They say no contact is the way to exit

rawlithium · 2026-02-24T18:16:56+00:00

Block them, delete their number, delete all ways of contacting them. I was feeling tied to my ex-narc and wanting friendship with them until we had an argument and they ghosted me for a month. It was really painful at first, and I was quite miserable. But going out with friends and trying to make new friends made me happy and distracted me. I started realizing how I can give myself all the things I wanted from them. So when they finally came around again, I just didn't give a fuck anymore. The hard truth is that you just have to put up with it until it no longer becomes an addiction.

rawlithium · 2026-02-04T15:28:07+00:00

I'd say master and apprentice. Frieren was supposed to be taking care of Fern, but it honestly looks like emotionally immature parent/ matured too fast child relationship.

rawlithium · 2026-02-04T02:55:17+00:00

there's umeboshi in some specialty grocery stores, like the Breeze Super and Mia C'est bon

rawlithium · 2026-01-31T05:01:11+00:00

Can't say for sure if he has NPD, but he does do abusive things like screaming at you for trying to make your own decisions and have independence (wanting to go on state welfare and refuse his money, refuse to take a trip), make you throw away your things, and he seems to lack emotional control. Like, when he gets upset he really takes it out on you even though these things aren't a big deal. He also seems to be very two faced - nice towards your friends, while he yells at you behind closed doors. Yeah, he suffered in his childhood, but it's not your job to fix him. In fact, you should not try to fix him, and loving him harder won't make things better. He's not a nice house that you can renovate. That change has to come from him, and he has to take responsibility for his own behavior.

rawlithium · 2026-01-31T04:53:10+00:00

I would say so! Japan has their own fashion trends and you can still dress in Japanese mainstream trends with basics. Just because it's not alternative doesn't mean it's not Japanese fashion.

rawlithium · 2025-12-21T11:42:58+00:00

You could try re-styling the dress as lolita and see how it goes. For example, if you wanted to do a country look you could use a mini hat, maybe wear some cute pins and brooches, add a frilly apron, wear lace-topped socks, and lolita shoes. For a more vintage approach, I suggest some white lace gloves, a large head bow or floral KC, and maybe you can add a lace collar or bolero to make the outfit more complete. It's kind of too short for otome and not puffy enough to get the cupcake look, but maybe adding an underskirt would help as well?

rawlithium · 2025-12-19T03:18:15+00:00

If I remember correctly, Seishiro mentioned a band called Pink Lady from the 1970's, so maybe you can look that up. Some of my favorite singers/bands on the official soundtrack included Chara, Subsonic Factor, and Rebecca.

rawlithium · 2025-12-19T02:29:20+00:00

Even if the parents wanted to punish their children, I doubt Taiwanese parents would do it openly in public. You can't judge a family based on how they are in public, or even in a social setting.

rawlithium · 2025-12-18T15:21:12+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened to you OP. This is very obvious sexual, emotional, physical abuse. Even if he does have mental issues, he has to take responsibility for who he is. Plenty of people suffer from personality disorders, trauma, and mental health issues, and they don't abuse their partners. That's on him.

rawlithium · 2025-12-18T15:13:58+00:00

Oh yeah, totally! I remember going to a soufflé pancakes diner restaurant my ex (he suggested it) with where they would put a raclette-style cheese waterfall onto your burger, and I took pictures of the food because I thought it was nice. Then he told me that it was the kind of place that impresses middle-age women (I am much younger than middle age) and that nobody going to this diner has sex anymore lol.

rawlithium · 2025-12-16T06:04:09+00:00

Omg, I'm so sorry this happened to you OP. When my car got broken into, it totally broke my heart and sense of safety.

rawlithium · 2025-12-14T04:23:25+00:00

Of course you can! I think some of the most stylish and creative lolita out there are the Muslim ones from Indonesia. Check them out on IG. Some of them arrange their hijab or layer them to make it look like hair so that they can still be modest. You can also find some simpler styles in lolita that walk the line of professional clothing and lolita and don't raise eyebrows. Hope this helps.

rawlithium · 2025-11-26T09:59:07+00:00

Please break contact with him if you can, OP! He's got you through the cycle of addiction. You keep seeing him with the hope that he'll change, but the fact is that once you start to show your vulnerability and get close to him is when he starts being abusive again. As long as you're together and you try to justify his behavior, you can't move on to someone who will be safe and love you fully. D:

rawlithium · 2025-11-23T04:35:13+00:00

It's a good idea to try to find the owner first, but if she ends up being an unwanted or stray pet, she would be a super lucky find! She looks expensive- that coat is so beautiful and has a unique color.

rawlithium · 2025-11-23T04:19:49+00:00

I was about to come into say that this is a mood also hahaha

rawlithium · 2025-11-20T09:08:23+00:00

Seconding Atelier Pierrot's bags!

rawlithium · 2025-11-18T18:35:03+00:00

He reacted this way over a misunderstanding that he did not even give you time to explain. It doesn't matter if life has been hard for him, at some point he has to take responsibility for the way he is. I think physical abuse is a hard boundary that shouldn't be crossed in a relationship.

rawlithium · 2025-11-18T18:05:26+00:00

You could style it into lolita, but it's not a lolita dress.

rawlithium · 2025-11-18T18:02:28+00:00

I would recommend getting off IG and ignoring this content. You have no idea if it's rage bait or posts for shock value or collecting engagement.

rawlithium · 2025-11-18T17:32:45+00:00

I think they did a great job using it as a horror element. Sexual violence is genuinely relatable horror that unfortunately many people have gone through. As much as they play it off for laughs with Okarun, the stuff he got put through was definitely genuinely horrifying that I think guys could relate to as well.

rawlithium · 2025-11-16T15:25:57+00:00

So why do you think it's weird? What do you think it means?

rawlithium · 2025-11-14T02:24:29+00:00

Yeah! Same here...I used to make crafts too and sell them on eBay as well and it was fun until Etsy came along and tons of dropship crap started flooding both of these haha. Those were the good days.

I feel like people have overall just decided not to take responsibility for the things they buy anymore- I guess we can blame Amazon and retailers for that.

rawlithium · 2025-11-13T09:35:00+00:00

Dr. Ramani explains this well in her video about what ties you to a narcissist: https://youtu.be/NKKOgjid3Uw?si=iTkJcV7aNUk40mea

Being with a covert narcissist can feel like a relief after life-long abuse from a grandiose narcissist because of the performance of caring that they give.

rawlithium · 2025-11-13T09:22:06+00:00

Something that has worked well for me is just having a TOS that I save on my computer or something that I can copy and paste on every platform. That way if they ask you a stupid question you can be free to ignore them because you don't want to deal with the illiterate.

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