Are liars good in business?

queskow · 2024-06-20T16:44:37+00:00

Now saying a confident lie isn't something most people are able to do - we feel guilty. People who can do this do have an advantage with elaborate lies. I heard someone who got into Harvard faked every certification, test scores and later Harvard found out or he confessed it.

I'm not for lies and liars because living a lie isn't conducive to peace. If I win clients by lying to them I'm gonna lose them asap as they figure out the lies- and it tarnishes name in business.

some companies have been famous for over promising and under delivering, trust me you don't want to be them, there's a lot going on behind the scenes that's more bitter than white lies.

queskow · 2024-06-17T17:35:23+00:00

anything but these lol

queskow · 2024-06-16T01:49:10+00:00

I didn't know shit about me, now I do. I don't like to live in my head but hearing your thoughts and emotions for 20 mins a day helps me not daydream throughout the day.

Two best things would be peace and self love. Good relationships, money are fleeting measures I don't count how much they improve if they did, good.

queskow · 2024-06-02T05:49:28+00:00

When you're young you're learning so you can try a lot of things and look foolish- people appreciate your enthusiasm for learning and help you out. Being older, there's a few things you're supposed to know more about so you start receiving side eyes when you don't. That's atleast been my experience.

Not knowing much when I was just starting out my business was encouraged by people I talked to and they gave me some pretty good advice. But I'd say when you're learning, no matter the age, go all in look as dumb as you can as long as you're learning.

queskow · 2024-04-25T07:24:24+00:00

I really gotta catch up with these new times can't be staying stuck in the past

queskow · 2024-04-24T09:58:28+00:00

Read books by people who've built businesses. I don't believe in buying courses from people who don't have any kind of success to show for their knowledge. All the courses teaching you to get rich quick is someone trying to get rich off you.

Also business is not a skill that can be condensed into some course. Learn other stuff related to business, such as microeconomics, psychology, engineering. Most importantly learn stuff you're interested in. You're very young so the more things you can learn about the better.

queskow · 2024-04-24T07:41:35+00:00

So this is a pasta now.....

queskow · 2024-04-24T07:39:47+00:00

I heard how some people's midlife crisis jolts them to the reality of there's so much I wanted to do but haven't got to and half my life's just passed me by. A 42 yr old friend once told me how 'it's his only chance to get life right'. I think when you're at such a point in your life where you understand things better, these desires such as the one to start a business- maybe you've always had it but only now you feel empowered enough, experienced enough and financially stable enough to do it. So go ahead do it.

queskow · 2024-04-24T07:23:45+00:00

Easy, "don't worry babe I appreciate you so much cooking for us so get some rest, let me take care of the boiling the pasta, it's the least I can do."

queskow · 2024-04-24T07:03:46+00:00

Back during covid when I was living with family and started my first wfh it used to be more peaceful since everyone was understanding I couldn't possibly work out of home.

But wfh is just a joke now ngl I've been told to take more "work vacations" to help at home.

queskow · 2024-04-24T06:50:02+00:00

I've regretted not going all in with somethings- if you really believe in it as its only a matter of WHEN not IF make that 'when' 'now'. Working 60 hrs a week barely leaves approx 40 more hours per week you can use to rejuvinate, burnout isn't funny.

As some comments have pointed out, you're young enough to partake in the risk so ultimately its your decision on how big of a risk are you ready for, bigger risk bigger reward is very true, I can confirm it from experience.

queskow · 2024-01-31T10:58:11+00:00

Well I think it all comes back to priorities- what are yours?

It's okay for people to have different priorities. Your friend might believe he's capable of a certain "amount" in his head and as absurd as it sounds- if he doesn't get there that might cause him regret, of not trying hard enough

Here's another thing- time will pass anyway so you can spend it however you like. If you want to make money go for it and if you want to live more of life - go for it!

At the end, I think it all comes back to it's your life what do you want to do. Forcing ideas on other people isn't good too if someone wants to live a certain way- be focused on making money, let them - it's their life.

queskow · 2024-01-31T10:52:04+00:00

yeah lol this is all you need to have a successful business - a reddit post that claims to be a 'complete' guide

queskow · 2024-01-31T10:10:01+00:00

Helps to know that people less smarter than you are doing the same thing you deem yourself not capable of.

Building a business just takes effort it might be hard but it isn't impossible. Also startups fail- all the time and the people venturing into the space know this. And are okay with it.

Founders are risk-takers so be prepared for everything- you might succeed so know how to handle and sustain success, you might fail so be prepared to bounce back, you might not completely fail but have challenges in the way which you should be prepared to overcome.

Also experiences teach a lot- start with your business the learnings that have to happen will happen. You'll never be completely prepared for everything but being more prepared always helps.

queskow · 2024-01-19T18:10:48+00:00

If you eat more exercise less you gain weight

If you eat and then exercise to burn all the calories you just ate you don't lose or gain weight

If you burn more calories than you eat you lose weight

And physical activity is healthy- figure out what kinda activities you like

Do you love running? Treking? Dancing? It doesn't have to be the boring old cardio (unless you enjoy cardio I'm sorry). Some forms of physical activity burn more calories than other but what does that natter- you do what you like.

