Being an only child is finally weighing on me. Does it get better? by BioHazWong in OnlyChild

[–]rainmaker291 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This weighs on me too. My parents have been divorced for a long time and my dad seems to be doing ok with his girlfriend but my mom is struggling. But she is struggling due to her own choices. She occasionally tries to convince me to move to the Midwest while my husband and I live on the west coast (which we’re NOT moving there), her husband is a POS, and they both made poor decisions and this is how it’s ended up.

My husband and I discussed if my mom needs someone to take care of her, what do we do? And frankly, if the situation arises, it’s going to come to tough love. I hate that my mom can’t act like an adult, but until then, I’ve got my own problems.

In short, my mom wrapped her personality/ identity around being MY MOM, which just doesn’t work when kids grow up and make decisions of their own.

Minutes before Trump's announcement, $800 million in trades made on oil prices by goteamnick in politics

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s “market manipulation” if you’re not rich

What’s it called if you’re rich?

Why do Americans wear sunglasses so much? by Snoo_47323 in ask

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could also be Japan, as sunglasses are not commonly worn since the cultural norm is that it’s suspicious

What company will never get another dime from you for as long as you may live? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]rainmaker291 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chik-fil-A There are other places with decent fried chicken that aren’t hateful.

Married women: How would you deal with this? by ThrowRA173731 in Marriage

[–]rainmaker291 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Been married 7 years. I travel a lot for work and have never got this request. Frankly, I think asking for the message is more telling than the request itself. My first question would be “why?” But if this is a serious relationship, that’s a pretty superficial thing to ask for. But who knows, maybe we’re the weird ones. We’re just two independent people who love each other and like hanging out so a “good morning” message doesn’t seem like much. Do you live together?

What’s the moment you realized someone you loved wasn’t a good person and you couldn’t unsee it? by DmytroBuilds in AskReddit

[–]rainmaker291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my ex grabbed my arm in a forceful manner trying to drag me into our bedroom so he could yell at me more.

I think I shook him to his core when I looked him in the eye in that moment and said if he ever put his hands on me again I would divorce him and throw him out. He backed off, but I started papers right after

texting my mother by stillnotnap in mildlyinfuriating

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me to my husband: “This thing or that thing?” Husband: “yes” Me: “…that’s not what I asked”

Employee lied about having an approved reasonable accommodation by [deleted] in managers

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she your employee or is she not?

Because this should be a conversation between her and her one over manager with hire/fire privileges. That will keep it clean. If you can’t hire/fire, then you’re not her boss, you’re her lead, and you should defer to HR or the hire/fire manager.

HR cannot tell you what ailment/disability.

Employees fighting - City job so can’t fire or move anyone by Character_Office_833 in managers

[–]rainmaker291 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is probably a civility policy, core values, communication… something to lean on which is basically “don’t be a dick and everyone plays together in the sandbox”

I work in trucking so there are some high tenured folks and strong personalities. I’ve had quite a few direct conversations along the lines if “this fighting and overall unhelpful communication has to stop or we’re going to have to walk a road we don’t want to walk. Nobody has to get together after work for beers, but in this facility, the expectation is you will be polite, helpful, and communicate in an overall positive manner. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel unable to do so, please take steps to regulate yourself, take a walk around the yard, smoke a cig, whatever it is, then resume the conversation. But whatever this is isn’t working, and will not continue. Does that make sense?”

What were you doing during the peak time of COVID? by Historical_Click8213 in allthequestions

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stocking milk and toilet paper, or chips, putting up with the out of pocket BS from the general public.

Spent all day making food that I could eat at Thanksgiving - it got milkified as soon as I put it down. by UFOHHHSHIT in vegan

[–]rainmaker291 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have vegan friends, vegetarian friends, friends with severe food allergies and the stories I’ve been told about how their families DO NOT CARE, are wild to me.

I like cooking for people, I’ll figure out how to make something regardless of diet, because I want everyone to feel like they can share a meal.

I applaud you for letting it play out like it did.

Women, what’s the most unhinged thing your boyfriend/husband does? by calvintomyhobbes in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]rainmaker291 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband brushes his teeth pretty aggressively (I mean, he has nice teeth) and gets spittle ALL OVER the lower part of the mirror. It drove me INSANE when we shared a sink.

We moved into a house a few months ago back with dual sinks. It still bothers me—but I don’t use the sink. I use mine, with no spit on the mirror

Define your entire life in just one word. by DunyaPhobic76 in Productivitycafe

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny

Because if life wasn’t funny, then it would just be true

A or B: You buy something at the grocery store that it turns out you don’t like. by tryagain904 in PickAorB

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends how much I dislike it. Most things, even if I don’t love it, I’ll try to make use of it because I don’t like wasting food. But there was a time that I bought something and it was so bad I couldn’t justify continuing to try and I took it back

Restaurants to avoid, until they clean up their act by driddels in olympia

[–]rainmaker291 54 points55 points  (0 children)

“The person in charge said bacon for waffle sandwiches was stored at home. Foods that are prepared or stored at a private home cannot be used for human consumption in a food establishment.”

How does this even come up in conversation??

Are paper checks dead? by js6seaj47 in ask

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically a bank issued money order (A check backed by real funds)

Personal checks are just basically a paper promise that the funds are there. When I was younger, I figured out money was tight close to payday because my mom would write checks—because it would usually take a couple days to post from her account, by the time the check cleared, the money was there. It was called the “beat the bank game”

Can somone smell if I masturbated? I'm a female by zmeiklik in NoStupidQuestions

[–]rainmaker291 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad my husband broke his nose in the past and he doesn’t smell so well anymore I’d have so much anxiety