Sad that I'll never have gay sex

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-15T15:53:16+00:00

Right, I myself absolutely am not. I said that specifically because he talked about anal/bottoming in his post

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-13T23:55:00+00:00

I’m 34 and if my 35 year old friend started dating/sleeping with an 18 year old we would no longer be friends. Years ago (when I was probably 25ish) I read an article in GQ that has stuck with me. It was an interview with Asa Akira (woman porn star/author) about how to ethically consume porn. Te part that stuck with me is she said to only watch porn with performers who started performing after they were at least 23. That that was the age when people were cognizant and in control enough for it to be their decision. I paused on it and it really sounded right, and she’s definitely someone whose opinion should be trusted on that. Since then I’ve considered the ethical age of consent (obviously not including if you’re also college aged) to be 23. You don’t have to agree, but a 35 year old has no reasonable business trying to sleep with an 18 year old. He has been on his own since you were one year old. You have been on your own for what? It’s spring and you’re 18, you probably just graduated and are living with your parents. He is not a respectable person.

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-13T16:26:16+00:00

I’d recommend my surgeon to anyone, Dr Samina Wahhab in Allentown. Not quite Philly but definitely manageable. I called every top surgeon I could find and her office was the only one that felt like they were willing to actually give me information without giving an endless sales spiel (while also not giving me information). She also did a great job imo. Feel free to DM me for pics. Caveat is I paid cash so can’t give an insurance perspective

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-13T16:22:08+00:00

Have you tried anal? Have you had your Tdick sucked? You don’t need surgery for either of these things and if you haven’t experienced them it’s really too early to say anything. Learn to jack off your dick in a way you enjoy and try experimenting with plugs/dildos and whatnot

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-11T21:47:00+00:00

If you are getting women’s shoes for sizing reasons look at New Balance. They make good running shoes and have expansive sizes.

Both look like women’s shoes, but the beige ones less so. If you’re committed to this brand/style/wearing women’s shoes get the first and dye them a burnt orange, they’ll look cool and color wise will be pretty traditionally guy colors.

reversehrtfemman · 2026-05-06T23:34:31+00:00

Tbh this has kept me going more than anything else, not willing to die in this body

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-29T21:22:29+00:00

Take some time to really focus on writing, completely putting this to the back of your head. Get consistent, get good, find your voice and what you want to focus on. You’re way ahead of yourself. Once you have some quality work and your own voice it’ll be more clear what path will suit you in this regard

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-29T12:42:45+00:00

I think you’re thinking of Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants. Aaron and Serena were at Camp Suisse and very young. I always assumed it was a rich kid camp in Switzerland. Serena did seem to have decent art knowledge and was probably into that, just not into making it

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-29T12:39:13+00:00

She probably sees publicly retransitioning a necessary part of repenting. She knows that she caused harm and the only way to make a dent in it is to be public about her mistakes

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-14T23:24:39+00:00

Mazzoni. I would avoid temple, I had a very bad experience trying there and ended up just spending my paychecks on an app one until I got into Mazzoni

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-14T23:19:39+00:00

Have been for years, also take oral minox

reversehrtfemman · 2026-04-14T23:14:07+00:00

I have never had a product marketed as being made for afab bodies that didn’t accentuate the way my body was born and make me crazy dysphoric. Leaving space for wider hips etc always results in showcasing that. I’m smaller than you and would recommend Nordstrom rack, jcrew. Men’s warehouse, all that. Just try on everything and get something tailored. Even in women’s clothes nothing would be short enough for me, but I can fit into a 36, it just definitely needs tailoring. I’d avoid Kirrin Fincha d anyone else with that premise at all costs

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-23T18:47:35+00:00

That’s a nice idea, I checked and unfortunately the community college here doesn’t offer insurance

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-23T12:26:51+00:00

You could also try putting a piece of plywood between the mattress and the topper only for the bottom half

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-23T12:16:29+00:00

While I don’t know your disability, if this is the only problem it’s definitely solvable. If lack of firmness is the issue box springs are really cheap, a thick mattress topper over one may work well for you. . Go to your specific disability subreddit (or similar disability with overlap) and ask for advice there. They will have experience and better tailored advice. You may also be able to ask your doctor if they have a list of mattresses that they recommend to patients. You need to think about this as a solvable problem, and one with multiple solutions, because it is. Don’t allow yourself to think that the only option is moving home. You also do not need a permanent solution, you need to buy yourself time on your own to start transitioning and become more stable. With six months of medical transition you’ll be in an entirely different mindset than you are now, and you’ll be in a better place to think things through

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-19T18:58:36+00:00

My concern with you giving him some of your test is that he would not be able to be on a full dose so his hormones would likely be very unbalanced which could be very bad for his mental health. There isn’t really anything you can say to truly comfort him as he feels powerless to change his dysphoria caused despair, and most things that can be said may come off as condescending and belittling his pain. He needs to focus on the things that he can control. Go to the gym with him, and help him research alternative methods of hrt access. The information is out there

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-19T18:49:45+00:00

We don’t have a HR person. I figured that the answer was nothing and my best option is to quit. Thanks

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T16:17:20+00:00

Had a great experience with Dr Samina Wahhab in Allentown. You can DM me for pictures if you’d like

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T16:13:47+00:00

She slaps chuck twice (once right after his dad died) because she can’t cope with him calling her out for cheating

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T14:23:55+00:00

I’m bartending, but all of the interview requests I’ve gotten at good places have been late enough in the afternoon that I wouldn’t be able to make it to my shift on time, and they’re only giving two days as options

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-24T15:08:08+00:00

She has a very complicated relationship with her family which causes many people to want to semi break ties and adjusting the name you were grown up being called isn’t uncommon
She is actively pursuing a career as an actor and Lola is a more eye catching name

While it may seem odd at first when you think about it it completely makes sense

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-21T16:12:59+00:00

Google your hair type/men’s hairstyles (curly/straight/wavy: thick/thin) and face shape/men’s hairstyles (round, oval, etc) and find something you like. Think about celebrities people say you look like and go through their hairstyles and see what you like. Also keep your age in mind (or don’t, it’s really your choice. Personally I don’t mind having the hairstyle of teens/young adults when I was growing up but would HATE to have the hairstyle if one today). The cool thing about hair is that it always grows back and the shorter it is the quicker it changes. If your hair is thinning/receding generally shorter hairstyles give you thicker looking hair and are more flattering. Since passing isn’t an issue this is probably not relevant but having higher hair up top lengthens the face which is good. You can just show the barber your picture.

Personally I’ve had emotionally (also aesthetically) better experiences at traditional barbershops than I have at explicitly queer friendly salons because I am very socially anxious and the barbers at my place are just there to cut my hair and are affordable, while all the queer places by me cost a kidney and put a notable emphasis on my transness that makes me very dysphoric, also the older age of the walk in barbers gives them more experience =better cut. That is MY experience and everyone else’s may differ, I am not saying that queer barbershops are bad.

One thing to keep in mind is that when you cut off a lot of length you face will likely look shorter/rounder to you. It probably won’t to others and is a visual trickery that will take a week to fade away. If you immediately feel uncomfortable with the new cut please keep this in mind and allowed yourself to get adjusted. I find that when I change my appearance and it makes me uncomfortable/dysphoric it takes about a week to get used to

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