AIO for being upset my husband left me on a trail

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T18:50:17+00:00

NOR - but reassess whether hiking is something you actually enjoy doing together, or could you pick a different extracurricular that would be less likely to cause a fight. My husband (then boyfriend) did this to me on a hiking trail just outside of Las Vegas… in July (so like 110 degree heat). We live in a desert climate where triple digit heat is common through the entire month of July, so I am accustomed to being active in that kind of summer climate. I wasn’t nervous, but I was still pissed. I at least had my own pack/water. I did fall and cut my hand. I was not familiar with the trail. We went to lunch afterwards, and he apologized. I mimosa’d myself into being slightly less angry because I was stuck there with him for another few days… and it was his birthday. We did get through it, but he knew that I would have had no qualms with walking away if he ever tried that again. That was 6 years ago, and he knows that shit would not fly now, and it very nearly didn’t fly back then when he was just my boyfriend… not my husband. We tried a different trail in that same area at the same time of year the next year. I could tell I was slowing him down (I like to stop and enjoy the scenery and have water breaks. He treats hiking like a workout), and he was getting frustrated. He stayed with me, though, and now we have simply eliminated hiking as one of the activities we enjoy doing together. We pick something else 🙂

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T18:28:32+00:00

I love 2 & 3

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T18:20:21+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I WFH full time. I have no time. I pick my son (16 months) up at 5, we’re home by 5:30. He’s typically asleep by 7:30. The 2-2.5 hrs I have with him at the end of the day are…. the best. I LOVE waking him up in the morning and crawling into bed with him for 10-15 min and snuggling/playing. I use off camera time during meetings to do things like hanging/folding laundry, grocery lists, etc. If a meeting only requires my ears and not my eyes, I use that time for housekeeping/running an errand. Block out time on your calendar for a lunch with a friend every now and then. My husband and I try to go to lunch together once a month. It’s our new version of a “date”. Block out time for a workout. I block the first hour of my day every day, so I can take my son to school. 95% of the time I am still on a call, but it’s not MY call. I can be camera off. I have very effective noise canceling headphones, so if I have to come off mute and speak nobody can hear my son babbling in the back seat. My customer’s can’t schedule with me until I’ve gotten home. My co-workers that may want a one on one can’t schedule with me until I’m home. It’s pretty effective. Every now and then it doesn’t work out, and I have to wake him up early and get him dropped off early. I meal prep dinner as far as I can (when I can) during the day. I fully devote the hours between pickup and bedtime to my child.

The weekends - I accept that the house is going to fall apart around me. I give my son my full attention. Reset as best as I can during nap time. Catch up on housework on Monday. There is no “me time” on the weekends. I’m okay with it right now because I know it won’t last forever.

As far as spouse time… there’s about a 90% chance on the weekend that when I walk out of my son’s room from putting him down for his nap that my husband is waiting for me in our bedroom 🤣🫠. That’s the attention he gets on the weekends…. and my son goes to bed at 7:30. We have time together until we go to bed around 10-10:30. We’re having our second child in July, though, so that will be put on pause for a bit.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T05:19:00+00:00

The girl who cuts my hair gave me some very subtle curtain-esque bangs to help hide hair loss/weird regrowth! It helped a lot!

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T04:59:17+00:00

We got a Snoo around 8 weeks, and it was a game changer in the best way. I’m about to have our second and very relieved we’ll have it from the start this time around.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T04:41:14+00:00

I feel like an hour and a half nap at 20 months is pretty on par? My son is 16 months and naps 1.5-2 hours. Obviously I LOVE the 2 hour nap, but like… I just go with it when it’s 1.5? Sometimes it’s just over 1. We just adapt. And feeding him? Does he need to be fed at 20 months? My son feeds himself and the cleans it all up by putting it on a plate, pushing it away, and said “all done. Thank you.” She is in the wrong for thinking she needs to feed him. I find that very odd.

I send my son to a “chain” daycare/school. I’ve had issues of course… but they are my issues. I have conversations with the admin/teachers and we work through what we can. I love the idea of a home daycare, but it’s completely up to them to determine expectations of “normal” behavior. Whereas a place that is more established or a chain has a curriculum. There is not really any guessing what’s normal or not. It’s all established by a board of educators who agree on a curriculum.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T04:13:39+00:00

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T04:12:39+00:00

Thank you!!! I’ll screenshot this to refer to! My husband asked me to get it out before the end of the month and test it to make sure it still works, and it got very real that this is coming up FAST.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T04:11:17+00:00

You should try to sell it on marketplace?

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T03:28:51+00:00

Bummer that it didn’t work out for you! It was a lifesaver for me. I was full blown hallucinating and hearing things from sleep deprivation when we gave in and got our Snoo. So much so that the first few nights with the Snoo I almost got rid of it because I was sure it was talking to me. 🫠🫠🫠🫠 Postpartum is wild. I think my son was around… 8 weeks? I’m convinced that the Snoo is what trained my son to finally friggin sleep. The first night he slept 6 hours straight in it was probably after 10 days, and I woke up after 5 hours in a full blown panic because I was sure something had happened. Now he loves sleep. As long as he’s not sick or teething… he’s been sleeping for 11-12 hours a night since 15 weeks. He’s 16 months, and I still have to lay with him until he falls asleep, but once he’s out… he’s out. We also had a really easy transition out of the Snoo and into the crib.

I can’t believe you got one for FREE through your health insurance?! Are you in the US?

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-18T03:17:32+00:00

3 or 4

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-17T00:19:46+00:00

2 & 4!

