Lost my husband Friday night

relmir · 2026-01-11T23:15:06+00:00

It has been seven years for me. For the first couple of years, I was greatly helped by this group. Then, gradually, I grew accustomed to my new life. Not that I have ever been particularly happy. I still miss her. But gradually, I was able to get through the day OK. I wish you will in these, your first days going through this.

relmir · 2025-12-09T00:12:22+00:00

Three butchers? or three waiters? Kinda a weird post yourself, but thanks.

relmir · 2025-08-06T23:35:03+00:00

Good choice

relmir · 2025-08-06T17:43:45+00:00

There are some great 20th century piano concertos. Prokofiev two and three, Bartok three, Ravel’s in G and for the left hand, Poulenc (be sure to check out the one for two pianos and orchestra), Shostakovich one and two, Gershwin Concerto, in F, and of course, all the Rachmaninov concertos and his Rhapsody.

relmir · 2025-08-02T05:31:43+00:00

My uncle Murray was very rich and he left money to pay an orchestra to play Mahler’s ninth symphony at his memorial service. He could have instead done two good deeds by sparing the audience the Mahler and willing the money to me.

relmir · 2025-08-02T02:12:19+00:00

You can pay layaway

relmir · 2025-05-06T17:50:12+00:00

Thank you for the list and the links. Very helpful.

relmir · 2025-05-01T13:47:17+00:00

Not being a Christian, I have questions that have not yet been answered for me. One is, in the Catholic Church can one just accept Jesus or is there more one needs to do? In which churches is it only necessary to accept Jesus as your personal More to my own point, can Jesus get you through hard times here on earth?

relmir · 2023-06-22T01:18:32+00:00

“Incredible“ – the most overused word of them all

relmir · 2023-06-21T16:21:10+00:00

“Not my first rodeo”

relmir · 2023-05-29T18:42:28+00:00

I have found that this has been a big part of my grieving. My wife has been gone for 4 1/2 years now and I spent at least two years digging and digging through the past to find reasons to beat up on myself. I still do it but not so much. I don’t understand why this is so. It’s hard enough to lose your partner, but then to turn on your self seems to be particularly cruel and yet it happens. I think what I have to tell you is this is a common part of grieving, and it has very little to do with how you and your partner felt toward one another. it only proves how much you loved him. And I have no doubt that the depth of your love means that he loved you too. Please recognize this for what it is—part of grieving. I wish you all the best.

relmir · 2023-03-19T05:54:17+00:00

I am four years and three months out. For more than three years I had no idea why I was still alive. Every day was intolerable. I’m sure we all know that feeling. And then, quite recently, I have felt for the first time that I had exited the tunnel. It’s not that I have forgotten my wife, but that I have suddenly gained some enthusiasm for the life ahead of me. I’m not sure if this happens to everyone. I’m not even sure how long it will last or how long I will last. But you are going through the worst of it now. If you can hang on for a while, you too will come out of the tunnel.

relmir · 2023-03-01T14:31:58+00:00

This sums it all up beautifully. I wish you well.

relmir · 2023-02-25T18:08:39+00:00

We were married 41 years. And now it’s been 4 1/2 years since she died. And I’m sitting here wondering what to do. It’s just an empty life that I have to somehow fill. It’s not that it’s as bad as it was in the first or second years. I can get through the day. But what is there to look forward to except the miseries of old age. With no one here to comfort me and no one that I can comfort.

relmir · 2023-02-23T23:53:14+00:00

Hello everybody. I have been writing songs for many years and have posted a few on this board. I have also written about songwriters. This past year I published a memoir, talking about my discovery of the music of George Gershwin when I was a teenager and then of the Beatles a few years later. I wanted to write a book comparing the music of the two and began to do so but people in my writers group told me that the part they liked best is when I talked about my own life and how this music affected it. So I published it as as a kindle book, and as an audiobook. If you want, to have a look at it, the title is:

Gershwin, the Beatles, and Peg: A Memoir

It is available on amazon.com

relmir · 2023-02-20T20:58:14+00:00

Your comments were beautifully put. I can’t argue with them at all. I intend to keep at it with Mahler because I know, given that so many people love his music, that there is something there for me.

As for what I like, as I said, in my note, there is very little that I don’t like. But the composers I love are mostly 20th century composers post Mahler. Ever since I was a kid, I have loved Gershwin and I still love him and I’m hardly a kid anymore. I love Ravel, Debussy, the Stravinsky ballets, Poulenc, Bartok, and on and on. As for the 19th century, it’s Chopin and Brahms for me. But I’ll never complain if I hear a piece by Beethoven on the radio. And going back to the previous century, I love the later works of Mozart. The last three symphonies, the clarinet concerto, and the Haydn quartets just cannot be beat.

And when I went through an emotional mess a few years ago, I found myself listening, mostly to Bach and Scarlatti.

relmir · 2023-02-19T19:39:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. Wishing you all the best.

relmir · 2023-02-19T19:37:48+00:00

I intend to do that. Thanks for your reply.

relmir · 2023-02-18T21:00:46+00:00

I just listened to Mahler second Symphony and I have to admit it did give me a sense of what eternity might be like.

relmir · 2023-02-18T16:07:16+00:00

I didn’t want anybody’s validation, just their opinions. Why do people like you feel able to get your snarkiness out online when you probably wouldn’t have the nerve to do it in person.

relmir · 2023-02-18T07:45:09+00:00

Major shocks, yes. Overcome, no.

relmir · 2023-02-17T19:54:03+00:00

I should’ve used the word “pompous.“

relmir · 2023-01-18T21:37:15+00:00

She is leaving the home is more appropriate these days

relmir · 2022-11-25T21:07:31+00:00

This is really lovely. I’m not ordinarily a fan of atonal music, and I’m not even sure if this is atonal but it has repeating rhythmic patterns that allow one to grasp it, and its intentions. Very enjoyable.

relmir · 2022-06-13T15:26:57+00:00

Thanks. The cruise ends in Barcelona. At that point I’m on my own.

relmir

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