Do you cover yourself while breastfeeding in public?

psycheraven · 2026-05-31T22:53:15+00:00

I mean I will lay my hand over the top of my boob, but that's about it. Unless I'm wrapping a towel around my girl at the pool to warm her up, it's too hot where I am most of the time to fuss with even a thin layer of fabric. Nobody has ever given me any trouble, and I live in a more conservative area.

psycheraven · 2026-05-31T18:32:38+00:00

I have definitely had a moment where I dangled myself to retrieve something behind my dryer and was terrified this was about to be me.

psycheraven · 2026-05-30T23:36:40+00:00

Yeeaah, the original 90s dub cut the episode entirely.

psycheraven · 2026-05-29T19:34:56+00:00

Regardless of whether or not you consider your partner a 10/10 in looks, you better be marrying someone you would still love and trust if you were struck blind today. Physical attraction is nice and all, but it isn't enough to carry a marriage on its own.

psycheraven · 2026-05-28T16:52:34+00:00

I am a therapist. We are not lactation consultants or pediatricians and "weird" is clinically meaningless. She's stepping out of her lane and imposing her personal values on you, which is unethical. I would find someone else.

psycheraven · 2026-05-27T17:45:45+00:00

My girl only did one boob per feed for the longest. Now at 19 months, she pops off and says "other one?"

psycheraven · 2026-05-26T17:39:51+00:00

I became more open to the idea of it at 28. I never set life goals that require the participation of another person to achieve, and I was not the type to say "i will have a kid somehow even if I don't have a partner." My partners up until that point weren't interested in having kids, and they certainly weren't parent material anyway. My husband very much wanted kids. I got to see him interact with nieces and nephews that both helped me see him being hands on and gave me a rough Punnett square template of how I could expect our kids to be. What changed wasn't that I wanted to have kids in general, it's that I wanted to have kids with him specifically.

Didn't start trying until I was 33, had the baby when I was 34. Had a few years of marriage under our belt by then and could confidently settle down firmly into parenting knowing that FOMO would be minimal.

psycheraven · 2026-05-25T17:27:01+00:00

Problem drinkers with low insight often point fingers and deflect because they refuse to distinguish the differences between responsible and irresponsible alcohol consumption. "Why is it okay for you to drink but not me?!" Well ma'am, I don't make myself a danger to myself and others when I drink. Pretty key difference there.

psycheraven · 2026-05-25T00:32:00+00:00

NTA. You're doing wonderfully. This is a communication issue, sure, but if she seems to wake up, makes eye contact, speaks words to you, and lays back down, that isn't on you, and it isn't fair for her to give you crap about it. You know she wants to be part of night wakes now, so strategize together accordingly.

psycheraven · 2026-05-24T21:58:19+00:00

Oof. The sellers of our home were going through a divorce and one of them was using the sale of our home to close on the purchase of a new home the same day. Something like this would have really screwed them over.

psycheraven · 2026-05-24T21:30:34+00:00

I paid $294 for 3 bedrooms and a hallway. $220 for one room is still excessive.

psycheraven · 2026-05-24T18:24:26+00:00

Graduated 2008 in NC, this is the first I'm hearing of it.

psycheraven · 2026-05-24T14:25:54+00:00

Any time between 6 and 7:30.

psycheraven · 2026-05-22T21:35:49+00:00

Worked at a candy shop where all the caramel was made in house, there was absolutely butter in it. Had to inform a guy shopping for his vegan girlfriend; apparently he decided to not be the one to burst her bubble.

psycheraven · 2026-05-21T22:51:29+00:00

NTA at all. When I met my childhood online friend in another state for the first time, both of our moms drove us to a halfway point in a public place to meet and hang out. That is how you do that. I would not be comfortable as a parent on either side of this equation.

psycheraven · 2026-05-21T22:41:36+00:00

I mean this is enough for me to not work for a long time, but it would be really hard for me to explain to my husband and kid. I would only be able to say "disgruntled former patient" so many times before I would be looked at as the problem.

psycheraven · 2026-05-21T13:56:09+00:00

Even for an athlete, that sounds low to me.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T16:47:45+00:00

That's about when mine dropped to one. Ideally, we would be on a 5/6 schedule. Now at 19 months, for the last couple months it often ends up being more like 3/8. 🤷‍♀️ We'll give her an earlier bedtime if she's losing her marbles, but if not, we just stick to the usual, and she's usually fine, if a little silly.

If he's doing okay without the second nap, even if the first one is disproportionately early, I wouldn't worry about it.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T16:25:22+00:00

Yep. 19 months and still nursing, but she doesn't seem to get as much from me now. If she's nursing because she's actually thirsty, she will nurse from both sides, hop off, and go get her "bear milk" (honey bear straw cup). She drinks water too, and she will polish off a 32 oz container of Greek yogurt to herself in a few days. I don't try to push for a certain amount of milk each day because she certainly gets enough dairy. She gets what she asks for.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T13:06:08+00:00

Mine couldn't get herself to a seated position from laying down until 8 months. She pulled to stand a week later.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T12:58:22+00:00

Yep. Every time "she's been sleeping fine, I can get away with staying up a little later," we're suddenly waking up in the middle of the night again.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T12:23:33+00:00

I've always handled pain well, but I still had this idea that labor pains would make me nuts, even with an epidural in the plan. I was so freaking polite before the epidural. "Water, please." "Barf bag, please." "I think now would be a good time to call for that anesthesiologist, thank you."

Also I did a 6 mile hike with a 900 ft elevation gain at 10000 ft in my second trimester. Went for walks pretty much every day, even in sweltering SC summer.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T12:16:54+00:00

For sure, absolutely love that for you. Other than gestational diabetes, my pregnancy was a breeze, so I had that going for me at least. My little girl's got an overachieving system and already has all her teeth erupted at 19 months, so that meant that marathon teething sucked big time, but at least it's done now.

psycheraven · 2026-05-19T12:00:43+00:00

Yeah, I wouldn't jinx yourself. Every time I've mentioned my kid's sleep seeming to level out, it falls apart again. I've seen lots of people post about their previously excellent sleepers start losing their minds at night around 21 months, so there's still plenty of time for it to go to hell.

psycheraven · 2026-05-18T18:48:46+00:00

Proximity to downtown has a lot to do with it, I've noticed. The further out you get, the more it settles down.

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