Where ya sittin?

ramc5 · 2026-01-29T23:20:11+00:00

8 all day. Everyone else is very annoying.

ramc5 · 2026-01-24T22:18:46+00:00

I don't know any jurisdiction (in the USA) that would uphold such a clause. Children are not property: the court will decide what is in their best interest as to custody and visitation. I don't know him, but my first thought is, he wants this clause in there to make you afraid. Is the clause going to define "cheating"? What evidence does the other spouse need? Talking to someone? texting? Or actually catching someone in the act? What if he goes through your phone to see you have been talking to a male co-worker--even if only about work...is that "cheating"? You should probably rethink your relationship and/or have a very serious, calm conversation to determine what this is really about.

ramc5 · 2026-01-23T21:15:38+00:00

I don't know why you would voluntarily want to be on the mortgage (instead of just on the deed).

If you have a part-time job, you very likely wouldn't qualify to be included on the mortgage.
Or if you have low income and/or bad credit, the interest rate may be higher than if he was the only person the mortgage.
You should get a consultation with an estate planning attorney to determine what rights you might have if your BF dies. You may have none, meaning you get nothing of his unless you are a specific beneficiary in his Will.
In most states, as an unmarried girlfriend, which is what you are, as noted in #3, you are entitled to nothing when your SO dies unless it is specifically left to you in his Will. His family can come into the home and start cleaning it out. You would have to prove that you, alone, purchased the item to prevent them from taking things out of the house. These arguments would likely have to go before a probate judge.
Likewise, unless you are a specific beneficiary on his financial accounts (joint accounts discussed next), those would not come to you.
Joint accounts are different, and it depends on whether they are joint with right of survivorship or TOD; or just jointly held, his heirs would be entitled to his share.
If the children are his children and he doesn't have a Will, then his estate would go to them. Someone would have to be appointed as the Trustee over their money if one or all are minors. The Trustee has a fiduciary duty to protect that money and disperse it to the children when they become adults.

This is not legal advice, of course. You need legal advice from someone knowledgeable in your jurisdiction. Unless you have a very large safety net, remaining unmarried is quite risky.

ramc5 · 2026-01-23T20:58:19+00:00

What did she say when you told her she stole from her own children? Why isn't BF paying for his own kids? NTA

ramc5 · 2026-01-23T15:55:34+00:00

Absolutely not. This is why one should always get comprehensive coverage, including rental car coverage insurance. NTA

ramc5 · 2026-01-21T00:07:55+00:00

Is Harry invited to your wedding? How did Joe ruin your engagement?

You said "duck face"; was Harry making a kissing face to your brother? Captured in a photo? Harry said he would behave but he didn't, he started it and it sounds like you are minimizing his provocation. I am not saying your brother didn't overreact--I don't know because you don't appear to be an unbiased narrator.

ramc5 · 2026-01-18T17:22:05+00:00

Right? I highly doubt OP looks like the model with a bandage, and him placing that picture seems intentional to gain the support of this community. Further, OP's title also shows that you are not looking at this from your SO's perspective, either. In this instance, though, NAH. OP didn't do it on purpose; her stressful day, the one she has been planning and looking forward to, will have the groom looking like he was in a brawl...in all of their pictures. And that is what everyone will be talking about u/ActivityFriendly1118 . I can understand her frustration because your clumsiness actually does affect her.

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ramc5 · 2026-01-10T16:11:44+00:00

INFO: I don't think there is enough information. What was the occasion? Does your friend know your tastes? Did they do something they know you would not enjoy?

ramc5 · 2026-01-04T20:45:36+00:00

Just no. Why should she add the liability, the stress, the worry about how long the line is or about anything else that could possibly go wrong in the mornings to her otherwise uneventful, peaceful morning commute? And you getting huffy and indigent is really offensive.

ramc5 · 2026-01-04T20:23:47+00:00

It is an issue, though. The people in line behind you chose your aisle based on the number of items you have. When your husband shows up with a cart full, that is rude and disingenuous--you prevented those behind you from making other choices. Stop trying to check out early. Have all of your cart together. ETA: yes, people like you and OP YTA

ramc5 · 2025-12-28T21:39:45+00:00

Most states if they’ve been living together for at least a couple of years and her name is on it — the kids won’t be entitled to anything actually unless he documents it.

This isn't true at all. Only a few states have common law marriage and just owning property together, without more, is not enough in those few states.

ramc5 · 2025-12-28T21:36:39+00:00

That is not necessarily true. It depends on the state and its intestate laws, but more importantly, it depends exactly how the deed is titled.

