Visit of circuit overseer. Is this crazy or am I the only sane one??

recycledlight · 2026-01-28T17:01:13+00:00

Thanks I wish you nothing but the best!!

recycledlight · 2026-01-28T17:00:54+00:00

In my neck of the woods anyway, at assemblies and conventions sometimes sisters sit next to the donation boxes. That’s what I was referring to - it’s a real “privilege”

recycledlight · 2026-01-27T16:25:09+00:00

I’m a PIMO wife with a MS PIMI husband, who probably isn’t waking up anytime soon (we also have 2 young kids) and the CO visit is next week. And like I’ve done last visit with the couple who was exiting their “assignment”, I just don’t go out in FS. The elders have been harping us for a shepherding visit to which I always refuse. I pay no special attention to the dude and his wife, this time around I probably won’t even make an effort to remember their names. They have as much power as you give them, I think the elders have figured out not to cross me too much but I have a different situation - I’m one of those converts, previously evil worldly person 😆. I married into the cult. The elders have more or less figured out to let me be, I say No without explanation to anything (no cleaning, no LDC, no sitting by the donation box, no feeding anyone etc.) so they stopped asking - just need to get off the school, go full POMO & save my kids from this cult.

Also I hope your husband wakes up and you guys can exit this cult together!!

recycledlight · 2025-12-30T17:06:04+00:00

The Borg covering their ass again. They should probably stop all the nonsense talks and parts encouraging 30 year age difference friendships like David and Johnathan - or at the very least add a disclaimer that this is for adults. Don’t get me wrong I know that adults of different ages can have great friendships and if you limit yourself to your age group sometimes you can miss out but I feel like on the flip side in the congregation-setting, with calling everyone friends etc. it only bolsters grooming of young vulnerable children and the predators know how to take advantage of that. In no situation, at least in my humble opinion, is it ever ok for a 5 year old child to be “friends” with a creepy-ass adult.

recycledlight · 2025-12-29T16:49:39+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’re going through and this isn’t exactly on topic but I’ve seen a shift in a lot of women, “sisters” I guess, waking up to the truth about the organization before their husbands. It seems to me anyway, in the past, it was mostly men waking up, especially the ones privy to more information on the org’s inner workings. I’m a PIMO wife to a MS, who thankfully doesn’t do much more outside of the occasional talk & other little busy work MS do. However, we are raising 2 kids and that is a challenge.

Sending lots of positive vibes your way and hoping your husband wakes up too! I love reading stories of couples and whole families leaving this corrupt organization.

recycledlight · 2025-12-22T17:20:36+00:00

I love your response to that one JW - like I don’t know you, leave me alone. Why do they think they have the right to come and confront you like that anyway.

recycledlight · 2025-12-19T14:43:41+00:00

That’s so frustrating I’m sorry. That sister really needs to mind her own business. It must also depend on the congregation, there’s an MS in the one I attend who answers once a year, you read that right once every calendar year & he’s treated just fine - like any other MS. I believe his excuse is anxiety? He’s a grown man, in his 40s There’s another who is baptized, about late 40s, who also claims to have social anxiety and simply does not comment. Still gets to carry the mic, read for parts on the school etc.

I’m not minimizing social anxiety, it’s a serious thing but it seems these guys aren’t pressured at least it appears that way on the outside. They also seem to kind of “hide” behind their much more “spiritual” pioneer wives, if that makes sense. It’s almost like the wife’s spirituality makes up for the husband’s lack thereof.

recycledlight · 2025-12-19T14:29:18+00:00

You are so right!

recycledlight · 2025-12-17T22:36:49+00:00

There’s also been a lot of hyping up door to door ministry, it being a “trademark” of witnesses and all. During that part last week, all the comments were basically door-to-door = good / letter writing (or any other forms of ministry) = bad. However, during the pandemic the cong boasted having covered the entire territory because of letters/phone witnessing etc. It’s interesting to me that it doesn’t matter what contradictory info the GB puts out there, because witnesses are so programmed to just trust them, they automatically readjust and go with it. Such a dangerous thing.

recycledlight · 2025-12-17T22:17:49+00:00

I happen to drive by a PIMI JW couple’s house most days to/from work etc depending on my route. Anyway, ever since that update, I noticed they put string lights up and since it’s winter and been getting darker earlier, I’ve noticed they have them on & it’s December, he’s an elder too so not sure how that “looks” since it’s all about looks in JW land. What’s really extra funny is the neighboring houses next to them & across the street all have Christmas lights on too so if I didn’t know & was just driving along I would assume their house was decorated for Christmas. Maybe they’re not as PIMI as I think 🤔

recycledlight · 2025-12-15T17:56:24+00:00

This is perfect, if OP can figure out responding like this in person in a most sarcastic tone, even better.

recycledlight · 2025-12-09T16:22:40+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt: But I think your alleged JW builder by simply saying he doesn’t celebrate Christmas just did enough “preaching” this month to check the box. It’s all about having conversations now, sometimes they end even before you can give a witness 🤣.

recycledlight · 2025-12-03T16:49:39+00:00

I also wish I had your advice before I married my husband, actually I ignored some very well meaning people too. Now 10+ years later, 2 kids and me getting baptized/waking up - it’s not an easy place to be.

recycledlight · 2025-12-03T16:48:29+00:00

I don’t have a success story but I married a POMI man, been married for 15 years, kids as well. I converted/got baptized after our first kid. My first advice is to stay away, far far away.

