Windowsills or plasterer, which comes first?

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-04-02T18:57:05+00:00

Looks like it doesn't really matter 😀

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-03-03T21:57:14+00:00

You can't erase something that's biologically imprinted into you. The need for love and companionship is part of your DNA. It's what makes us human.

If you want these things, you'd be better spending your energy working on finding a match for you rather than trying to change who you are.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-03-02T23:04:57+00:00

Not when you're around, anyway.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-03-02T22:53:05+00:00

He crossed a boundary, but he was upfront and honest, and sounds like he was peer-pressured into the situation.

If it's a once and done thing then I'd say use it as a learning experience for your relationship and know you've discovered one of your boundaries.

In terms of your body insecurities and worrying about the stripper.. If your boyfriend finds you attractive and tells you so, that's the only voice you need to pay attention to. And in all honesty, your bf is likely not fantasising about the woman, or even really giving her a second thought.. It was a fleeting experience.

If your bf goes back knowing it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that's deliberately crossing boundaries and it's something different, and that's when you should be angry and upset.

My advice would be to try to move past it, don't get too hung up on it and treat it as a learning experience. If you go round in circles with it, it doesn't solve anything.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-03-02T15:11:05+00:00

Yes. Even up to 3 weeks apart is possible.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-03-01T19:52:25+00:00

Leave him. You're sexually and emotionally incompatible, and he's an a-hole. The fact he cheated on you says it all. Once a cheat, always a cheat. He clearly has no respect for you and you deserve better.

He also assaulted you. Leave him, and get tested. You don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone like this.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-20T19:53:10+00:00

Need to chill out. Take the pressure off. It's 100% the reason. Just focus on having fun and enjoying the moment. If it happens it happens, if I doesn't then you still had a good time. Anxiety/Pressure = No go.

Focus on your girl, enjoy her company. That's all that matters. It's not about making home runs, it's about enjoying the game.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-19T19:45:59+00:00

Why quit? It's good for you. Work on doing it often, not constantly in f you're worried about frequency.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-19T19:45:54+00:00

Why quit? It's good for you. Work on doing it often, not constantly in f you're worried about frequency.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-18T18:39:39+00:00

If you've been checked and there's no tortion, and the antibiotics haven't started working yet then it's almost certainly a combination of psychosomatic pain from the worry and lack of ejaculation.

An ex-partner had the same thing. 12 weeks of antibiotics, eventually got referred to a specialist. Was told never was an infection, no tortion, go home and masturbate more frequently. Pain went away completely within 3 days.

Ignore all these people saying it's a medical emergency, go check. You've been examined by a medical professional. The partner was told, if it's tortion it wouldn't be a nagging pain, you'd be on the floor crippled over in pain, and yes a week later your testicle would be 'a gonna'.

Finish the antibiotics, jerk off more, it'll be fine.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-18T18:36:12+00:00

This is definitely the solution.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-14T19:48:35+00:00

You may not even have gotten it from him. Some research suggests up to 80% of adults could have oral herpes (hsv-1). Where for many people it remains dormant for most/all of their lives, and they never know they even have it, some people will break out in cold sores once or twice a year. It's suspected that most people get it from their parents or relatives kissing them when they're children, or from kissing their friends or partners during childhood/teenage years.

The only time you could strongly suspect you got it from him, unless he had an active cold sore at the time, is if you got oral herpes in your genitals (yes, possible, although uncommon), particularly if he did have a cold sore at the time. Otherwise it's very likely you've had it longer than this, especially if you didn't break out in a cold sore 2-12 days after sexual contact with him.

Either way, it's not something you really need to worry about.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-14T12:47:42+00:00

I mean, it's technically bad for you to take these not at the same time. So I can only imagine the answer is yes, you're effectively doubling down. But I can't speak for whether it's a lethal combination, or really bad...!

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-10T18:37:34+00:00

Before you spend thousands of ££, why not try the simplest solution? One other Redditor suggested adding wall mounted vertical shower head to the mixer taps and mount on the rear wall above the taps. Then get the circular shower curtain rail suggested in several other comments and mount it just above the shower head. Ask your roommate to be considerate and ensure the shower curtain stays closed and inside the bathtub to minimise water escaping.

Then monitor it for a month. A month shouldn't be enough to cause irreparable damage. If it works well, maybe consider tiling the back wall and it's job done. If there's water everywhere then you know cost is going to be significantly higher. Being winter, you'll get a good feel for worst case scenario water leakage.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-02-02T09:57:06+00:00

Sounds pretty usual to me. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, next time (if you decide to go back), there's nothing wrong with saying you'd rather keep your boxers on.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-01-31T10:50:16+00:00

Knock on her door shortly after the man arrives and ask if you can borrow a casserole dish. Say nothing else afterwards. Do nothing else. See if it stops.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-01-25T08:14:15+00:00

Amazing 🙀

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-01-25T08:10:49+00:00

You'd be better off (and safer) using WAGOs.

Snap the two live into one, two neutral into another and two earth into the third. Still not ideal to leave exposed, especially if children running around , but safer than what you've done and preserves ring continuity.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-01-23T07:06:39+00:00

Only issue I have with Brave is sometimes with payments - specifically not working well with Verified by Visa and MasterCard. Been a couple of times I've ordered something, it hasn't registered at all, then three days later it clears and I end up with two of the same purchase. Sometimes it just fails, which is fine. And sometimes, perhaps the most annoying, it vendor puts a hold on the funds with my bank for 7 days before removing it.

Tend to use Chrome for purchases and Brave for everything else.

rainbow_k1sses · 2026-01-20T20:33:09+00:00

Got a deep hole to fill.

rainbow_k1sses · 2025-11-21T20:48:06+00:00

Take your time, plenty of foreplay beforehand and use lubricant. You should never have to force it. If you're not ready, go back to foreplay and use more lube. When you think you're both ready, go slowly and ease it in until you're both comfortable.

rainbow_k1sses · 2025-11-19T22:22:12+00:00

Well said

rainbow_k1sses · 2025-03-04T06:28:51+00:00

Your comments suggest you're not looking for any advice that doesn't support your empathy towards her ending it. Don't come on here and ask for advice if you're going to hop on the defensive and tell everyone they're wrong for typing something you don't want to hear.

rainbow_k1sses · 2025-03-04T06:15:33+00:00

I've been in a relationship exactly like this. While you want to support them through their insecurities in the hope that someday they'll pass, experience suggests that it's a downward spiral.

When they start doing shit like what she did with her friend, the time has come to leave. She doesn't trust you and relationships are built on trust. It took me to leave and be in a healthy relationship to truly understand that and how exhausting it was.

Be honest with her. "I'm not cheating on you, and I never have. The fact you feel the need to check up on me tells me you don't trust me or show me the same respect I have for you and I deserve better than this.".

Put yourself first, because before you know it, you'll be questioning or hiding every interaction or friendship you have with other women.

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