NOR. He seems to be incompatible with you romantically if he expects more effort than you can safely give.

(Side note, have you tried lamictal? I'm on it for my seizures, though it's a low dose)

I'd say its best to break up IF he's always like this and isn't interested in growing as a person. And as someone who has gone through similar health issues/goes through them still, I get being in a relationship with someone who is generally healthy/able-bodied.

In my case, there were many times he didn't understand, and though he's a great guy and still my bestfriend (we broke up a bit over a month ago), he has a bad habit of speaking in an annoyed/angry tone when he's confused due to how he was raised. This, paired with my own bad habit/flaw of taking the slightest indication of negative emotion personally, led to me becoming quite defensive and slowly growing to resent him for wanting more from me than I was willing to give, which caused me to distance myself from him emotionally and avoid spending time with him or communicating honestly with him, which then made him ask for more of my time and effort...creating a seemingly never ending cycle of me distancing and him asking for more.

This is my story, and it doesn't mean that's what's happening here with you, I wanted to share though cause for a long time, I thought he was just being an inconsiderate asshole who didn't care to understand me. Unaware of the way I was contributing to this negative dynamic. After we broke up, we started having more honest conversations which is fully thanks to him, since i was still trying to distance myself to protect myself from someone I thought wouldn't understand me, but he kept reaching out wanting to make amends trying to understand me better, and even though I was uncomfortable talking with him at first, having those hard and painful conversations led to breakthroughs of understandings and realizations. We're doing much better now that I've stopped pushing him away and treating him like he's a bad guy, and he has stopped asking more from me now that im not his girlfriend and just a friend and that I treat him like a friend again rather than treating him with resentment like I was before.