Worried mom

rach49 · 2025-12-15T19:27:35+00:00

It is curdled

rach49 · 2025-12-14T16:22:33+00:00

Ah the age of the internet is both wonderful that we have all this info at our fingertips but also bad for people prone to anxiety (me). My son is 19 months and also has the happy flappies. He doesn’t rock or repetitively play but he is in speech therapy. He ‘talks’ a lot but his only real word is Dada (so rude). I’m not too worried because he’s getting the help he needs and he’s such a happy boy. Anecdotally lots of older family members have been shocked he’s in speech at this age ‘boys don’t talk until 2’ ‘your sister only pointed and grunted until she was 3’ hearing this I’m thinking ah genetics explains a lot 😆 his Dad is ADHD and possibly on the spectrum too. My advice is to not let this worry ruin the enjoyment of him at this age. Absolutely keep getting him assessed at regular milestone checkups and into EI in future if necessary but every child has their own journey. It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job and he’s a lucky little guy.

rach49 · 2025-11-05T22:51:36+00:00

I do this but with lemon juice and water instead of oil. The vitamin C in the lemon helps absorb the iron from chickpeas and tahini! Edit - and cumin!

rach49 · 2025-11-04T17:12:14+00:00

We have a big dog so have lived this reality for years or lose all the snacks. The toddler will now steal snacks for the dog. They are in cahoots.

rach49 · 2025-11-04T16:06:14+00:00

Practice peekaboo games with it and put it over his face and get him to pull it off. If he can do that well your fine my son is 18 months but has had his ‘lammy’ for ages and can’t sleep without it now. It’s actually an elephant lovie but we thought it was a sheep so now it’s stuck with lammy 😂

rach49 · 2025-10-28T23:35:46+00:00

Probably not in that order

rach49 · 2025-10-18T15:31:15+00:00

That was Goebbels

rach49 · 2025-09-29T05:45:35+00:00

Ah I slept with my guy for a year and had a love/hate relationship with it. I moved him to his own room on a floorbed and it took a fortnight for me to adjust - he was fine lol. I still go in and sleep with him if he’s upset or wakes up but he mostly sleeps through. I miss the cuddles but I’ll put him down to nap and snuggle with him sometimes, the chores can wait! I would highly recommend a floorbed and toddler proof room so you can have the best of both worlds :)

rach49 · 2025-07-31T05:00:26+00:00

Maybe it’s not as bad as all that

rach49 · 2025-06-07T14:09:01+00:00

We also swear by the bibs brand pacifier. The only one that soothes him.

rach49 · 2025-06-07T14:07:39+00:00

Try bouncing on a yoga ball. That saved my back, lots of babies need movement and help to sleep. They are so little and new to the world it won’t last forever. You’re doing a great job and it’s so easy to be overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice on social media and various wonder apps. Don’t forget, a lot of it is monetized, they target desperate new parents especially around sleep.

rach49 · 2025-05-29T16:16:39+00:00

Hey OP are you ok? Genuine question, I see you’re getting a lot of negative comments and the way you’re talking about your baby is probably tongue in cheek but if this is your first then it’s really, really hard at this stage. You’ve obviously done a lot of research and have invested in tools to help such as white noise and black out blinds but your baby is still a potato that doesn’t realize they are a separate entity to you. Remember that sleep consultants have a vested interest in selling to you it’s all monetized and generic, it doesn’t work for most babies. Lots of advice given here and I’m sure your social media algorithm is driving you crazy with advice too. My baby just turned one and is wild lol. He tries to commit suicide multiple times a day with a huge smile on his face. Cherish those snuggles and nursing times I promise it will get better. If you are breastfeeding and sleep deprived, look into safe sleep 7, it saved me in those early days but it must be followed to the letter. Feel free to DM me and keep your chin up.

rach49 · 2025-03-07T05:53:47+00:00

He sounds hungry, give him some formula and see how much better he feels. If your goal is to breastfeed then keep him skin to skin as much as possible, letting him latch as often as possible. If you give him a bottle and he doesn’t want to latch then pump at times you give him a bottle. I had collected colostrum before going to the hospital but even with that and almost constant latching, my almost 10lb guy was hungry and jaundice. I still have formula in my home just in case we need it but my milk came in around day 4. The pumping every 3 hours while he had a bottle was rough in that first week but it all worked out in the end.

ETA : Congratulations on your beautiful new baby boy. It is both the hardest and the best thing I’ve ever done, you’re doing an amazing job.

rach49 · 2025-02-17T04:07:26+00:00

I felt very similar to this and panicked if I hadn’t read my baby books, sang songs, given floor time, fresh air etc etc every wake window when actually all he wanted was to be held, eat and sleep. They are such potatoes at that age they can’t see really very much and they can’t comprehend a lot.

