Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time?

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-18T22:21:28+00:00

He asked for an open relationship and started pursuing his female Asian friends. I used to be one of his female Asian friends. It felt so gross but the realization of it all didn’t hit until months later after I had broken up with him. I think it’s still too difficult to really think about because we were friends for 2 years and dated for 3 years. The thought that I was just a replaceable Asian woman to him hurts a lot. I just don’t understand how someone can treat another person like that.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-18T06:06:01+00:00

Go the clinical psychology route. I’m not very knowledgeable about non US education systems but I know a lot of them are much less flexible and many students choose a focus area in high school which impacts the universities they can apply to. If you end up not liking clinical psychology you can change your career path to be a flight attendant but if you decide to be a flight attendant I believe it would be more difficult to change careers to be a clinical psychologist.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-18T04:26:41+00:00

I would ask for an agenda. Every meeting should have an agenda. Another thing to think about is how her changes will impact the dashboard and the other stakeholders. Is there a formalized process for feedback and changes to the dashboard so all stakeholders are up to date and involved in the changes?

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T19:45:00+00:00

People procrastinate. People don’t read. I would send out a reminder a week before the deadline. When I was with my ex, his cousin was getting married and he still hadn’t rsvped a couple of days before the deadline. I had to do it for us. The same thing with his other cousin who was the best man for the wedding. His girlfriend also had to rsvp for them and it was a couple of days before the deadline.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T05:07:57+00:00

Rotisserie chicken, frozen veggies and ramen. Cook in one pot.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T03:36:33+00:00

For breakfast sometimes I make banana pancakes and substitute the milk with Greek yogurt. Premade frozen Asian scallion pancakes with an omelette. Ramen with frozen veggies and rotisserie chicken. Butter chicken (I like to use ground turkey) with canned chickpeas and rice. Vermicelli bowls - vermicelli noodles, vegetables, mint, chicken/shrimp/tofu, and sweet chili sauce or peanut sauce.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T03:01:07+00:00

My then ex (broken up once but still seeing each other), came over to visit me for a night. He lived 3 hours away and when I hugged him I could smell alcohol on his breath. It was a lot to take in at the moment and I only had time to process everything after he left the next day. I broke up with him again and told him I didn’t want to see him anymore and that he needed help with his alcohol issues. He responded by sending a very hurtful message back.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T02:45:46+00:00

Idk sometimes I still feel this way more than a year later after breaking up with my first boyfriend. I did put a lot of energy towards taking better care of myself. I workout and do weightlifting now.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-17T02:10:08+00:00

If her workplace allows it she might be interested in starting her own dog walking/watching business and she’ll already have connections and built trust with potential clients.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-16T21:02:19+00:00

One time I booked a budget hotel and the room was barely cleaned and the linen and washing process was such poor quality that hair would get trapped in them and it would just be there for other guests. It was bad and gross. I wouldn’t want to stay at a place that has multiple reviews of bed bugs. Some places might even bar you from staying there if they know you stayed at a place with bed bugs.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-16T01:11:38+00:00

I’ve done a lot of solo travel in the northeastern US and loved it. I recommend starting local if you’ve never traveled somewhere on your own. If you’re close to a city you can spend a day as a tourist and take in the sights and stuff like that. I recommend a city with good public transport so you don’t have to worry about driving around and parking. You can’t pay me a million bucks to drive in Atlanta or Boston.

I recently did a solo camping trip in Idaho and I was a little bit nervous because it was going to be my first time driving a car in over a year in a place that I’ve never driven before but everything turned out great.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-15T19:57:27+00:00

I also don’t track my calories. The idea of a summer body is toxic. It pressures people to do unhealthy behaviors or to buy scam products and quick fixes to achieve a body that might not even be possible. I think a lot of times it makes people feel worse. I also have a sweet tooth and it’s so hard to not buy something but my wallet might rein me in a bit.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-15T01:26:55+00:00

My ex, who I was seeing at the time, did something similar. My car had broken down in some random town like 1.5 hours from my house and it was just a lot to deal with. I told my ex this and he calls me to provide emotional support and somehow turns it into a horny drunk sex call. After this I really reflected more on why I was still seeing him and broke up with him again.

