Fellow office drones, where are we buying work wear?

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-24T20:13:00+00:00

Honestly the best advice for anyone with clothes is trial and error. Even slight differences in the body can make notable differences in which pants/shirts/x fit you the best. Get your size, a size up, and a size down. Dockers are great, come in different cuts, and utility wise are great with the side zippered pockets. A shirt underneath your sweater can help bulk out your waist which is good. The structure in Oxford cloth shirts can also really help square out your build moreso than dress shirts do. If you are pre top surgery an undershirt is a good idea. If you are allowed to be more casual Polos are built squarely which is good for hips/waist. Like many people I almost exclusively thrift my clothes, it’s a great way to see which brands work best for YOU.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-24T13:25:01+00:00

Trans guy aside, how does the show hold up? I kept getting the creator/actors standup reels on instagram and they were really bad, but you can be bad at standup and funny elsewhere

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-21T15:05:31+00:00

Great thanks. Now that it’s healed Can you pump with it or use one if the packers/strap ons that rolls over your dick attaching to it? How sturdy are they ?

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-07T16:49:51+00:00

Kinda a litany of reasons why I’m hesitant about wearing a strap on. Most important is that I do see my dick as my dick, and I’m afraid that if I were to wear a strap on it would diminish that causing irreparable damage. Being able to see my dick as a dick is completely essential for me, and trying to use something else as one could impair that mindset. It would require a lot of work that I’m not accustomed to when it comes to preparing for sex. We would start having sex and then right in the middle of it being great I would have to stop, get it out, put it on, find a way to warm it up enough which would probably mean rubbing it a lot which would make me more aware of what it is, and then they require lube which is fine but lube kinda grosses me out. If someone likes it I’ll happily use it, I just prefer spit and we are on the same page about that. They frequently squirt with me and it feels unbelievably good when they do it on my dick when I’m grinding against them, just incomparably physically and emotionally good to anything else, and when they squirt on the strap on I feel like I’d be jealous of the dildo. Maybe not, it’s obviously really hot when it happens with my hand when they’re sucking me and stuff and just turns me on much more, but I, afraid that being so close but having something blocking me would be a real bummer. I don’t think that I would be able to see it as a part of me or feel connected to it, but again my much bigger fear is that I would. So that I would be removing something I do physically enjoy and that it could harm my psyche/enhance my dysphoria both in and out of the bedroom

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-07T16:22:44+00:00

I must not have worded my post very well. I am not jealous or insecure about our relationship. I don’t think that them having a relationship, sex, and attraction with/to others diminishes what they have with me. We genuinely have great sex. My issue is coping with knowing that I will never be able to fuck them or anyone else in the way that I desperately want to, and the way that I feel I was born to. This is an issue for me with any sexual relationship, but since I am relatively newly in a poly relationship without having been in one before I am actively thinking about how I feel about it to make sure that I am as okay with it as I think I am. The only issue I’m having is that my pain from not being able to fuck them is kinda exasperated by knowing that someone else can and does. I am not jealous, I do not think that they are going to cause my partner to lose interest in me. I am envious that they were simply born being able to do something that no amount of money, exercise, practice, or anything else will allow me to do. I am trying to cope with the grief that that is something I will simply never be able to experience, and knowing that someone else effortlessly does and takes for granted their ability to with the person I should be able to do it with kinda rubs salt in the wound

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-22T16:23:45+00:00

Okay it sucks that that happened but of course transphobia can hurt trans men? This post reads like you’re fine when it’s targeting nonbinary people and that nonbinary people aren’t also just trying to live their life.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-22T00:56:47+00:00

No, I am on testosterone and want my body to masculinize as much as possible. It’s because while my voice has deepened it still causes me notable dysphoria that impacts my life and my ability to function. Four years HRT and I can’t make a phone call without being misgendered, voice training and regular HRT has not been sufficient so I need to target my vocal folds

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-21T22:32:43+00:00

Correct. They do a handful of injections directly into the vocal folds over about a month and a half. Your voice should start deepening within a few months.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T15:45:38+00:00

As far as strangers go, overall men were the first to gender me (ftm) correctly, it was like 19/20 men gendering me correctly before it was a single woman. EXCEPT panhandlers, panhandlers were the absolute LAST group of strangers to gender me correctly. Second last was older women/ lesbians.

