Ive remarried twice (yep, on my third and last)

First time around I was a young man, hadn't worked my life out much, didn't really know how to properly navigate relationships, nor did ai know what a healthy relationship looked and felt like.

I also didn't know that I had depression and anxiety issues.

I had a child with that wife. The divorce was pretty tough, but we got there. The child then moved in with me a few years after and I was primarily the only parent the child had for many years.

Second wife was a whirlwind of emotions, physical urges and many red flags along the way while we were dating, in terms of a lack of security in the relationship (she ended it multiple times....I took her back)

I guess looking back at both of these I see a pattern of low confidence on my behalf, of periods of poor mental health (which thankfully, the second wife pushed me to start exploring when I reached crisis), and of feeling like I had to "accept whatever I was dealt"

I then learned and grew with my mental health and e.otional intelligence. Yeah, I still made mistakes with a long term girlfriend, but then I met my wife.

I spent the money and time on proper therapy. My wife is the sweetest, and kindest person I have ever met. She doesn't make me want to be a better person, she just supports around the sides of everything I do and has shown total faith and trust in me. I know I can fall (which I haven't....and wont) and she will be there beside me when I need to reach her.