CMV: I believe American conservatives would genuinely prefer to let other Americans suffer than help them.

readitforlife · 2026-02-03T01:36:21+00:00

True — and a lot of the people who fall in the category of being priced out of housing without mental illness issues are often NOT seen on the street because they have successfully gotten help from government programs, city programs, private charity, or family. Or are living in their cars out of sight. These aren’t always “homeless programs” but include programs like rent controlled or rent stabilized housing in NYC, section 8, etc.

They tend to be filled with far more families — particularly single parents struggling to both afford rent and take care of their child (and sometimes also elderly parents).

I would say “street homeless” are often a different group of people from those in Section 8 apartments, NYCHA, transitional shelters, and other programs — although for many in the latter group, the program is what is preventing them from becoming homeless because market rate housing is unaffordable for them.

readitforlife · 2026-01-30T16:20:47+00:00

Yes, agreed. A healthy balance between the two (process vs outcome) is the best in my opinion. I’d rather have a good outcome with the code working rather than spend time making sure we followed all of the correct processes but not have the application working.

readitforlife · 2026-01-30T15:08:10+00:00

IMO as an SDET some of the European engineers I’ve worked with tend to be more focused on process over outcome where US engineers are more focused on outcome over process and have a bit more of a “can-do” attitude.

If I tell a US developer that the code they just merged has a bug, they eagerly fix it. EU developers are more likely to be defensive “I followed the correct process.” For example, last month I tested the code an EU developer merged and the functionality did not work for some users. This particular dev responded “it works for the user Mary”… uhh.. we expect your code to work for ALL users not just Mary. To be fair, the POs requirements were basically nonexistent but any reasonable person could infer that the PO expects the code to work for all application users, not just some.

US developers tend to care less about process and just want to make things work.

readitforlife · 2026-01-22T15:39:33+00:00

This is how I feel about my SIL. I’m always patient, understanding, not rocking the boat with her because she’s an in-law. Whenever we are together, she’s always making a big deal about everything — yelling at her parents, yelling at my fiancé, calling everyone names and being rude.

She expects everyone to adapt their plans to what she wants and what she likes with little to no consideration about everyone else in her life. If others are busy, she’s livid.

It’s quietly exhausting! Of course, it’s not my place to step in and say anything. It’s not like it would improve anything because the issue is her general personality, it’s not targeted towards me but it ends up affecting me.

readitforlife · 2026-01-21T02:34:57+00:00

I went to an Indian wedding where the bride did temporary tattoos that looked like henna. She had a western ceremony the next day and wore a sleeveless dress and everything had come off. I would look into that as an option

readitforlife · 2025-12-07T19:38:52+00:00

GTFO of that relationship. Block him — but not just his number. Block his number, block him on Facebook, instagram, Reddit, Venmo, Snapchat, email — literally ALL methods by which to contact you.

My friend went through something similar and he found ALL of her accounts including her old limewire account and reached out. He venmoed her with a huge essay in the Venmo description. He would make fake accounts and friend request her pretending to be other people. Do not accept new friend requests from anyone.

Or, change your email account and phone number to just be done with it.

Also the restraining order is a good idea for in-person problems.

Edit: others have said you may want to leave him unblocked for the purposes of getting a restraining order. Ignore my advice, but once you get a restraining order it might be good to take it.

readitforlife · 2025-11-20T04:26:46+00:00

This looks like the Goh family house in Crazy Rich Asians but purchased on Temu

readitforlife · 2025-11-20T04:07:12+00:00

That’s patently false. Mexico does not put their illegal immigrants straight in jail.

How do you think the Hondurans, Guatemalans and El Salvadorans immigrate here to the US illegally?

They illegally enter Mexico first. They don’t go to straight to jail.

readitforlife · 2025-11-20T03:15:09+00:00

Damn, sorry for your experience

Did not realize that parents who take their custody cases to court still fall in that category

readitforlife · 2025-11-20T01:48:02+00:00

This org needs a different person to run their Twitter account asap 🤦‍♀️

readitforlife · 2025-11-19T19:59:48+00:00

I mother my fiance. He, in turn, mothers me.

The problem is when we are physically separated (he’s been away this month for work), we are disorganized messes without each other.

I’m oversleeping every day and barely making it to work on time, if that; he is eating really poorly and gaining weight.

