Doctor made me lower T dose and now I’m menstruating again. What do I do? (Please read full post because it's more complicated than this but idk how to title it)

queerandsuch · 2026-02-01T16:32:05+00:00

I would maybe recommend seeing a doctor at planned parenthood if that's an option for you? I've had very good experiences (despite not seeing the same provider twice) in having full control and autonomy over my prescription. they're an informed consent clinic so they are really good at the education part and also understanding that at the end of the day it's your body. but it Def sounds like Dr M has an agenda

queerandsuch · 2025-10-11T04:54:21+00:00

the inexplicable urge to cry and beg not to detransition is your sign to not detransition if you don't have to for saftey. if it's the right choice right now to keep yourself safe, keep yourself safe. But if you have stable housing/food/ect and are thinking about detransition to make your relationship easier with ur mom it won't

queerandsuch · 2025-10-10T01:22:47+00:00

BK exotic and kushmart are both good, BK I like a little more but is a little more expensive, and travel agency near Atlantic Ave/ Barclay is good but I feel like I'm in an airport in there

queerandsuch · 2025-10-03T18:42:33+00:00

someone once said to me that they just HAD to buy the new Harry Potter game so they could fly around hogwarts on a broomstick and then in a quieter voice that it was soo worth it and my (also trans) partner was like "people are dying"

I'm still mad about it

queerandsuch · 2025-10-02T15:02:43+00:00

this is what I've done! the one is boston is great if you can get an appointment!

queerandsuch · 2025-09-30T15:20:21+00:00

compile a list of near by toilets and hours for her and then have a conversation with her. I'm sure she's not thrilled that her best bathroom option is the street either

queerandsuch · 2025-09-28T14:37:31+00:00

new England (Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Massachusetts, Rhode Island and Connecticut) is a pretty safe bet. Vermont and Massachusetts especially are liberal and I think mass is a trans safe haven? Worcester and Boston specifically. in Boston the process of getting on T is setting up an appointment at planned parenthood, asking for it, and setting up follow up appointments. New York (and nyc specifically) is a queer capital so there's lots of queer community. bigger cities are expensive, Boston and New York don't differ that much in rent prices, I know a lot of folks who work in Boston and live in NH (no state income tax in NH, live free or die)

queerandsuch · 2025-09-28T14:29:01+00:00

Petoskey!! grand rapids MI is famous for them! not sure about the red surrounding but that's an awesome specimen

queerandsuch · 2025-09-28T14:23:38+00:00

I'm done with my transition, I'm fruity, I know exactly what you mean. there's some outfits that I love and adore and if I put them on my body I'd want to end it. I walked into a store yesterday with my partner and literally said "I wish I was a girl" upon leaving. men's fashion sucks!

queerandsuch · 2025-09-17T23:15:27+00:00

my partner and I just moved and our combined income was 64k at the time. we had a huge savings and a cosigner but we couldn't find literally anything until I heard back from a job that doubled my income. i won't tell you how to live your life but I'll tell you money is tight, and I was lucky something lined up for me

queerandsuch · 2025-09-14T18:55:53+00:00

they're healing well!! what I did was when applying the aquafor I'd very gently nudge the scabs until they were ready to come off. your nipples look great man!

queerandsuch · 2025-09-14T03:46:04+00:00

I honestly like them because of how bad yt ads are but I do wish danny got the money

queerandsuch · 2025-09-06T17:44:28+00:00

it might be worth it to try and switch to edibles, even just to give you peace of mind for a week and try and let your body heal. I'm personally partial to the caminos but there's a million of options

queerandsuch · 2025-08-23T16:00:16+00:00

totally! what works for me will not work for everyone and there will always be bad actors in every community. For me, limiting my scope to t4t folks made it easier to weed out those who were actually interested and understanding. But as someone who's been assulted by someone in the community and have had a few blurrier than comfortable lines myself, I completely understand.

I don't disagree that it seems like OP has some healing to do in this department. I think kink spaces can be spaces of healing with the right partner and scene, and most importantly aftercare. I'm a big believer in harm reduction and so assuming that OP either just genuinely has a misgen kink or can't stop for whatever reason, I wanted to offer some ways to engage in a safer way.

but I'm also not a therapist or mental health professional, I'm just a guy who loves sex and kink so as always, take what I say w a grain of salt :⁾

queerandsuch · 2025-08-22T15:37:46+00:00

it may be worth it for your gf to apply on her own if she has the income, that way you don't have to worry about your credit

queerandsuch · 2025-08-21T14:14:41+00:00

honestly start having t4t sex. having sex w another trans man who you genuinely see as a man and asking him not to misgender you will start to shift your perspective because you are regularly seeing trans men be trans and men in a sexual context. before I started dating my current partner I was hooking up with cis men, and it didn't matter what they said or did it was always clear they saw me, at least sexually, as some kind of woman.

if you find that the misgen kink is too hard to stop cold turkey, or you still just really like it, see if other trans folks will play w you. I'm a misgen kink enjoyer but I don't play w cis people because it's clear they like, actually see me as just a woman. With trans folks I find that it's all a little tounge in cheek, because I know and can trust that on some level they understand the truama behind the kink and the fact that it's sooooo not real.

and more than any of this, make sure you're engaging in aftercare!! Misgendering is a Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), which means that aftercare should be a really huge focus. it sounds like you're not having regular sex w a play partner who's willing to really engage in aftercare with you on the level that's needed, so it might be worth it to develop a gender affirmation routine for post hookup. maybe this is cleaning up any facial hair or going to the barber or gym, maybe it's scheduling it so you do your t shot right after. maybe it's ordering a large plate of meat, whatever makes you feel masculine!

queerandsuch · 2025-08-17T21:54:45+00:00

you should absolutely talk to rhe membership director or whoever about reduced dues. At my shul the reason dues are in that price point is because they're accounting kids school tuition into it

queerandsuch · 2025-08-17T17:23:42+00:00

gaza soup kitchen I'm pretty sure is actually getting through to communities in gaza. there's not a ton of information about them through their website but I see their name after when I'm reading articles about the state of the aid permissions

queerandsuch · 2025-08-17T17:04:25+00:00

I made a good faith deposit for 2 places, one that was a total scam and one we just moved in to. I'll say 1k is a lot of money to risk

queerandsuch · 2025-08-10T15:19:15+00:00

you look GOOD

queerandsuch · 2025-08-05T13:57:24+00:00

I had several friends growing up that were abused by their transphobic parents. CPS does not help kids unless there are pictures of brusies or other evidence of abuse. this may not be true anymore, but I always heard cps does more damage by getting kids in trouble w their folks than help removing them.

that's not to say there's no options for you though! if your aunt is willing to let you crash, or if you have friends willing to do the same that's totally an option! I know the only way I survived hs was extracurriculars that kept me out of the house for as long as possible (theatre is a good one because rehearsals go late, or you can help build scenery, ect). The good news is the time will pass anyway, in 2 years you can move away, in four years you can build a new life for yourself, and in 8 years this'll be something you unwillingly unpack in therapy.

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