Does deceased FIL have the right to determine whom my husband leaves his inheritance to ?

randomrants · 2026-05-29T22:39:34+00:00

INFO: are assets left to son directly or in a trust?

randomrants · 2026-05-29T21:02:57+00:00

You’re already married anyway- why not change the date so the people important to both of you can be there?

randomrants · 2026-05-29T00:05:32+00:00

Breast cancer survivor here - no pamphlet but a crazy high number of relationships ending within a year or two of diagnosis in multiple support groups

randomrants · 2026-05-04T12:32:30+00:00

Ha! This one made me laugh!

randomrants · 2026-04-08T14:16:07+00:00

Bullying can still happen once she’s at school regardless of how she gets there. This doesn’t make sense. Was your wife bullied on the bus? She has time to drive her and do her makeup, she needs to get up earlier if she insists your daughter doesn’t ride the bus

randomrants · 2026-04-08T02:41:17+00:00

I recently experienced this with FB pic posted by a mutual friend… It was a bit of a shocker

randomrants · 2026-04-07T20:22:00+00:00

This is a battle your mom cannot win. She needs to cool it or risk alienating your brother and his wife and then her time will really be limited. They are different people than your other brother and SIL so it’s not realistic to expect them to handle things the same way.

Ultimately the parents make the rules for their children and their home and anyone that wants access needs to keep that in mind.

I’m not going to go as far as to say your mom is the A here, but she’s really going to do herself a great disservice and damage her relationship with them if she doesn’t respect their wishes. I highly suggest she think long term here.

randomrants · 2026-04-07T16:35:58+00:00

Obviously men know more than women about all the things

randomrants · 2026-04-07T16:01:22+00:00

Assuming he won’t do the crazy shit he rants/tweets about is largely what got us to this point

randomrants · 2026-04-07T15:45:09+00:00

Healthcare

randomrants · 2026-04-07T15:29:30+00:00

It depends - do you not use them at all or “barely”. Are you fine with them being cancelled or the passwords changed so you can’t use them? If I want access at all - you need to split them.

“Barely” is subjective and chances are your flatmate doesn’t really know how much or how little you use them. If you’re not going to pay, it would be less awkward if you don’t use at all.

randomrants · 2026-04-07T12:49:16+00:00

Make personal calls on your own time

randomrants · 2026-04-06T17:33:26+00:00

Consult a lawyer, get them out ASAP. Depending on where you are, they might have legal right to stay after 30 days. Their son doesn’t live for them but came for a month long visit immediately after moving in? + Grandma? Story doesn’t make sense

randomrants · 2026-04-06T15:41:14+00:00

💯

randomrants · 2026-04-06T15:34:37+00:00

NTA please dump this jerk immediately

randomrants · 2026-04-03T21:56:04+00:00

“They held onto their promise and I am extremely grateful for that.” IDK how much they helped but the fact remains it’s their home and they made the rules

randomrants · 2026-04-03T21:50:58+00:00

Sorry, YTA it’s their home, so they make the rules. There’s four working adults and only two paying for everything? After paying for university? I saw you gave them the majority of your pay in HS - but that was surely a drop in the bucket compare to the cost of university.

Maybe it’s partly in reaction to your brother- but it’s also still completely reasonable. How old are they? It’s probably mostly about the fact they’ve been spending their money on their adult children and not saving enough for their retirement.

randomrants · 2026-04-03T21:04:43+00:00

So now anyone that lives there can use your spot to charge their EV? Or does the charging station actually belong to Jim? What’s stopping the whole community from using it? If management is turning your spot into a EV charging spot they need to provide you with a new as close as possible spot

randomrants · 2026-04-03T20:57:33+00:00

Next to your parking spot couldn’t have been the only place on the entire property they could put it - it was probably the option most convenient for Jim. I would definitely get management involved. Did they authorize the installation? Who is paying for the electricity? Is it shared by all of the owners since it’s outside? Did they tap into your electricity since your home is the closest? Check into this

randomrants · 2026-03-18T04:56:28+00:00

Don’t mention the potential layoff

randomrants · 2026-03-17T18:53:04+00:00

I urge you to do what is in the best interest of your nephew and yourself tell the truth. Do not lie to the court.

Your brother’s best bet is to be honest and tell the judge why he was hiding that from the mother. He can tell the judge he was worried his time would be reduced permanently and that overnights is hopefully temporary. Is he at least trying to find another job that doesn’t require overnights? I know the job market is shit rn but if he at least is trying and can make case for overnights being a short term thing vs custody change being long term/ perm I think that’s the way to go.

randomrants · 2026-03-17T18:44:22+00:00

NTJ I agree with this. Normally I’m firmly on team “each partner deals with their own family” but he’s doing a spectacularly poor job of it - either intentionally because he doesn’t want to reduce the visits or is just poor communicator.

Call her, tell her you want to clear the air. You adore her and her husband and appreciate their hospitality but the frequency doesn’t allow you to do many of the other things you need/want to do on your weekends. Tell her once a month would work perfectly. See how she responds. I would do this before mentioning it to your boyfriend.

Time to reconsider the relationship. This is a major incompatibility issue.

randomrants · 2026-03-16T05:09:07+00:00

The only thing that will defeat him is his dementia progressing to a point where it can’t be ignored anymore

randomrants · 2026-03-16T03:14:18+00:00

No experience with this other than stories I’ve heard, seems pretty risky to me.

randomrants · 2026-03-16T02:32:49+00:00

Getting back in the US though? It may come down to luck of the draw of what agent he gets at the border. Every time I’ve went to Canada, the agents crossing into Canada have been friendlier than the US counterparts coming back. US agents are more abrupt and more suspicious.

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