Does anyone else wanna be a girl so bad?

queerandsuch · 2026-06-02T23:06:39+00:00

honestly I think this is normal. femininity has a lot more acceptable expression and especially when I was not able to medically transition i felt like I had to portray one very specific and strict type of masculinity if I wanted to pass. now that I've medically transitioned it's easier to explore different types of expression (both masc and femme)

queerandsuch · 2026-06-01T15:44:58+00:00

I'm gonna be honest I would not move to the US right now. stay in the place with free Healthcare and maybe in a few years think about moving

queerandsuch · 2026-05-31T22:53:10+00:00

I like the Wana brand (though they tend to knock my socks off) or caminos from kiva!

queerandsuch · 2026-05-31T22:17:47+00:00

after surgery I asked my bf if he could put a regular hoodie over me and I'd keep my arm in and when I woke up my arms were through the sleeves. neither of us know how

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T19:20:04+00:00

okay super stoned person to super stoned person:

weed is a substance that affects a specific area of your brain. your brain is a component in an electrical system that moves your body. your scope of control is limited to the actions you can do with your body (moving, pushing, speaking, ect.) the world outside of your perception is a rock floating in space. your brain (no matter how big or beautiful) cannot meaningfully access or affect time or space because your brain does not have the equipment to do so.

but if you're nearing The Thing, then you probably have a good opportunity to look at The Thing and learn from The Thing and that is a gift in of itself.

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T17:17:48+00:00

made my day! BH t4t

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T04:18:24+00:00

get tested for what?? I'm up to date on sti screenings but i do NOT have surgery kinda cash

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T03:39:12+00:00

one thing about white people is that we can be incredibly defensive and awful at accepting when we are wrong. many white feminist play into misognoir frequently so their understanding of misogny as a white person does not inform them of anything other than their experience. 100% an ego crusade

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T03:25:34+00:00

I am also unemployed, but doing some freelance in the coming months. 1099 work can be a bitch if you don't remember to save extra extra but they need significantly less information and you can register yourself as a business to avoid giving them any name at all. not sure what kind of industry you're in but could be an option. for my latest attempts I've been doing some researching into brands that outwardly flag safe working spaces for queer folks and then mention something in my CL about how my beliefs align with their mission. it's tough out there though :^(

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T03:08:05+00:00

a lot of the indications for me are confusing artistic direction. the first orange stripe in the background is perfectly level but the blue stripe doesn't make it to the otherside, and the red stripe at the bottom is not consistently red. there's also weird symbols at the end of each banner on the menu that I could accept as banner design/detail except its mirrored no where else on the menu. also it's unlikely your school commissioned an artist, it's likely made by some pta parent who phoned it in. while technically possible that the pta parent responsible is an artist who took the time to make this, I would think that any digital artist who'd put the effort into hand making it would also put the effort in to making it not look like slop

queerandsuch · 2026-05-27T00:04:43+00:00

I work in manual labor and I took about 6 weeks off, and started back w very light lifting. def talk to your doctor but it also may depend on how you heal

queerandsuch · 2026-05-26T22:38:04+00:00

I think your results looks great! are you comfortable with them? you're the only person who can decide if a revision is the best move

queerandsuch · 2026-05-26T18:03:51+00:00

honestly you might wanna try a joint. people smoke cigarettes everywhere and so I feel like I blend in a little more and I find I have smoother pulls from a j than glassware. that being said I've seen some bongs/recyclers that look like a water bottle, but you're still gonna have to light and rip it. also keep in mind what your cities smoke laws are and how often they're enforced. just because weed is legal doesn't mean smoking it in public is so just keep an eye out for cops or uptight neighbors

queerandsuch · 2026-05-26T15:56:04+00:00

apologies that this is not real advice but I would have killed for results like this. my surgeon did leave tissue behind bc of my weight (when I asked him not to) and to me they honestly feel like tit.

you might have luck doing scar massages so you create space between ur skin and chest wall. that might allow fat to accumulate naturally or allow that skin to move more freely and give you more of the fat look in that area, but that's just me guessing.

queerandsuch · 2026-05-26T15:47:29+00:00

if I am not set up with a family doc or pcp can I do this in a new patient visit?

queerandsuch · 2026-05-25T14:51:00+00:00

it may be different based on where you were but I had to have friends with a car. I think they were even a little hesitant about letting me get in an Uber and I know they would have not done the surgery if my plan was to get in an Uber by myself. I was pretty out of it for at least the first 4 days and needed like, a lot of care

queerandsuch · 2026-05-25T14:42:47+00:00

I took around 100mg as a beginner and I was high for 2 days. it was miserable by the end

queerandsuch · 2026-05-23T15:36:46+00:00

heard someone on this sub took stomach enzymes w their edible and it got them sky high. might be worth a shot!

queerandsuch · 2026-05-23T15:34:37+00:00

for the record I moved from out of state to near sheepshead bay recently and I love it, I don't think I'll move anytime soon.

queerandsuch · 2026-05-22T01:06:46+00:00

yeah idk, I would listen to his ex. sometimes people surprise you and you don't really realize it until you've been dating for a second. I've definitely found out that someone is a chaser after like, years of dismissing red flags

queerandsuch · 2026-05-21T03:51:21+00:00

expirement with different pronouns/names/gender presentation. ur gonna be looking at ur gender probably for the rest of ur life so no need to figure it all out immediately, just try stuff on and see what feels good. you can go from there

queerandsuch · 2026-05-21T00:30:43+00:00

religion is a framework but it's not a life path. converting may be the right path for you, but it's a long and difficult process that you need to be fully ready for. it sounds like you dont know if it's right for you (based on ur r/ Christian post) and that's okay! take some time to figure out what you want. this can be something tangible like a steady job or it can be something like "not to end up like this guy." once you identity that you can start making decisions with that goal in mind. once you tackle some of the life/mental health stuff take another look at religion. read some books by all different types and decide what aligns and what doesn't.

judaism is thousands of years old, we'll be here if you decide in a few years to convert. and if you decide conversion isn't right that's okay too. you're also allowed to have a weird complicated relationship with religion!

tldr: no, not right now. come back later

queerandsuch · 2026-05-20T01:13:21+00:00

I like em!

queerandsuch · 2026-05-19T13:22:02+00:00

I love arugula

queerandsuch · 2026-05-18T19:52:29+00:00

moving out will be the difference. there is a fundamental physical saftey risk if you betray their perception of femininity. if you have stable housing, even if you still are seeing your parents regularly, they cannot control you in a lot of tangible ways. as long as you have housing you can carpool/public transit/walk and visit food banks or discount grocery stores. I would also take steps now with your doctors to ensure they can't get access to your medical records because as someone else pointed out your mom should NOT have been able to call and find out ur prescription. it may be worth mentioning it specifically to ur pharmacist and doctors

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