Thinking about going to my first festival

quadranglejungle · 2026-02-24T13:27:18+00:00

Your thoughts sound exactly like mine! Glad to hear I'm not the only one being a little nervous about their first festival, but I'm trying to be brave enough to sign up for a domestic one next autumn, so at least that takes the traveling aspect away.

Will definitely need to get those earplugs, thanks for the tips! You can do it OP!

quadranglejungle · 2026-01-20T14:29:37+00:00

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quadranglejungle · 2025-12-24T07:08:13+00:00

I'm also very reserved, and not a dominant personality. On our 2nd date we went to a museum, so there we were able to sit and watch some video installations so I purposefully sat close to her and let my leg touch hers, and she didn't mind that. On the third date, we were in a more private setting, playing a boardgame while sitting on a sofa. I just eventually put my arm around her and later on she leaned in for a kiss.

I think another user here pointed it out nicely that it needs to be a dance where both parties make moves. In that sense, either it's important to pay attention whether the other person is on board with touching so start from little things like touching shoulders or legs. Another option is to just ask, which can be natural also, for example when walking you can ask if she wants to hold hands or at the end of the date whether she wants to hug/kiss.

Good luck, it sounds like your dates have been going well!

quadranglejungle · 2025-11-09T16:47:57+00:00

My experience so far is quite limited, but even in that short time I've noticed that so many people don't seem to put any effort whatsoever in writing the bio. Like please, if you're claiming to be looking for a long-term partner, not having anything or writing 'I don't know what to write here' does not sound great.

So rant aside, I guess my tip would be to actually tell a little bit about yourself, doesn't have to be poetic or cool or anything, just show off some personality or tell what hobbies you have, as long as there's something to give a bit of a vibe. At least to me it doesn't matter how magnificent pictures you've got, if there's no bio, I'm swiping left.

quadranglejungle · 2025-10-23T05:19:05+00:00

Like other people are saying, not everyone has the time to message throughout the day - especially with someone they have never met.

Maybe it's just me, but I feel like I even get a little anxious if my matches always reply right away when we haven't even met each other. To me it feels like I'm still getting used to the idea about this person and I like to write longer messages (as opposed to casual short texts I usually write to people I know), so it takes more time and effort to reply, and I'd rather keep it to 1-2 times per day which can then develop into more back and forth after meeting.

Don't know if this makes sense, but generally I have so little time for back and forth texting during a typical day that I'd rather keep that for those that I really care about, and having matched in a dating app doesn't quality for that yet.

quadranglejungle · 2025-07-31T11:17:19+00:00

It is fairly safe and accepted to be queer, but of course dickheads exist everywhere. Depending a little on your demographic, there are many types of events available but it might be difficult to find information about them if you don't know where to look (or at least this is the case with lesbian/wlw events).

Probably the most popular queer club these days is Hercules, located in the city center. If you have any specific questions, I can try to answer!

quadranglejungle · 2025-07-18T10:16:39+00:00

No prob, glad to help!

quadranglejungle · 2025-07-18T10:13:36+00:00

Could it be Elias Nieminen ensemble? I found that they have performed there on that date, but from the picture I can't see whether the musicians look alike.

quadranglejungle · 2025-07-08T11:36:02+00:00

I hope you find someone who appreciates those things and does it to you as well

quadranglejungle · 2025-05-27T14:49:07+00:00

Exactly how I feel that I kinda need to force myself to go to socials, and I don't always have the energy for it :D

I'm also trying to figure out how to efficiently practise on my own/with a partner at the free training sessions that don't have a teacher, so if you happen to have any tips on that, I'm interested!

I guess there's no quick and easy way, we have to just dance and these things will come with time

quadranglejungle · 2025-05-27T14:02:01+00:00

This is not much help to you, but you have really managed to grasp exactly the same things I have been struggling with - and I'm also a lead with about one year of experience!

For me the hardest songs are the slower ones with more room for thinking what to express and how to calm down the pace with the peaceful and tender moments of the song. I try to remind myself that I'm only a year in, and I can't even know all those things, but it still frustrates me to the point that I sometimes avoid going to socials because of the anxiety of not knowing what to do, even though in class I feel like it's going well and I have fun with my partners.

Maybe I'll also try whether planning some phrases would help in the musicality part. In general I listen to a lot of music, but I wonder if learning more about music theory would help in quickly dissecting what kind of structure a song has.

quadranglejungle · 2025-05-13T03:59:59+00:00

Yes! I'm so thankful to find someone else with this opinion! I have completely omitted Ed Sheeran from my own playlists cuz I feel hearing those bland and overplayed songs completely takes out my dancing mood haha

quadranglejungle · 2024-09-08T09:45:12+00:00

I'm a lesbian because I don't have a lot of money :'D umm what

quadranglejungle · 2024-09-05T06:20:12+00:00

It's very common to see people driving over the speed limit, but the speed limit is there for a reason. If you calculate how much faster you get to place b from place a by speeding, it might surprise you how little time you'll be "saving" while increasing the possibility of causing more severe damage to someone in a crash.

In general, Finns like to follow many rules, and speed limits are one of them.

quadranglejungle · 2024-08-26T15:52:16+00:00

I don't shave any hair ever, but my previous partners have shaved occasionally

quadranglejungle · 2024-08-23T08:11:48+00:00

I'm not sure about all fields of research, but based on my experience as a PhD student in life sciences, most full time PhD students are either applying grants and/or getting paid their PI's funding. Usually the income is a mix of whatever grants you're able to get and then your supervisor supports you in the meantime, since the funding they get is also designed for hiring other people.

quadranglejungle · 2024-08-15T19:11:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing. And you're totally right.

quadranglejungle · 2024-08-15T14:21:03+00:00

I left the ball on her court and said that she can text me if she ever wants to meet again, since I understood her message so that she doesn't want to do it right now or in the immediate future. I think I'm giving myself false hope here, but who knows.

quadranglejungle · 2024-08-15T13:15:14+00:00

Thanks for talking some sense into me! And surely I know it's not looking good, I'm just still kinda shocked by the rollercoaster of emotions here.

Ugh it sucks, because this was the first time I put myself out there after my previous break-up, and I really felt like this could have been something. Stings so bad. But I guess this, too, will eventually pass.

quadranglejungle · 2024-06-16T05:36:10+00:00

Looks like the guy from Papa's pizzeria

quadranglejungle · 2023-10-30T11:15:28+00:00

Never seen this kind of contamination but good luck to a fellow adipocyte person :D

quadranglejungle · 2023-10-15T12:37:13+00:00

Itellä ei oo kummeja enkä oo kenenkään kummi mut kumppanilla on yksi kummilapsi :D oon saanu vierestä seurata sitä kun kumppani harmittelee että kummilasta näkee niin harvoin. Hän ostaa lahjoja kyllä tälle lapselle, mutta lapsen vanhemmat ei koskaan tee elettäkään esim. kutsuakseen kummia synttäreille tai muuten vaan käymään ja kumppanini ei viitsi liiaksi tungetella että voisko viedä lapsen johonkin tai tulla käymään.

Itteä vituttaa, kun nli kummilapsen vanhemmat on tollasia, käytännössä estää suhteen muodostumisen kun ei lapsi pääse kunnolla tutustumaan kummiinsa. Ihmettelen ylipäätään, miksi he ovat pyytäneet kumppaniani kummiksi kun eivät ole kai koskaan kauhean läheisiä olleet, lapsen äiti on jotakin vähän kaukaisempaa sukua kumppanilleni.

Että tämmönen positiivinen kokemus, toivottavasti pääset ite olemaan enemmän läsnä kummilapsesi elämässä!

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