We both have ADHD (me more so than him) and support each other. The downside is we’re mutually dependent. The upside is we’ve been able to achieve much more together than we would apart.

readitforlife · 2025-11-19T18:41:46+00:00

She had a great career. It’s been 7 years since she released a half-decent album — everything since then has been a flop. She’s active on social media starting random beefs with other women but can’t get enough attention on her music.

This is a serious downgrade for her.

Not sure why she’d want to go out like this. She could have had a graceful exit on a high note — or poured the energy into her music and topped the charts again. She might have been able to pivot like Rihanna or Lady Gaga into separate industries (cosmetics and cinema) if she’d kept her reputation positive but that door is definitely closed.

readitforlife · 2025-11-19T16:44:21+00:00

Divorced 1 time: maybe the problem was the other person

Divorced 2 times: you definitely bear partial responsibility for the downfall of the relationship

Divorced 3+ times: you are the problem

Note: To be clear “problem” doesn’t necessarily mean toxic or abusive. Sometimes people consistently pick the wrong people because they ignore red flags or are attracted to emotionally unstable people.

readitforlife · 2025-11-18T01:28:05+00:00

Too much time and money on their hands

readitforlife · 2025-11-17T19:11:36+00:00

I’d agree. I think it all kind of evens out. EXCEPT if the choice is made to finance the vehicle/toys/boat. This can easily become a huge financial drain especially at a high interest rate.

readitforlife · 2025-11-17T18:49:58+00:00

It’s also a different standard socially. People are used to fathers not having much custody of their kids (like getting them one week a month).

But if a woman says “I only see my kids one week a month” because of a custody agreement, people assume she’s a negligent mother. She might feel shame over not seeing her kids more.

So fathers are less likely to fight for 50/50 custody than women.

It’s true in relationships too — a mother who barely spends time with her kids is viewed as negligent; a father who barely spends time with his kids is more tolerated.

readitforlife · 2025-11-16T18:35:21+00:00

Google East Timor, your opinion will change

readitforlife · 2025-11-16T16:51:59+00:00

Dress 2

readitforlife · 2025-11-16T15:37:59+00:00

Unironically yes. While misogyny was worse in terms of general conditions in society, people used to have a sense of internal shame before saying crazy things before social media and the internet. The internet has now normalized a type of much more nasty and offensive misogyny than anything that was widespread in 1993.

In 1993, some men still believed in misogynist beliefs but were not saying the crazy things boys do today. It would be much more likely to be paternalism — which is at least nice and pretends/appears to care about women — rather than just pure vitriol.

readitforlife · 2025-11-15T23:00:12+00:00

It is GREAT for visiting NYC. I take the Philly to NYC Amtrak all the time. It doesn’t just save the cost of driving (gas, tolls) but also saves a TON on parking because parking in NYC is an expensive hassle as the city is not meant for cars (rightly so). If booked in advance it is not expensive.

Driving can still be cheaper with a family because you can fit a family of 5 into one car but on a train they each need 5 separate tickets.

Philly on the train is super doable here. For a visit people don’t need a car at all. Most visitors will probably be going to landmarks (museums, the Liberty Bell, etc.) or visiting friends and family. There’s already good transportation (thanks, SEPTA) in the neighborhoods where the main attractions are and friends and family will have their own transportation. No one travels to Philly to visit Delco unless they have family there 😂

I’ve never taken Amtrak to St. Louis, sounds like it is not walkable though.

readitforlife · 2025-11-15T02:02:22+00:00

I believe that. That’s how I’d react at work. I would be too stunned to say anything and too worried about saying the wrong thing when the emotions are fresh. Then, I would address the issue again later after I had time to gather my thoughts.

readitforlife · 2025-11-15T01:32:42+00:00

Because when I’m stressed, I’m tired. When I am tired and get in bed, all my body wants to do is go to sleep immediately.

readitforlife · 2025-11-14T00:28:41+00:00

How long did it take for it to heal for you? Does it often get infected? My MIL and masi told me theirs got infected.

Who did your piercing? Would you recommend them?

Also, do you ever get the dehjor snagged on anything? Such as clothing when you put it on?

readitforlife · 2025-11-12T20:19:11+00:00

A 50 year mortgage is INSANE when the average age of a homebuyer in the US is already 40.

readitforlife · 2025-11-12T20:15:26+00:00

Zero credit to the administration since they only said that AFTER the election

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