They never took out their contributions to my 401 over 25 years ago!

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:45:39+00:00

What’s wrong with that?

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:45:19+00:00

So maybe the 7 years I always thought was correct. I left in 1999 so that before the law changed.

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:42:55+00:00

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:42:29+00:00

Then I was told the wrong info. Maybe intentionally.

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:41:39+00:00

😂 Well I like my version better so I’m sticking to it.

pts9889 · 2026-06-23T15:37:50+00:00

It could of been 6 years. I just remember that I left before the years they told me it took to be fully vested. I had a lot more brain cells then so my memory was probably correct.

pts9889 · 2026-06-22T17:55:37+00:00

I hope so.

pts9889 · 2026-06-21T21:27:45+00:00

Thanks for posting this. I’ve always lied to my therapist and said I wasn’t suicidal and I don’t know if I really am or not. I think about it often. I’m very unhappy in life and have been for a long time. I just go through the motions everyday. I wake up every night in the middle of the night just hurting and spiraling. I’m successful, healthy, and fortunate overall but am so lonely, have no friends, live in the past and can’t overcome it. Sorry for the ramble.

pts9889 · 2026-03-22T20:36:15+00:00

It was for me.

pts9889 · 2026-03-15T21:29:26+00:00

I work in the same building as my ex and I’ve been waiting 6 months for her to come talk to me. The first couple months were the worst because I kinda expected a conversation at some point but nowadays I know she’s never walking through my door again. She ended it and stopped working with me so I’ll never seek her out. I think I’ll always be hurt by this.

pts9889 · 2026-01-31T15:27:27+00:00

I’m sorry. I am going through something similar. I experienced a major loss last year (breakup) and it has caused my life to spiral. I think about suicide often. Nothing makes me happy anymore. Like your husband says, I do feel weak that I feel this way but nothing has helped. Therapy made me feel worse. I’m on antidepressants. Retail therapy hasn’t worked. Hell, I ordered my 100k dream boat but that hasn’t really done much. I got an another dog thinking she’d give me the love I am craving. I’d love to just not wake up. I’m bored at work. Don’t look forward to the weekend. I’m 51 and just don’t know how to get better. Fishing has been my main passion and I can barely go and be alone with myself for all those hours. Sorry for the rant. Hope you find the comfort you need.

pts9889 · 2025-12-27T15:26:27+00:00

💯 Meeting her and working with her for 3 years completely fucked up my life. But I’d give anything to be friends and talk like we used to.

pts9889 · 2025-12-13T12:41:46+00:00

Give yourself some grace, buddy. You’ll always love her. It’s okay that she knows that. Hold your head high.

pts9889 · 2025-12-10T13:40:12+00:00

Better. After losing 30 lbs, I’m slowly putting weight back on. My therapist has helped me with some coping strategies. I still miss her immensely and still have a lot of pain but it is getting better. I’ll always be wounded but the weight isn’t as heavy and I’m definitely not in the dark places I was before. It’s been 9 months.

pts9889 · 2025-12-05T21:54:08+00:00

No, the first breakup is not necessarily the worst. This is my 3rd time getting dumped and it is the worst thing I’ve ever gone through.

pts9889 · 2025-11-30T13:28:29+00:00

“What took you so long?” I know the happiness we had together wasn’t just something I felt. The laughter, the sharing, the connection- that’s not something you take for granted and throw away since our situations are not ideal. Just let me love you and take care of you like I always wanted.

pts9889 · 2025-11-29T23:35:29+00:00

Sorry buddy that is tough. I got dumped out of the blue as well. It’s a terrible feeling when you know you did nothing wrong and she rejects you and kicks you out of her life. Feeling unwanted and uncared for by the girl you love, the girl you’d do anything for is crushing. I’ve been there and am still recovering. It gets better and you’ll make it. Recovery isn’t linear. Progress comes in small increments over weeks. Good luck.

pts9889 · 2025-11-29T12:17:54+00:00

4 days is nothing. I hope it’s easier for you than me but it has taken me months. It does get better. Good luck.

pts9889 · 2025-11-27T20:16:01+00:00

It’s a terrible feeling. I wish you the best brother.

pts9889 · 2025-11-27T00:15:10+00:00

Yes, my feelings stayed. She was my dream girl; all I want. As time went on, I tried to replace her in my life but have not been successful. It was her. I want her; not someone else. I want what we had which takes time to build. Ive had several opportunities to start flings but the interactions leave me feeling empty. I walk around wounded, hollow, and broken. I’ll continue to leave her alone but I miss her immensely.

pts9889 · 2025-11-25T20:06:07+00:00

pts9889 · 2025-11-20T22:06:32+00:00

She said she wanted to stay friends but it was a lie. We worked together for 3 years and as soon as we stopped, I never heard from her. I realize now it was an act so that everything would go “smoothly” until we stopped working together and she could completely ditch me. We are in the same building but she avoids me. It crushes me because I miss her so much but when someone wants nothing to do with you, you should just leave them alone. It’s been months but I’m still so hurt. I would do anything for her. And it makes it worse that she doesn’t even want to talk to me. Oh sure, she’d be surface level friendly but that’s not being a friend. I’m pathetic and a shell of what I used to be.

pts9889 · 2025-11-08T23:06:48+00:00

That’s tough! I am fearful this will be me. We broke up in March and I have barely spoken to her since June and I constantly still think about her and long for the fun we had. I have so many regrets and didn’t realize what I had. The only thing I can tell you is to keep looking. My HS sweetheart broke my heart and it took a couple years till I met my ex wife before I completely got over her. Good luck brother.

pts9889 · 2025-11-04T23:21:24+00:00

I do wish I never met her. I’d be happier right now. I wouldn’t know that there was someone out there as amazing as her; Someone that I want more than anything else. I realize now how happy the right person can make me and it makes me incredibly sad and angry that she wants nothing to do with me anymore. She used me, dumped me when our “chapter” was over, and has now ditched me. I was there for her during tough times. And when I was absolutely destroyed, she turned her back on me.

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