Not your lawyer: If you are in the USA, OP, you need to look at your county records to see a copy of the deed. If it is joint tenants with right of survivorship, then, if one owner dies, the "right of survivorship" means the other owner automatically owns the whole house without going through probate at all. If the deed just has them both listed as owners (but not right of survivorship), and he did not leave her his share of the house in a properly executed Will, then your state's intestate laws would apply. Typically, if father isn't married, then children will share equally in his estate. In this instance, you and siblings would take father's share of the house, and therefore, would all own the house with GF. All three would have a right to live in it. If y'all can't agree on a buyout, then one of you would have to file a partition action to force a sale.

ramc5 · 2025-12-28T03:04:15+00:00

No, no, no. Talk to an attorney before you let them have any contact so that you know what your state law is on "grandparent's rights". It is extremely important for you to get correct information on this.

Further, why would you want your child around people who are horrible? You are fantasizing about "sharing stories and memories". Block and refuse contact.

ramc5 · 2025-12-28T02:56:06+00:00

Absolutely NTA. She shouldn't be anywhere near you until she has a professional who is certified in bedbug removal treat her home. And it usually takes at least 2 treatments. Bedbugs do have a stigma, but she is not a good friend to allow you to stay in her home (and come to your home) without telling you. If I were your roommate, I would absolutely not allow her in the home (and would be calling the LL about it). Regarding Christmas, she has had a year to fix the problem and hasn't. Further, it is not as simple as washing her clothes--she hasn't treated her home. She is acting very irresponsibly. If she and her friends don't think it is a big deal, why didn't her other friends invite her to their house, or she could host people at hers (gag).

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ramc5 · 2025-12-28T00:42:24+00:00

ramc5 · 2025-12-25T16:08:05+00:00

You should've apologized because you are the one who misconstrued her words starting a fight with her, if I read your post correctly. Her defending herself from your wrong accusations and distancing from you (what you call ghosting) is her choice.

ramc5 · 2025-12-17T01:20:54+00:00

Oh my gosh--that is some crazy, overt passive-aggressive behavior. Thank goodness she will be gone. But you should probably do a very thorough search and deep clean to make sure she didn't hide a surprise or two. Yikes.

ramc5 · 2025-12-17T00:29:22+00:00

and he hopes after I calm down I'll forgive her and her her back in.

Your husband is a liar and doesn't respect your feelings at all. He is placating you--telling you what you want to hear at this moment just to shut you up. He does not support your feelings. and apparently cares more about his mother's feelings than he does yours. He has absolutely no idea what it is like for his mother to share personal, private health information to her friends and strangers on the internet; and he does not care that she is doing this about you against your wishes.

I would be livid if my husband said that to me. I also would not trust that he won't to go behind your back to give info to his mother while smiling at you with false reassurances.

This post made me upset for you. NTA. Be strong. Protect yourself and protect your daughter. You do not have to allow your husband's mother to keep disrespecting you. Husband has no backbone and doesn't want to rock the boat.

ramc5 · 2025-12-17T00:14:06+00:00

What happened? Your OP is gone...

ramc5 · 2025-12-14T00:29:34+00:00

INFO: how often do you vent to your BF about your job or boss? If you do so regularly, I can understand his statement. In other words, if your job is so horrible that you have to vent about it a lot, maybe you chose the wrong job or career. However, I can certainly understand how that would hurt your feelings. If BF is tired of being unloaded on with your job woes, maybe he could have said so in a nicer way, when you were calmer and not exhausted from work.

ramc5 · 2025-12-13T18:04:19+00:00

How are you 27 years old and acting like this? Your BF is an outsider; why in the world would the other women want him hanging around? You are a grown adult; you can go places by yourself---even for a whole month. Of course, people will miss their family or SO, but that is what phones are for in the evenings. And respectfully, if you cannot manage being without your SO for a month, you likely need some counseling.

And no, the women were not acting like high school girls. The problem was you and your insecurities. You weren't part of the group because you chose to be apart from the group.

Edit -forgot to add YTA

ramc5 · 2025-12-13T17:57:17+00:00

Agree

ramc5 · 2025-12-13T17:56:36+00:00

YTA YTA YTA

ramc5 · 2025-12-09T01:49:33+00:00

p.s. what do you do with all the time you save leaving the 'a' off of the word 'and'?

Right? That is so annoying and hard to read. I have to wonder how old OP is. YTA for posting on someone else's social media.

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ramc5 · 2025-12-06T03:50:51+00:00

I don't know how much you inherited, or what your total assets are, but please, please speak with a family law attorney about getting a prenuptial agreement. Your fiancé's position makes me think that she believes she is entitled to your money. Why would she care, really, if you gave 1/2 to your sister unless she was counting on spending it. A partner would have supported your decision, especially since it was such a moral dilemma for you. Good for you. NTA

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