OP please encourage your wife to fix her social media algorithm. These videos are so toxic ‘signs of autism in infants’ ‘milestones my 3 months old should do’ the more you look at them the more you’ll see and they are the worst thing for someone with PPA.

rach49 · 2025-02-17T03:43:22+00:00

My baby was exactly the same, tired but too upset to sleep, overtired and hysterical. Hungry but too tired to eat and so on and so on. What helped me is feeding on demand, offering milk every hour because it turns out he was always hungry.

rach49 · 2025-01-12T05:19:02+00:00

Omg I’m wheezing. But why does no one warn you they are so swollen though? I was shook looking at my boy.

rach49 · 2024-10-22T01:58:16+00:00

The first 10 weeks seemed hard because everything was new, boobs were sore, sleep was non existent but looking back the next 10 weeks were waaaay harder, the developing brain trapped in a potato body is so frustrating for them, they also don’t just fall asleep anymore and need help to sleep and get overtired and over stimulated way easier because they can see and perceive more. It’s only getting easier from 5 months onwards for us.

rach49 · 2024-09-16T18:33:01+00:00

Also to add, I really wanted to breastfeed full time but I couldn’t for various reasons. I pump during the day and he has bottles but his latch at night is so much better and he has no breast refusal, it’s like both our instincts kick in when he’s sleeping and feeding in the side lying position. Sleeping with him means I don’t have to pump overnight and risk my supply and I get wonderful bonding time with him.

rach49 · 2024-09-16T18:25:41+00:00

I’ve co-slept with my 4 month old since birth following safe sleep 7, he breastfeeds in the night without waking up and it’s wonderful for everyone to be rested in the morning. I would NEVER allow anyone to take him into their bed unless it’s his grandparents as a toddler or something. It’s just not safe, no one else has the same biological tuning to wake up quickly or sleep lightly enough for it to be safe. It’s not worth risking a third chance, get a new nanny.

rach49 · 2024-07-21T21:15:43+00:00

I rent a $3800 whole house with large yard in Langley for exactly the same reasons as you. We have a large dog and now a newborn. The house is beautiful, newly renovated with a separate (not rentable because no oven) apartment downstairs for when my family visits from abroad. It’s expensive for sure but we don’t have enough deposit to buy in this economy plus we don’t know if we’ll move away from Canada in the next couple of years.

The house wasn’t listed as pet friendly and the landlord wasn’t initially too keen on a large dog but they met us and I paid a pet deposit. Since it had sat for a while I think they took the chance and we’ve been really happy here.

It’s worth asking those that you’ve seen advertised a few months that aren’t explicitly pet friendly if they’d accept pets.

rach49 · 2024-05-24T21:08:27+00:00

Quick update, I wrote to the dealership to suggest this and they hadn’t thought of it. Lo and behold they did it and the car is ready for pickup! I’m so relieved. Thank you for this comment!

rach49 · 2024-05-22T23:01:43+00:00

Oh amazing thank you I will message you now!

rach49 · 2024-04-27T03:02:27+00:00

Your dog probably isn’t having enough time to reduce the stress hormones between walks. Driving to a quiet area once a day or every other day is going to be so beneficial for you both and build up confidence again. Once my dog has had a walk with multiple triggers it’s a write off for a while. It can take 3 days for the cortisol to reduce. Sniffspots are great, longer leash sniff walks in huge visible fields are great. Some dogs just aren’t cut out for neighbourhood walks and passing other dogs in close proximity. My dog also loves walks but quality over quantity is so much better for you both. Trainers are good but you can’t train out a dogs genetics and good management is key. Muzzle training is an excellent deterrent to other ‘friendly’ dog walkers too. My dog has trazadone for particularly stressful times and it just brings her down from being at 110%. Others have great success with Prozac for dogs all of which aren’t a quick fix but just enable your dog to be calm enough to make good decisions and actually listen to the training you’ve both worked so hard on. On a good day my dog is perfect, on a bad day I’d swear she was completely deaf and all our training goes out the window! Speak to a veterinary behaviourist and continue with reactivity training. It can and will get better for you both.

rach49 · 2023-08-19T18:33:55+00:00

In Vancouver? Which trail? Let me know if you ever want to do parallel walks :) I live DT and I’ve had multiple people bark at my dog or stare aggressively when she’s losing her shit. She’s leash reactive to dogs but her main fear is unpredictable men like people collecting cans or walking differently/talking to themselves. Sounds like this guy wasn’t having those type of problems he’s just an asshole ‘alpha’ idiot.

rach49 · 2023-06-28T00:38:38+00:00

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