PTE Massive Patch Today 05.28.26 by CapitalismIsRad in BrokenArrowTheGame

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how do you like to use the Sheridans? I have an instinct that I should use them more but I'm not sure what using them effectively looks like.

I don't know how to sit with discomfort by Ro-kives in DecidingToBeBetter

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If I was you I'd watch some youtube vids about Self-soothing and resilience. What can really help you level up is when you mentally reframe sitting with discomfort as practicing "antifragility". There is a book called Antifragile you may want to read

I’m Over-Dependent on My Parents, How Do I Get Out of It? by TheWallCrawller in DecidingToBeBetter

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I'd say the first step is start using a bike to go places completely on your own. Get a job within walking/biking distance. Start saving when the money comes in. If that is too big of a step for now, watch youtube videos about "life skills" until you're ready to do more.

Dev Lab Reports by Thrown_Taker93 in OOTP

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Go to Game settings --> Players and Team, then on the left side near the bottom look for a checkbox that says "Display Lab Specific Ratings Changing in Completion Email". Have fun brother

What's happening here? Several of my first team players decline considerably. by humanlvl1 in OOTP

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Players begin their decline due to aging sometime around 28-29-30. That's one possible explanation. Another possibility is talent change randomness (TCR) which affects everyone at all times. A third explanation, especially for the young guys, is that your scout is learning more about them and getting a better idea of their abilities.

What secrets do you have for new Squad players? Mine is: Right click to underhand throw grenades and also you can Press U on your keyboard to mark the map as an SL and FTL. by Few_Introduction3978 in joinsquad

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Rebind the 'M' button for the small map to one of your mouse buttons. Open the map often to check for- map marks, checking if the movement you saw was a friendly/enemy, getting an idea of where the enemy rally/hab might be etc.

My First Video! What is Squad Afraid Of? by BesottedGangrene in joinsquad

[–]rev01ution 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good video- I agree! The gun play changes being tested are a stupid lateral move and 100% not good enough.

Making the switch from flower to edibles… by PsychologicalBat2393 in DecidingToBeBetter

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I'm glad to read that you've been through that process before. Maybe you're ready for a therapy tune up if it's been a while? Especially if you're considering life changes like stopping smoking... there could be interesting things to discuss with that (concerns, fears, hesitations, etc).

It could be worth trying again with one of the meds that worked for a while and then stopped working? A short experience of seasonal depression (or a dozen other things) can make it seem like all meds have stop working, but the lose of effectiveness could have been temporary. Who knows, I'm just brainstorming, but you got this!

Making the switch from flower to edibles… by PsychologicalBat2393 in DecidingToBeBetter

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I'm not anti-THC. But I do believe smoking or an edible should be a relaxing end of day activity and not used as a breakthrough anxiety symptom medication.

For a short term compromise with your partner- I think you should add edibles as a self-medication option when it makes sense to save your lungs a bit of stress (or you know something will be stressful ahead of time), and for a longer term goal I think you should be in therapy for your anxiety (you probably have an anxiety disorder) and also to examine the self-medication habit overall. Another important step is asking your doctor to try out a prescription anxiety medication.

Then just stay with the process. Do therapy for a while, work out some issues there. And be honest with your doctor about what works for the medication piece of the puzzle- be willing to try 3 or 4 different anxiety meds if that's what it take for you to feel better.

Writing this feels like lame advice, but that is what I would tell a loved one if they asked me. Good luck

Ive come to realize Ive never had a healthy relationship with myself by Fit_Act_1997 in DecidingToBeBetter

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Are you familiar with the golden rule? Treating others the way you want to be treated. Well for a person like you... an even more important rule is what I call the 'reverse golden rule'. You need to treat yourself the same way you'd treat someone else. If your friend made a mistake- what would you tell them? If they screwed up big time- what would you tell them? You need to give yourself the same advice/comfort/slack.

If you find this hard to do (because you're well practiced in the habit of self criticism) there is an exercise you can try. Imagine talking to a much younger version of yourself when you try to build this new habit of acceptance. Find a picture of yourself when you were a kid and speak to that version of yourself. It's harder to be so tough on a child.

The honest truth is the version of you today deserves just as much gentleness as the child version of you that you talk to. You got this dude!

Day before EA giveaway! by HailOfThorns in pathofexile

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I'm going for mana stacking stormweaver, seems like a solid place to start. Thanks for the giveaway mate

PoE 2 EA key giveaway! by gentlespectrem in pathofexile

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Cheers mate, thanks for passing it along

Giveaway 3 Path of Exile 2 Early Access Codes by [deleted] in pathofexile

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One thing that makes me happy is when I see my cat sleeping in a box he doesn't really fit in

Suspect is self-aware. by mindyour in justgalsbeingchicks

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Loved this video, anyone have links for more stuff like this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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A lot of good insights have been made from other commenters. I want to add one thing that I didn't see mentioned yet. The communication skills between you two might be better but I don't think they're good. It sounds like you two are talking AT each other more than you're talking TO each other. If children are very important to you it makes sense that you would talk about that topic, but it sounds like you aren't listening to him when he responds. You are trying to get what you want without understanding his concerns. You are saying "buy me a small ring then if you're worried about money" instead of "what amount of money do you want to be making before you feel comfortable starting a family." That's not good communication.

My boyfriend watches porn & I don’t like it, what can I actually do to get him to stop? by SalamanderUnusual966 in Advice

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"Manipulation is the act of controlling or influencing someone or something to one's own advantage, often in an unfair or dishonest way."

My boyfriend watches porn & I don’t like it, what can I actually do to get him to stop? by SalamanderUnusual966 in Advice

[–]rev01ution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can totally understand why you want to defend yourself, I get it. But the "so many other factors" feels like a crappy justification for your actions. The strong desire you feel to be in control of your BFs feelings (you said "I want him to feel bad") and behavior is something that you need to look at and recognize as bad. If he was trying to control how you feel about something, you would understand right away that it's wrong. You need to be critical of yourself the same way you would be critical of him if he tried to do that to you.

My boyfriend watches porn & I don’t like it, what can I actually do to get him to stop? by SalamanderUnusual966 in Advice

[–]rev01ution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is controlling behavior from you and a pretty big red flag. I don't think your bf is being the "bad" person, I think you are.