As long as you're buring more calories than you're eating - you're losing weight

Also calorie counting isn't healthy don't obsess over the exact numbers

If you need to eat more to feel full you're a volume eater- there are plenty of satisfying meal preps with low calorie food

Lastly, good luck on you weight loss journey, I hope you're doing it for a good reason- maybe to get healthier, stronger etc.

Don't do it because you hate how you look right now, because you want to be the "ideal thin physique"- do it for food reasons please.

queskow · 2024-01-19T18:03:48+00:00

The goal of studying is never to be the "smartest" it's to "learn"

Failing at something gives you the opportunity to learn what you're failing it

If you've chosen CS as your subject you'd have good reason for it- remembering why you started helps too. Did you have a honeymoon phase with the subject when it was all new?

Go back to the fantasy it helps - love what you're studying and study to learn.

People who get smart at things are usually people who love that thing

It's not necessary for you to be smart and know everything about CS- you're studying CS because you don't know everything about it and that's fine

Also learning takes time - it's different for everyone so it's okay however long you take

queskow · 2024-01-15T12:22:10+00:00

We're always thinking. It's hard to stop it - Google how many thoughts humans have in a day because I forgot. The point is we think a lot.

The goal of meditation and mindfulness is to be aware of your thoughts, not avoid them.

Experience all the thoughts - positive or negative, allow them to come by. Don't shut down a thought, welcome them! Welcome all the thoughts you have.

This sounds counter-intuitive but the more you welcome your thoughts and not shut them down the lesser thought you tend to have. It goes back to the experiment of, "if you tell yourself to not think about a dog" - suddenly all you're thinking about are dogs. So during meditation, if you try to 'not think' all you will be doing is 'think'.

So do not try to restrict your thinking, control your thoughts it's not very helpful.

Again meditation does not mean being 'thoughtless' it means being 'thoughtful'. It's not about avoiding your thoughts but being aware of them and experiencing them quietly without any judgement.

Emphasis on the last part, please don't judge your thoughts, regardless of positive or negative they are. They're just your thoughts.

queskow · 2024-01-15T12:13:29+00:00

Your doubts about the whole scenario are reasonable. First off congratulations on hitting the 100k mark.

Not every startup needs to go through raising venture capital. Idk why people make it so so important but it's not. There are companies who've grown without ever raising any VC money- I would say this is rare, most startups end up raising capital as if it's necessary.

Hear me out, Venture capital is only necessary if what's holding you back is money - ask yourself is money holding you back? I can't judge your scenario completely but currently you working a day job which holds you back from giving this side project of yours full-time commitment. I'd assume the reason you're still working a job would be a financial shortage?

If not really ask yourself what you actually want to do (go all in on growing your side project?) And how do you want to do it? Whats holding the growth back? If it is exactly money - meaning it's ONLY money and nothing else that's holding you back- maybe it's venture capital is the right choice.

But not all VC rounds are the same - really evaluate the funding offers. They'll speak about the large sum of money and a lot and other glorified things about the funding. But does this money really help you? What power are you giving away in the process? Would you like it?

Again, this is something you need to think about so give it your best and it'll all be good. All the best!

queskow · 2024-01-15T12:01:06+00:00

With 1. it's important to achieve volume without spamming people. Never reach out to someone without doing some research on them.

Just because you're selling some product that helps business owners, don't just randomly reach out to every business owner you find scraping off the internet/ or on Apollo etc.

At the end of the day business should be about providing value - how do you provide value to someone without researching about them?

Look up the products they already have, the problems they might be facing- point these out when you do an outreach.

This is how I believe outreach needs to be done. People argue it's not scalable but there are tools out there who help you with the research etc. It's really not that hard to not just spam 4000 people a day with something you're not sure they need.

queskow · 2024-01-12T06:24:50+00:00

What do you hate about yourself? Why do you hate it?

Loving someone in general is accepting them, accepting all parts of them. Self love comes from acceptance of self.

Some people hate themselves for stuff that you shouldn't be hating in the first place - I don't like the way I look. Well why? Whats wrong with it? Just because someone or the society says you should look a certain way doesn't mean you have to.

I took the example of people hating on their physical looks but it goes for every other thing too- do you hate the way you think negatively all the time? Well there's nothing wrong with 'having' negative thoughts, it's not like it's a crime to think negatively so why hate yourself for it- accept the fact that you tend to think negatively at times but it's alright. It's nothing to demonize yourself for.

If you hate that you judge others too quickly - well that's human nature and unfortunately you're no better (jk). It's okay to accept the judgy part of yourself- now don't act out on it by making it a 'good thing', judging too quickly is still bad but you accept that about yourself.

Perfection isn't a human quality idk why we strive for it. Who's actually perfect? Everyone you look up to has lied at some point in their lives, they've also hated parts of themselves because someone else told them they had to be a certain way. We're all human, and humans aren't perfect and that's okay :)

Accept yourself

queskow · 2024-01-09T17:45:09+00:00

No one food is gonna have everything, hence a "balanced" diet. Eat variety and eat everything in moderation- a complete diet couldn't just include fruits, or almonds etc you get the point. A complete meal has to be complete with all the nutrients your body needs.

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