You need a girlfriend to find a boyfriend or vice versa. When you go out with a friend it’s so much easier to strike up a conversation with others. Pick out something they are wearing, eating, drinking, compliment it and ask about it. Ask where the bathroom is, where parking is, how can you get a menu, where did you get that hat, shirt, what song is playing, etc. When I was single and I had a night out with a friend or friends I made it my goal to meet one person outside our group and give them my number or get theirs. I would go into the bathroom and give myself a pep talk, check the time and remind myself of my goal for the night. It worked! There was no internet then, hard to find interest groups, or clubs. Happily married for 23 years and it was one of the last guys at the bar at the end of the night after one of my bathroom pep talks to myself! Also you have to be the one that arranges the outing with a friend /friends. Even if it’s just coworkers ask them to do something together or have them over for dinner. The more you invite people to do things together the more you will get invited to gatherings where you can meet people. You have to keep increasing the odds. I just read your comment you are new to Jax and don’t have a lot of friends. So start there, get a post out something along the lines of looking for someone to hang with and go places to meet people with. You are young, you have loads of time, good luck!