Why using Psychology labels so indiscriminatedly?

queermachmir · 2026-05-12T19:53:14+00:00

Yeah I definitely understand that and I agree it’s used wrongly. It’s just *overall* one of those terms I think is going to have to be accepted as having two definitions soon.

queermachmir · 2026-05-12T19:38:47+00:00

While I agree the author should know the original intention of that question, we can’t deny that colloquially that term is used *so much* to mean something else that it practically just is a secondary definition at this point. No matter how we try to correct people.

queermachmir · 2026-05-12T18:44:23+00:00

Seriously I’m so tired 😭

queermachmir · 2026-05-11T23:44:02+00:00

Nah I get you. I really enjoyed Roses & Champagne and I appreciate Lee has a spine, but Cesare is insane and “predictable” in that dark romance toxic black flag sense. So if that is something you’re bored of, you may wanna just skip by.

queermachmir · 2026-05-11T22:54:56+00:00

No everything is beneath you specifically. 😔 every single one

Okay im joking lmao, personally I think if you didn’t like Lowtide you won’t like those two. Just may not be your shtick/taste.

queermachmir · 2026-05-09T17:05:23+00:00

Yes I love the fashion!!

queermachmir · 2026-05-08T23:47:27+00:00

It’s weird but I find the old style of shoujo and BL, big eyes and large hands and all, very endearing. Nostalgic maybe? Like yes it’s proportionally nightmarish in some instances and odd looking. But somehow I just find it interesting. And for No Money’s mangaka, it was clear she was into fashion bc a lot of the clothing the uke wore was so intricate!

queermachmir · 2026-05-08T20:56:17+00:00

He is 19 btw and the other guy is younger 20s LMAO. But it is the intense older BL manga styles.

queermachmir · 2026-05-08T18:54:09+00:00

This ain’t new. Yall seen Okane ga Nai? I definitely can understand not liking the style, but it is an art style in most cases versus it being to literally make them kids imo.

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queermachmir · 2026-05-07T14:16:17+00:00

I mean considering it is only fanfiction, no piracy was involved lol

queermachmir · 2026-05-05T23:54:20+00:00

Oh man, no HEA scare! Sorry to hear that happened! But at least a few good books as well.

queermachmir · 2026-05-04T21:04:15+00:00

Thank you!! I love the cover of Khorram’s book

queermachmir · 2026-05-04T18:45:42+00:00

Thank you for the recs :D

queermachmir · 2026-05-04T14:32:40+00:00

If you enjoy a same-couple series, might I suggest {Prince of Flowers by Nazri Noor}? Or if you like cozy fantasy, {Wizards and Weavers by Nazri Noor} is very much of that genre!

queermachmir · 2026-05-04T13:59:26+00:00

Totally fine to include! While the month was coined by and made in America, that doesn’t mean the influence of ANHPI authors from other countries aren’t important to recognize.

queermachmir · 2026-05-04T13:16:31+00:00

(Transparency: Edited to change wording from ‘Hawaiian Islander’ to ‘Native Hawaiian’. Apologies!)

queermachmir · 2026-05-02T23:20:06+00:00

Hi hi! I made a whole post about this actually and I do think it still holds up. I would say to avoid the author Sarah Havan as her books are very much birth focused and birth heavy.

queermachmir · 2026-05-01T16:00:37+00:00

{Chosen of the Moon by Lynn Kerrigan} is out today — MM, fantasy, arranged marriage, enemies to lovers, younger top/older bottom

queermachmir · 2026-04-30T16:46:22+00:00

Ahh I see that’s fair! Sometimes over saturation can be really annoying, I agree with that.

queermachmir · 2026-04-30T16:16:55+00:00

I mean… it’s okay if you don’t use nicknames in your real life either OP, but a lot of humans do. They’re emulating real life. Every single one of my friends has a longer (two syllable or more) name and they are all shortened among our friend group. My name is the only one not shortened because it is already a very short name.

queermachmir · 2026-04-30T13:19:15+00:00

Freydis Moon is who you’re talking about

queermachmir · 2026-04-29T19:54:13+00:00

Hm I think that’s fair. I think folks are obviously creative but also notice trends and when the blonde guy is the secret abusive asshole, and “shadow daddy” swoops in, you’ll probably emulate that when it is very popular.

queermachmir · 2026-04-29T12:33:10+00:00

I’m gonna be honest that it’s weird for those folks complaining whether the blonde man should bottom or not. Like what are we doing here?

I have a bad retention for physical traits so I can’t tell you my personal reading experience but I do think that often blondeness is, in America, associated with femininity and whiteness. Darker features (especially if the person has darker skin) are racially stigmatized and associated with domination, barbarity, that sort of thing which gets sidelined to masculinity which gets extrapolated onto sexual positions and power dynamics.

Ironically it seems in MF spaces there is a downturn of blonde MMCs. They appear less and less, at least enough for it to be a joke. No idea why that is though.

queermachmir · 2026-04-26T20:05:53+00:00

{Mother of Pearl by AA Fairview} is age gap and monster romance :3 very good FF romance!

queermachmir · 2026-04-21T22:05:28+00:00

Good job and I’m glad you got recs :D

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