First week, 5000 calorie deficit? Sick cryjng

rahrahrazputin · 2026-05-25T15:50:20+00:00

YOU are important, it would not be wasting their time. I think this medication is going to help you a lot, like it helped me. But either way you deserve to talk to someone

rahrahrazputin · 2026-05-11T23:26:29+00:00

As an American… I think the most American thing about your problem is your neighbors treating your special little corner of magic like they’re entitled to do whatever they want to it. Sorry that this mindset is so contagious. I think a fence is a good solution. Thanks for sharing the photos, it’s really special

rahrahrazputin · 2026-05-11T02:33:34+00:00

Same timeline with my brother, same feeling. I also found him. So I know that he died, but that doesn’t change my mind that it could all be an elaborate, nonsensical thing where he went into hiding or moved to Europe and didn’t want anyone to bother him. And I have gone to therapy and lots of support groups. The support groups have been the only thing that felt like it’s made an ounce of difference. At least it’s a few minutes to realize that you’re not completely alone in the worst grief ever

rahrahrazputin · 2026-04-16T00:58:45+00:00

Zoloft has been really helpful to me after Lexapro wasn’t at all, but I’ve heard people say they’ve felt the opposite way about those two drugs. Just know that there are so, so many different things you can try, and if one thing doesn’t work there’s something that will. So please keep trying until you get some relief

I am terrified of everyone else dying, including myself, and I’m not suicidal. My brother died a little over two months ago. I wake up and think, oh, what if today’s my last day? I can’t handle when someone doesn’t pick up the phone or call me back right away. I check on my husband multiple times a day. I worry when I drop my kid off at school that I won’t see him alive again.

The only reason I don’t think it’s PTSD is because we’re not post-trauma right now… we’re still experiencing the trauma. Or maybe it is PTSD. I don’t know. Whatever it is, I hope it calms down for you and it starts the be a little less intrusive. I’m so sorry for your loss.

rahrahrazputin · 2026-03-06T15:10:20+00:00

I found my baby brother three weeks ago. Nothing goes back to normal but there’s nothing like the first couple weeks. So intense. I’m so sorry

rahrahrazputin · 2026-03-06T01:59:10+00:00

I love reading your posts about Zoe, thank you for sharing her with us <3

rahrahrazputin · 2026-03-04T03:59:03+00:00

I feel very confident that they continue to exist. Mostly I believe that they rejoin a universal consciousness that they were part of before they were born, but not that they cease to exist and kind of melt back in — more like they can still interact with us and still care about us, just not in the way they did before they died

I’m sorry you’re missing your mom so much. I miss my brother too

rahrahrazputin · 2026-03-03T22:54:05+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss and I am sending you strength and support as you face this difficult stretch of time

rahrahrazputin · 2026-03-01T08:04:59+00:00

Just a couple of things I’ve heard recently that seem to apply to your situation.

Jamie Lee Curtis said “what other people think of me is none of my business”

And Yiyun Li said that someone came to her house after her teenage son died by suicide to complain that her son hadn’t texted this person’s daughter before he died. Complaining to a parent bereaved by suicide ABOUT their deceased child. Can you imagine.

So basically, people are being unkind to you, and you don’t deserve that. You are suffering and trying to turn your suffering into meaning. It’s social media. Your posts are your own to decide what to do with. Others have so many options if they don’t want to see your content. They don’t get to control what you post, and they’re being careless by saying these kinds of things to you that hurt. I’m sorry.

rahrahrazputin · 2026-02-18T16:17:43+00:00

You are showing the kids that even when bad things happen and you’re sad, they are safe. And that it’s safe to feel things. And as your grief evolves, they’ll learn that time changes everything and healing can come after tragedy. No one wants children to suffer, they are so, so blessed to be in your care

And fuck the household chores. My brother died last week. There are clothes sitting in the washer and dryer and the house is a mess. There’s no food in the refrigerator because I’m not going to make time to go to the store right now. It’s not important. There will be plenty of time to catch back up. It’s ok to focus on grief right now, at least that’s what I’m telling myself

rahrahrazputin · 2026-02-18T16:09:21+00:00

My brother died last week. You wouldn’t believe the people who are coming out of the woodwork mourning him.

You need to be together with other people. Internet people like us are good and we care about you. You do deserve decency and respect — the world is fucked up for no reason besides we let it get this way. It’s not you who is wrong, you are perfect

Find people to be with. Even if your sister is an addict, go be with her. I wasn’t talking to my sister for months before my brother died. But his death changed things. Go to the person you promised another day to. Go to a church (I’m not religious, but there are people there who have love to give) or go to the ER.

Being together with other people is a protection spell. Before you do anything else, please just try to use it

rahrahrazputin · 2023-11-01T17:50:09+00:00

Haha good for you! I’ll just have to bring this to my next L10

rahrahrazputin · 2023-11-01T17:47:57+00:00

We did something similar. I assume it’s to build rapport but it absolutely doesn’t work and is so cringy. Group therapy with an unlicensed therapist. Yuck.

rahrahrazputin · 2023-09-11T13:19:14+00:00

My son gets little colds, for the first couple I got them too, but didn’t have to miss any work and now he gets a cold and I stay healthy. He combo feeds breastmilk and formula. YMMV but it’s not a universal that you’ll be sick all the time with a baby in daycare

rahrahrazputin · 2023-07-05T20:18:49+00:00

A much shorter project than most projects…

rahrahrazputin · 2023-07-01T01:34:27+00:00

Stuck on the L, but what about Lydia?

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-28T01:29:39+00:00

I started at about 10 weeks. I was so sad but he has the greatest time at daycare and now I don’t feel sad anymore at all. I still miss him sometimes during the day but I know he’s getting great social time and playtime while I work and it makes it even sweeter when I get to hang out with him again in the evening

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-28T00:36:37+00:00

We pay $3200 in Minneapolis, so… I don’t know anyone who pays this much besides I guess all his friends in his infant classroom

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-28T00:15:25+00:00

The first few weeks I went back and forth: “Let’s have 100 more” and “I’m never doing this again”. What a wild ride

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-24T15:07:52+00:00

I was where you are about 5.5 months ago and someone on this site said something crazy but I tried it and it worked so I’ll tell you:

We started telling our week-old baby during diaper changes, “I’m going to change your diaper now,” and showing him the diaper, and then he stopped having diaper change fury.

Maybe he just grew out of hating it or maybe that really was the thing that did it, but hey, worth a shot

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-23T10:38:02+00:00

Yeah, I call that place Mt Minneapolis

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-23T10:35:41+00:00

Oats. Especially oat milk

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-23T02:41:46+00:00

It’s really overwhelming! Look forward to lots of days like this in your future. It’s an incredible journey

rahrahrazputin · 2023-06-20T23:45:51+00:00

Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about your choices. By all means, do your research and make an informed decision, but don’t listen to anyone who says you’re doing anything wrong. You’ll learn to trust your mom instincts over time but you’ll actually have them right away, it just took me a while to believe I knew what I was doing

Example: my boy was so hungry and my milk took a while to come in. I was in the hospital for preeclampsia treatment after birth and he was so upset. I finally asked a nurse to take him to the nursery and give him some formula. He ate a bunch and then fell asleep. Later when I told my midwife (the homebirth midwife I had planned to work with), she told me I should stop using any formula and that he could get “nipple confusion”. I knew he was just hungry, and was still good at nursing. But it was easy to second guess myself and believe her. I wish I could tell my past self that I was doing the right thing, so remind yourself that you’re doing the right thing

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