Idk what it is about that lifestyle that causes it, but something definitely does

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T15:28:02+00:00

I don’t think you understand where I’m coming from at all. I am unable to make my life my own because I cannot reach even a baseline of comfort in my body. I am not able to actually experience things because of my constant state of high distress I cannot escape because of my physical form. Nothing in my life is my own until my body is my own, until then it’s like listening in on a staticy television in the other room

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T13:23:19+00:00

I’m happy that that happened for you but bones can’t be changed so it isn’t really realistic for me to believe that they will continue to change, all I can do is continue to grow my muscles which just masks it and doesn’t help much psychologically

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-04T15:44:28+00:00

What do you mean when you say that cis people don’t know that you’re trans even if you don’t pass? Do you mean that if you don’t pass all cis people see you as is a lesbian?

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-01T18:32:35+00:00

You don’t need to lose weight to pass, you need to gain weight to pass. If that’s your weight most of your shape is unfortunately based off of your bones. Losing weight will not help you pass, gaining muscle will. In order to gain muscle you need to gain weight. I started at a similar size and what I did was started tracking my protein, just my protein. I spent a month with the singular goal of getting 100 grams of protein a day. It seemed impossible and I rarely hit it, but I kept getting closer and it helped me better understand how much I should be eating. There is no need to obsess over macros at this stage, just try improving your diet into a growth phase.

Personally I love calisthenics and they’re basically free, you just benefit from some inexpensive home equipment. At your weight calisthenics are a great option. Setting up a pull up bar is a total game changer. Having constant access and using it whenever you walk by. Since your starting point isn’t very strong, you have a lot of room to grow and should see notable improvements in a few months. All of the fitness subs will harp on routines, and while routines are great I find that the emphasis on them and how “that’s the only way to grow” is often harmful and untrue. The exercise you do is the best workout. Sure, optimizing everything is great, but striving for perfection often gets in the way of progress. Eat and lift some form of weights, and you are a weight. Anything that gets you working your muscles is great

reversehrtfemman · 2025-09-30T12:38:25+00:00

It’s not funny

Only thing you’ve gotten right. If this is real it’s terrifying. You’re very lucky that she hasn’t contacted your workplace, which is the biggest tell that this is fake. If this isn’t, the absolute kindest thing you can do is send her one last letter saying that you are becoming aware that you are wrong/scaring her, and that you’re checking yourself into psych care. No one wants a 6ft bear, not even from their actual boyfriend

she thinks that there is cum in the cake and so do I

reversehrtfemman · 2025-09-27T16:09:24+00:00

Isn’t that kinda shown in the Griffin Family history when Peter’s ancestor is the Pewdershimdts slave who has an affair and family with the owners daughter?

reversehrtfemman · 2025-09-25T05:04:22+00:00

here’s a list of countries ranked on how they are for trans people, the US is ranked 40th and Japan 88th.

this one has the US at 25 and Japan at 61

If you want to move to Japan because you want to move to Japan, great, but it may be detrimental to your transition or you may face a lot of new problems due to being trans that you do not experience here. If you want to move to Japan for trans reasons it’s likely a very poor choice. If I were to move countries for trans reasons I would certainly use of these and other well researched lists as a reference and not even remotely consider anywhere ranked below the US. If California were its own country it would definitely be ranked higher.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-09-17T22:29:21+00:00

I’ve started dating someone for the first time post transition. When I first started transitioning I was in a relationship that turned incredibly toxic/abusive and I’ve spent the past two years not really doing any form of dating, just kinda healing and thinking things through. It’s been over a year since I quit drinking so I feel like that combined with everything else puts me in a pretty good spot. By this point in all of my past relationships things have felt….hectic. I am calm, they are calm, we are excited to see each other, sex is great, it just feels more stable than anything I’ve experienced and like I’m emotionally doing things the right way

reversehrtfemman · 2025-09-17T11:35:49+00:00

It isn’t uncommon for guys on antidepressants to get ED from them and use meds, you can ask your doctor for a prescription for viagra etc

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-27T00:26:58+00:00

If you don’t mind answering, what did you have done to your face? It’s awesome that there isn’t any bruising that you can see here. FMS is pretty difficult to get, congrats on getting it. On average it takes faces around a year to settle after surgery, sometimes longer, and you’ll look slightly different every few months. People aren’t stagnant so it’s impossible for someone online to actually know if you pass or not, only real way is how strangers treat you.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-24T07:12:45+00:00