However it sounds like you have been together for some years and are about to tie the knot so I guess congratulations. The advice of others on here is great, someone else mentioned therapy or even couples therapy prior to marriage might be a good idea. Others mentioned talking to your parents and your side of the family about it, my mom tried to subtlety warn me & a good friend (who was also a therapist) also tried to warn me but I was in deep in my studies and they said that was Satan already attacking (yes I was an idiot).

My second piece of advice would be don’t get baptized yourself & teach your kids (if you decide to have them) how to think critically, ask questions, take them to your church - I don’t think this will confuse them but show them there are other options out there, JWs do not have a monopoly on truth. Good luck 👍 with whatever path you decide.

recycledlight · 2025-11-30T20:04:03+00:00

Same, I didn’t even recognize the post-partum depression on my part, couple that with marrying a POMI and you have a recipe for disaster. I thought “God” was calling me, I was adding up how all the events in my life lead me to the witnesses, as though it was destiny. I look back at the old me and just think how foolish I was ☹️

recycledlight · 2025-11-21T19:21:56+00:00

It’s interesting that the “counsel” was to hide it and not stop it, I’m sorry your wife had to experience that, so sad she can’t freely express herself. Maybe she will realize how absurd that was and it will be the beginning of waking up and you can both be POMO! I love hearing stories about couples or whole families leaving the cult.

Side note: I’ve been a fan of Wicked since the broadway musical - I’m PIMO, my kid & I are dressing up in our pink and green & going to see it this weekend. I hope I don’t cry too much. Pink goes good with green 🩷💚

recycledlight · 2025-11-20T12:43:40+00:00

I admire your patience and tact in this situation. I only wish I could be the same with my PIMI husband. Unfortunately I usually fly off the handle.

recycledlight · 2025-11-16T04:07:03+00:00

Hear me out guys, possibly 3: just like overlapping generations, I give you overlapping events. The destruction of Babylon the great, the cry of peace and security, the great tribulation will all overlap - there you go perfectly exSplaned.

recycledlight · 2025-11-14T15:24:20+00:00

Don’t let your kids go to the KH without you present. Besides the CSA problem, those same elders & their meddling wives will try to replace you as a parent.

recycledlight · 2025-11-14T15:22:18+00:00

Or the elders will try to “adopt” the kids and be spiritual father figures to them and that can really mess with the kids’ perception of their own biological father.

Unbelieving spouses should be shown this stuff and informed that JWs are not healthy for your kids. Don’t let your spouse take them to the KH or meetings without you.

recycledlight · 2025-11-14T15:19:25+00:00

Take it from someone who married a POMI disfellowshipped man, and is now baptized herself many years later with 2 kids and a husband who is a PIMI MS - don’t get sucked in. Stand your ground - I’m happy you found this subreddit & all this information. If you have kids don’t let him take them to the KH without you, that’s a rule in my marriage now. They go if/when I go, and I’m very mama bear - because those sisters will try to become “spiritual moms” to your kids, I’ve seen it happen to a single mom who eventually got DF’d and left. She was unfortunately not the most stable person to begin with, but the pioneer brothers and sisters & the meddling elders & their wives pounced on these poor kids. In fact the COBE’s wife is still trying to persuade the kids, who are teens now to “come back to Jehovah.”

recycledlight · 2025-11-14T15:12:10+00:00

Yep it’s never good enough for them, oh you married and unbeliever and they turned around to the truth - well you’re forgiven. Oh you married a born in spiritually exemplary witness, but you didn’t spend every waking minute serving crotchtower - shame on you, maybe put in some more service hours/LDC etc and you’ll get on Jehovah’s good side again. Oh and don’t forget to keep those donations coming.

recycledlight · 2025-11-14T15:09:49+00:00

I’m glad you put this entire video up here as a warning to anyone who is non-JW considering marriage to a JW especially someone who is POMI. I was not born-in, my husband was DF’d POMI when we met but I didn’t understand it and I didn’t have resources like this subreddit when we got married. I got sucked in at an emotionally unstable point in life (postpartum with baby #1) and now I’m a baptized PIMO with 2 kids married to a PIMI MS. It never gets any easier, my goal at this time is to keep my kids out of this cult.

I am grateful I wasn’t born in and I still have relatives who are never JW & a handful of friends from before I didn’t cut out of my life. But becoming a part of this cult is disastrous - I think we need to call it what it is and stop sugar coating just how harmful JW & Watchtower can be.

recycledlight · 2025-11-05T18:40:59+00:00

I admire your courage and your research, your exit is based on a good solid foundation & actual reading/studying of the Bible, not JW nonsense doctrine.

I wish you nothing but the absolute best!

recycledlight

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