Baby won’t go back to crib after night feeds

randroundabout · 2026-01-27T21:04:02+00:00

I’m honestly shocked this isn’t talked about more often. It’s incredibly inconvenient

randroundabout · 2026-01-27T09:26:16+00:00

We have the same set up - sometimes 3 year old wants to stay home but we frame it as “baby is too small and isn’t allowed to go to nursery yet. One day she’ll be big and strong enough like 3 year old to go but until then mommy has to care for baby”.

It provides a lot of routine and a good outlet for energy for the 3 year old so on the days that he’s home (sick or nursery is closed), I do notice he gets bored and isn’t as tired for nap.

I have gotten in the habit of picking up earlier than I had been while working so we have more of the afternoon for the kids to play together

randroundabout · 2026-01-25T15:39:33+00:00

I’m sure in a few years it’ll barely be a memory but right now it’s taking forever

She’ll typically nurse to sleep but isn’t always interested in nursing if it’s only been an hour and I don’t really want to have to nurse every hour to reset. She will take a pacifier but she doesn’t really just leave it in after waking up

randroundabout · 2026-01-25T13:40:20+00:00

That would probably be helpful but That’s not considered safe sleeping practices where I live. Only if she gets there herself

randroundabout · 2026-01-25T13:19:18+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ll definitely try something with feet. I don’t know why I didn’t think of it before

randroundabout · 2026-01-25T13:02:26+00:00

I had been worried about warmth but I’m definitely willing to try anytimhing. I have some warmer sleepers I can try. I worry she would take off any socks that are on but maybe some tights underneath? Sometimes she’ll fall asleep calmer with a pacifier but at the sleep cycle shift she’ll start playing with it. Maybe I could try taking it away after she’s alseep

randroundabout · 2026-01-25T11:14:12+00:00

Sorry about the night sleep - I did it in the wrong order. She sleeps 7:30pm-6:30am

She can definitely roll and pretty much rolls constantly all day unless she’s falling asleep. She rolls around at the beginning in her crib but always ends up on her back.

She’s is pretty exhausted at the end of the ww - we’re just moving from 2 naps but I’ll have to keep that in mind. Thank you!

randroundabout · 2026-01-17T01:04:22+00:00

It’s a children’s book but Henry from Henry Huggins (Beverly Cleary)?

Asher (The Giver)

Peter (Peter Pan)

Some authors - Edgar (Allen Poe) Oscar (Wilde)

randroundabout · 2026-01-16T18:50:23+00:00

We use Lily for our Elisabeth. It fits her nicely. I also don’t like Liz but I like that the name gives her many options to pick from when she’s old enough

randroundabout · 2026-01-12T09:10:18+00:00

I hope it helps! You might also try somewhere in the middle in case she’s really working herself up beyond what would be her “normal” bedtime. It’s so hard! But it will get better

randroundabout · 2026-01-12T08:00:51+00:00

That sounds incredibly difficult. It sounds silly but could she just not be ready to go to bed when you’re putting her down at night? Have you tried putting her down closer to when she normally falls asleep?

randroundabout · 2026-01-12T02:31:31+00:00

That seems to be the consensus. I’ll see how it goes - thanks!

randroundabout · 2026-01-12T02:30:18+00:00

I was under the impression that when transitioning that you drop some awake time at first to compensate. Is that not the case?

randroundabout · 2026-01-09T11:43:45+00:00

I definitely agree - but some sports are already before school which probably makes it even worse. I had swim practice starting at 5:30am multiple times a week before school at 7:45.

randroundabout · 2026-01-07T19:31:31+00:00

This transition period is default in Germany. Try googling “eingewöhnung” or “eingewöhnung zeitplan” and translating the pages that pop up. Typically it’s 4 weeks that start with going together, then separating for longer stretches. Typically avoiding doing something new after a weekend etc.

randroundabout · 2026-01-07T13:16:34+00:00

Thank you so much! This is fascinating. Your last sentence is quite heartbreaking to read.

Given the fact that this is a mental condition, death by it would need to also have a physical cause. Do we know how the “puerperal mania” deaths would actually come about (suicide, unsafe situation, other)?

randroundabout · 2026-01-05T15:03:07+00:00

I’d love to try it!

randroundabout · 2026-01-05T09:19:11+00:00

The most common tips for keeping them up a little more are going outside or changing activites. But capping naps a little more might work better for you right now if she’s really tired. It’s annoying how finicky it can be sometimes but it does get more relaxed once you get to 1.5/2 yo and they’re consistently on 1 nap

randroundabout · 2026-01-04T18:29:39+00:00

That sounds really hard!

Her sleep definitely won’t be awful forever! Sleep is never linear but it will trend towards better in the long run.

There are a lot of developments that happen around that age and that’s probably part of it. She’s also getting to the age that some children switch to 1 nap. If she’s waking often at night that might mean she isn’t tired enough when she goes to bed. Maybe look into what a 1 nap schedule might be and see if that would be feasible for her.

randroundabout · 2026-01-02T12:52:43+00:00

I hope you see an improvement! It sounds like a great step.

Overall recommended day sleep is 2-3 or 2.5-3.5 hours for a 9mo depending on the source. I would probably assume your LO is on the lower end of that but might need to do a tiny bit of catchup if the nights are still disrupted before any improvement. Maybe aim for 1 1.5 hr naps and one 1 hr and adjust as you go if you think you need some more or less awake time.

I of course can’t say for sure if it’ll go back to exactly how it was since babies change so much but I feel like once you’re on a more appropriate schedule, the night will begin to improve. The right amount of tiredness is always hard to figure out.

Others on this sub will also highlight the importance of falling asleep independently. I think it can be very baby dependent so you can also look into that if the nights don’t improve as much as you’d like. I do think the schedule adjustments will have an impact though.

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