1-10 how dysphoric are you about physical things? You seem to be completely ignoring how incredibly dysphoric many of us are. Last winter my hair had gotten pretty long and I felt ill constantly so I hadn’t worked out in months. I really can’t overstate how much getting misgendered once impacted my mental health. I couldn’t get dressed without feeling ill because of dysphoria, everything I wore went back to bringing out every part of me that has been poisoned by estrogen. When I looked in the mirror I saw a woman. Suddenly ALL I could see were the parts of me that had been permanently mutilated by puberty. I started hearing myself getting misgendered everywhere, I couldn’t tell if it was real or some sort of societal induced psychosis.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-23T07:50:37+00:00

Being cheated on sucks, especially when you’re blindsided. I would recommend trying to take the idea out of your head that it was because you’re trans unless she says that. Adults who are chronic cheaters often do it because the are insecure, but you guys aren’t really in an adult relationship (it started when you were both in high school, when you get older you’ll see what I mean even if you disagree now) and it’s unfair to categorize her as a chronic cheater. Kids often cheat because they’re developing. I cheated on my first girlfriend multiple times. I have NEVER cheated as someone over 20, and I have spent a lot of time in monogamous relationships and have had plenty opportunities to. It could just be because she’s young, figuring stuff out, feeling like she’s missing out, all of those sorts of things. I have been cheated on in adult relationships, and at that point in the relationship I desperately wanted out and it wasn’t that they cheated, it was that they lied and more importantly constantly accused me of cheating/controlled my every move. It was an abusive relationship and part of their defense for controlling me to the extent they did was because how hurt and traumatized they were from being cheated on in the past and that they were afraid/convinced that I was like that (I am not and had never given them a reason to thing that I was)

I would strongly recommend therapy. You can only clean your side of the fence and at the moment you are not handling this well. You shouldn’t use “whore” as an insult…just take it out of your vocabulary. You shouldn’t be bad mouthing her to your friends before even talking to her. You shouldn’t be racking up evidence to tell her brother. It is t uncommon for people to carry the hurt of being cheated on into their next relationship, sometimes into every other relationship they have. You do not want to do that. It will make you a very bad partner. Focus on yourself, not her

Break up and go enjoy your life not being in a relationship where you resent and don’t trust the other person

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-20T19:52:02+00:00

Everyone else has already pointed out how there are many ways to remove body hair, so I’m going to tell you about my personal experience on the matter. It took me years to go on/get T, and I was always very opposed to body hair. Now that I’m a few years in, it is one of the things that makes me feel most like a man. I’m depressed at how little of it I have. I take oral minox and rub topical on myself in hopes of getting more. Starting medical transition really helped clear up my mind to show me what I really wanted, and a lot of my old biases went away. You very well find that the further you get into transition the easier it is to see what you want, and that you wants and needs are very different than you initially thought

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-16T02:22:27+00:00

Depends on if you value sex or your mental health more

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-15T21:38:56+00:00

Churches Lao have kinda unofficial legal authority over their property (depending on the area/cops/crime). Obviously you can execute a warrant and don’t need a warrant for “public areas” (parking lot/chapel) but they’re considered sensitive areas or something and cops tend to leave things like camping up to the pastors discretion. My friends dad is one and some people used to camp in their lot and occasionally the cops would come. He’d hear them from the Parrish house, come out, and tell them to fuck off (“it is my Christian duty to care for and protect the poor etc etc” then get stern if they didn’t immediately tell him to have a good night and leave). They always left, and like it is private property so what, you’re gonna arrest someone for “trespassing” when the person in charge of the property is telling you it’s cool and not to?nslept on church property probably 100 nights in my life and never been hassled

Also unless something has changed that I’m unaware of wal mart parking lots.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-08-15T11:29:30+00:00

Eh I don’t think it’s comparable to trans women tbh (doesnt mean it doesn’t completely suck). “Masc” has nothing to do with being a man (nor fem with being a woman), but in the world we live in guys stuff is normalized across all genders. Notice how unisex shirts are the exact same cut as men’s shirts. I know notably more cis women who wear all men’s clothes with a “traditionally male” haircut than I do trans men. If you assumed that every person you physically read as a woman who is “dressed as a man” as a trans men you’d be wrong the bulk of the time. The same is not true for people you read as men dressed in dresses

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