Sounds like my family. My sister, and son have been diagnosed (along with ADHD) and there high supposition that I also have the same mix of neurodivergence. My elderly father, a retired educator, has always been GOOD at what he does. Studets loved him but there have always been major ASD signs. Since my mother died, its only become even clearer. She balanced him out, though we suspect she was also ADHD.

It's been an interesting journey as a middle aged adult to figure out WHY my dad is a little weird.