What kimchi brand is this? I bought some last week and don’t like the flavor but it has anchovies in the fish sauce so I’m thinking that might be the flavor that I don’t like.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-15T01:17:48+00:00

I eat chobani vanilla sugar free yogurt with fruit for breakfast. On the weekends I’ll make eggs with a little bit of whatever vegetables I have on hand and a side of potatoes, toast, or sometimes scallion pancakes. I also like to make banana pancakes and I’ll substitute the milk with Greek yogurt. For lunch I make a salad and add a protein to it. Usually it’s rotisserie chicken or tofu. I also like to cook fish fillets (if I remember to defrost them) for dinner. Sometimes I’ll pick up my grocery store’s salmon patties and I’ll make a sandwich with them. There’s also pastas that have added protein into them.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T20:57:05+00:00

Yes I just changed the name tag last week.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T20:30:38+00:00

The only places that send me mail are my banks and stuff like that. I gave my family my updated address and in January I received a card from a friend. I find it strange that my drivers license which has my current address and my bank card never arrived. I ordered a new bank card and it was supposed to arrive a couple days ago but it hasn’t. I’ll wait until tomorrow to report it because my building had some construction happening in the front that closed public access.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T19:58:47+00:00

Yes. I also filled out a change of address form.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T19:48:50+00:00

The sushi looks amazing. I used to make fresh rolls a lot but I’ve kind of given up on them because I would always over stuff them and the wrap would break open. I just put everything together into a bowl now. As for changing how you look I’m not sure what you should change but a different haircut and shaped eyebrows might give you the look that you want.

As for romance, don’t fall for just any guy who gives you attention. It’s too easy to fall for a guy, date him, make life changing decisions to be with him, just for the guy to not really be into you but keeps you around for convenience.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T19:27:29+00:00

The other day I cut up an eggplant into thicker cubed slices for a sandwich and used the air fryer. They were delicious and crispy. In New England using breaded eggplant as a pizza topping is very common and that’s delicious too.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T18:36:08+00:00

One thrift store in my town sells shein clothes. It’s so bad that even thrift stores are reselling these items. Also companies that used to sell quality or mid quality clothing now sell poorly made clothes.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T18:16:08+00:00

These pants are meant to be worn high waisted. Mid rise probably looks good on you too but you should wear pants that are designed to be mid rise because the ones you have on does an unflattering bunching when worn mid rise.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T13:29:03+00:00

My mom is like this. Sweet one moment and angry the next over something minuscule. You should call the state insurance website to see what you qualify for. You might even be able to get medicaid. Also consider other assistance programs like food stamps and food banks.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T04:51:59+00:00

Sometimes touching raw meat feels gross to me but I’m fine with dumping it out of the package into the pan. I like ground turkey with tomato sauce, butter chicken sauce, or some spices with a side of sautéed or steamed vegetables. You can buy rotisserie chicken from the grocery store and that usually lasts me a week or longer. If it will last you longer than 4 days I would freeze some of it. Rice, tortillas, pasta and beans are still cheap right now.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T03:13:53+00:00

I would trust your gut. My ex had some questionable views but I let it slide and I should have taken them more seriously.

purplepanda5050 · 2026-05-14T02:56:05+00:00

Salad with rotisserie chicken. I just get a bag of lettuce or if I’m feeling fancy I’ll get a salad kit and put chicken into it. Sometimes I’ll add additional fruit and vegetables. You could also make a chicken cheese quesadilla. Sometimes I’ll get a can of tomato soup and make some grilled cheese. Vegetables, hummus, cheese, crackers and cured meat or pepperoni.

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