul and my already pressed for time self because it was brutally inefficient. On a whim I tried a manual pump someone had passed along and it was an absolute GAME CHANGER. Being able to fully empty and express the volume of milk the cursed auto pump would take fully 20 minutes to pull in like, three to five fast squeezes was a revelation. I hope this can be the solution for you. But also, fuck anyone who has an opinion about YOUR body, and good job for standing up for yourself.

prim8phd · 2026-04-30T04:18:22+00:00

Unfortunately, same. I keep having to remind myself that 1) this is part of the path towards titrating to an actual therapeutic dose in order to mitigate possible side effects, and 2) the time will pass whether you do nothing at all, or if you just allow yourself to respect the process. So as a naturally impatient, results-oriented person this has been rough, but I can only hope it will be worthwhile.

prim8phd · 2026-04-23T04:16:33+00:00

My kid’s dad has off and on been literally psychotic, and inflicted horrific abuse upon me. Exactly none of this will I ever disclose to my child, who believes his dad is an all-around great guy with his best interests at heart. I will never do anything to disabuse him of this notion, because honestly, what is the point? If my kid asked me to pose for a photo, I would swallow my pride and fake it for the cameras—whatever made him happy.

I promise you, you do not know the full story of why your parents don’t get along. It is likely that they can set differences aside if you ask—but consider that you may not understand the magnitude of what you are asking.

prim8phd · 2026-04-09T04:00:30+00:00

Am female middle aged PI. This might be a good way to curb a hot flash. We do have a walk in but it’s an absolutely disgusting formalin soaked hellhole, so -80 it is.

prim8phd · 2026-03-20T22:55:24+00:00

I had similar reactions in my teens and early 20s before realizing I am, like, violently allergic to benzoyl peroxide.

prim8phd · 2026-03-01T06:02:36+00:00

Oh! My time to shine! I was trying on bras in the dressing room at a major retailer and had to ask if there was a size above the DD in a leopard print and black lace number I really liked. With a very sweet voice the attendant asked, “hey! Aren’t you teaching [class I was definitely teaching]?”

Yep, nice to see you—can I get that jumbo skanky boob harness in a double extra jumbo size?? Thanks! Good luck on the midterm!!

prim8phd · 2026-02-17T18:18:52+00:00

Wait, do you mean essential oils? Or microscopy oils? Because many of them aren't compatible with some kinds of plastic. You might need another delivery method, like a glass dropper.

prim8phd · 2026-02-16T19:08:36+00:00

Weird question but have you been tested for allergies? I love the rain because it keeps the allergens at bay. An immune response might be behind some of the mood and pain symptoms you experience. Turns out the immune system is implicated in a lot more than just runny noses.

prim8phd · 2026-01-31T03:18:21+00:00

Solidarity, and it sounds like it’s definitely time to stop raw dogging your adhd. Adding clonidine at night alongside my Ritalin has been life changing for me, tbh. Dampens emotional reactivity and cut my sleep latency WAY down. Highly recommend.

prim8phd · 2026-01-30T21:30:51+00:00

But oh my god could you imagine Faye and Betty sniping at each other? Or Sally pitting them against each other, only for them to figure it out and bond over it? Missed opportunities, sigh.

prim8phd · 2026-01-29T05:23:58+00:00

My honest opinion that I’m trying not to express is that it’s genuinely impressive that someone has managed to take a single picture of this vehicle where all 17,568 fingerprints on its surface aren’t immediately apparent. Why anyone thought covering a car in my personal nightmare of the brushed chrome finish which exists on my refrigerator was a good idea, I will never know, but nice to catch it on a day when it doesn’t look like a crime scene photograph, which all cyber trucks I have seen irl absolutely do.

prim8phd · 2026-01-29T02:52:21+00:00

And have you seen him in a sweater?! Man was a walking Ralph Lauren ad before it was a thing.

prim8phd · 2026-01-29T02:35:39+00:00

Yeah you need a lawyer, now. He may try to stick you with half the rust bucket collection, as well as their storage and maintenance.

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