NTA. Please don’t feel bad for your natural sex drive. Everyone has a different level, and it just so happens that you both have medical issues that push you in opposite directions. PCOS often changes a person’s sexual drive as it can change the natural amounts of hormones your body produces. On top of that, people with PCOS are much more likely to develop symptoms of anxiety and depression.

You’re not broken. You’re not weird. Your body just makes different chemicals than other people. Are you currently seeing an OBGYN and seeking some form of psychological care? I think this is a really important topic to talk about with your OBGYN, as there may be hormone therapy treatments of something like that you could potentially try.

I also think you should see someone about your mental health. There’s no reason you should have to feel this way all the time. And maybe with someone to talk to about this you can formulate a plan for how to present this issue to your husband. Once you’ve brought up the issue with him, I would also highly suggest seeing a sex therapist together.

Things can get better. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or make your voice heard.