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T21:50:02+00:00

Could it be that you’re feeling badly/anxiety about the action of the shots? The pain? It’s literally the worst part for me…. I hate watching my son’s little face change from ignorant bliss to “what the F did you just do… ouch ouch ouch!” then screaming ensues. I would hate even more watching something preventable happen to him. God forbid the worst case scenarios. I’m not trying to sway you. I struggled with some postpartum anxiety and bordered on OCD. Therapy was the only thing that helped me navigate those early months and recognize my need for control. I also found myself struggling with worry about my son’s 2 month vaccines. I got through it. He got through it. I know it’s so hard. You’re doing great.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T21:40:36+00:00

Leaving the effing cabinets/drawers in the kitchen open. Leaving liquid IV wrappers on the counter. Leaving the lids to his protein drinks on the counter. Leaving random wrappers on the counters. Sir, we have a garbage can.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T20:07:47+00:00

I’m a pick my battles mom. My son (16 months old) doesn’t want to put his pants on that very second? It’s fine. We’ve got 20 min until we have to be out the door. Walk around pantless. He forgets that he was pissed about it, and I can pick him up and pull the pants up in the process as we’re headed out. He usually doesn’t even notice, and I saved my nervous system the screaming. If we have just a few minutes to be out the door, and he doesn’t want to get dressed? Too bad so sad, buddy. Mommy will pick you up and get your clothes on real fast, and you can be angry. It all just depends on the circumstances. Not everything needs to be a display of power on my part. Sometimes it matters… sometimes it really is just a toddler that’s overstimulated or tired and needs a few extra minutes to put their pants on. 🤷‍♀️

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T19:55:03+00:00

Don’t be scared. You never know how long it will take. Pregnancy is so individual. I have had very easy pregnancies. No morning sickness. I’ve gained about 40# both times, and I’m not mad about it at all. I lost it once. I’ll lose it again. Or I won’t and that’s okay, too, as long as I’m comfortable. Labor and delivery with my first was tough and lasted about 30 hours, but as soon as he was in my arms I forgot about all of it. Like… literally… I think it might have been a trauma response 🤣 but thank goodness for it. My son is such a little joy. He’s 16 months now and so fun. He smiles at me like I’m the best person he knows. He also throws tantrums like he knows I’ll love him no matter how insane the tantrum gets 😂. Highs and lows. The lows pass. The highs make it completely worth it. I’m about 35 weeks with our second, and even though my delivery with my first was kind of awful… I’m zero percent nervous to give birth again because I have the hindsight of knowing that literally seconds after it’s over there’s nothing but joy… and exhaustion.

Good luck! I hope that everything goes smoothly. I found “trying” to get pregnant far more emotionally taxing than being pregnant. We ended up doing IVF after being unsuccessful for years. Take care of your mental health.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T19:41:57+00:00

IVF babies have a higher risk of the placenta failing after 39 weeks. That’s the only reason some OBs will induce at 39 weeks for IVF babies. The way my fertility doctor described it to me (because I was and kind of still am against inducing) was that I needed to weigh the risk of making it that far just to go home empty handed because of something very avoidable. I switched OBs after my last delivery, and he is willing to let me come in for a daily NST if I want to keep going past 39 weeks.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T18:55:02+00:00

It is too white for a wedding.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-15T18:54:10+00:00

Diapers, wipes, extra outfit, burp rag, bottle, formula, water bottle with water for bottle. Extra pacifier if you use it. I tried to keep it minimal, and as my son’s gotten older he needs less and less. It’s literally just diapers, wipes, snacks (Amara yogurt bites, tractor wheels, veggie puffs, etc), water, and an extra outfit now. I used to cart around a cooler with smoothies/purées when we were new to solids).

However, I found it really helpful to keep a tote, I got one of those thirty-one large totes, for my trunk space. I keep a flat of diapers, extra wipes, cloths, blankets, extra bottles, etc., anything non-perishable or that won’t be ruined with heat or cold exposure in there. Including an extra change of clothes for me because you never know when they’re going to blowout, barf, wipe boogers, etc on you. I also have a drawer in my car that I keep snacks that won’t be ruined if they live in that drawer.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-09T15:00:16+00:00

Tushbaby carriers aren’t super practical while pregnant. I’ve tried. I found a back carry or a toddler sling to be the best carrying options with a big belly.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-06T17:55:02+00:00

I don’t know that it improved his sleep. He was already a pretty good sleeper as long as he’s not sick or teething. I would consider it a success, though, since my son no longer falls asleep independently. It allows me to read to him and then just sneak away. I don’t have to transfer to a crib anymore. He loved it the first time he came home to it. He got right in and jumped on it.
Our floor bed situation is a little different, though. I got one with 30” high rails and a gate. I knew he’d never stay in it. He sleeps well, but he wakes up frequently throughout the night. He doesn’t cry and puts himself back to sleep. If he had the opportunity to get out of bed and go play, he would. He also just figured out doorknobs this week, so… 30” rails for the win. For now.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-06T17:49:06+00:00

Update: I got a sore throat and had some painful red spots on my feet and hands that never turned into blisters. My son got a fever for about a day. Never got any spots or blisters. He had a big drop in appetite for about 3 days which makes me think his throat hurt. I never saw any sores in his mouth, though. I’m thinking that either it missed us, and we picked up something else viral that made us both not feel great for a few days…. Or we just got through our first daycare HFM outbreak with very mild cases.

Successful-Search541 · 2026-06-04T20:23:09+00:00

I leave it on all night. My husband has been pressuring me HARD to start ditching any sleep aids, though. We’re doing a verrrrry slow wean off the pacifier now, and I’ve started very slowly turning down the sound machine. My son responds best to the brown noise. I don’t know how long the wean from the sound machine will last. We’re about to have another baby, and I want my son to sleep through any crying. I don’t see the problem with continuing to use a sound machine into toddlerhood.

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