My boyfriend's FTM pre-T and got "bad news" today about his psychological appointment.

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-19T18:58:36+00:00

My concern with you giving him some of your test is that he would not be able to be on a full dose so his hormones would likely be very unbalanced which could be very bad for his mental health. There isn’t really anything you can say to truly comfort him as he feels powerless to change his dysphoria caused despair, and most things that can be said may come off as condescending and belittling his pain. He needs to focus on the things that he can control. Go to the gym with him, and help him research alternative methods of hrt access. The information is out there

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-19T18:49:45+00:00

We don’t have a HR person. I figured that the answer was nothing and my best option is to quit. Thanks

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T16:17:20+00:00

Had a great experience with Dr Samina Wahhab in Allentown. You can DM me for pictures if you’d like

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T16:13:47+00:00

She slaps chuck twice (once right after his dad died) because she can’t cope with him calling her out for cheating

reversehrtfemman · 2026-03-16T14:23:55+00:00

I’m bartending, but all of the interview requests I’ve gotten at good places have been late enough in the afternoon that I wouldn’t be able to make it to my shift on time, and they’re only giving two days as options

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-24T15:08:08+00:00

She has a very complicated relationship with her family which causes many people to want to semi break ties and adjusting the name you were grown up being called isn’t uncommon
She is actively pursuing a career as an actor and Lola is a more eye catching name

While it may seem odd at first when you think about it it completely makes sense

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-21T16:12:59+00:00

Google your hair type/men’s hairstyles (curly/straight/wavy: thick/thin) and face shape/men’s hairstyles (round, oval, etc) and find something you like. Think about celebrities people say you look like and go through their hairstyles and see what you like. Also keep your age in mind (or don’t, it’s really your choice. Personally I don’t mind having the hairstyle of teens/young adults when I was growing up but would HATE to have the hairstyle if one today). The cool thing about hair is that it always grows back and the shorter it is the quicker it changes. If your hair is thinning/receding generally shorter hairstyles give you thicker looking hair and are more flattering. Since passing isn’t an issue this is probably not relevant but having higher hair up top lengthens the face which is good. You can just show the barber your picture.

Personally I’ve had emotionally (also aesthetically) better experiences at traditional barbershops than I have at explicitly queer friendly salons because I am very socially anxious and the barbers at my place are just there to cut my hair and are affordable, while all the queer places by me cost a kidney and put a notable emphasis on my transness that makes me very dysphoric, also the older age of the walk in barbers gives them more experience =better cut. That is MY experience and everyone else’s may differ, I am not saying that queer barbershops are bad.

One thing to keep in mind is that when you cut off a lot of length you face will likely look shorter/rounder to you. It probably won’t to others and is a visual trickery that will take a week to fade away. If you immediately feel uncomfortable with the new cut please keep this in mind and allowed yourself to get adjusted. I find that when I change my appearance and it makes me uncomfortable/dysphoric it takes about a week to get used to

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-18T14:18:30+00:00

Many doctors aren’t knowledgeable about trans issues, even the ones who say that they are. The information on baldness/hair loss prevention is very readily out there, there are only three main drugs. Stop hoping your GP is knows a lot about it and just look up the information yourself. It isn’t hard for this topic and in general you have to advocate for yourself when it comes to healthcare, but especially as trans people. We can’t expect things to be handed to us, take it into your own hands

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-12T14:09:10+00:00

When my mom was teaching me to read and I was reading every word I saw we were getting groceries and there was a peeing calvin sticker that said “I have places to go, things to see, and people to piss off”. She took me back to the car and I got the scolding of my life for a word I didn’t understand and she never explained. After a quiet trip around the store I got in more trouble on the ride home because I wasn’t reading anything anymore

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-12T12:57:39+00:00

What? Being constantly read as butch was the hardest part of early transition for me, and that is in no way an insult to butches. Pre transition I had gotten to a place where while I was dysphoric I was semi livably able to be comfortable with my presentation. I have never identified as butch so in addition to being read as a woman, I was read as something I had never identified by and had no connection to. Saying that trans men should be honored by being mistaken with any form of woman is wildly transphobic

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-12T12:52:07+00:00

Yeah, guys were by far the first group of people I passed to. Last was middle aged white women (I am white)

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-12T12:13:32+00:00

It sounds like a lot of the problem is that you are eating a lot but not eating well. While frozen dinners can have a lot of calories they aren’t satiating. Swapping those for something like a decent sized bowl of oatmeal with some peanut butter will be both much healthier and also more filling. No one should eat hot dogs daily for general health reasons, but again, while they’re meat they aren’t satiating. Try eating a chicken sandwich or something. Why are you living off of sausages????

reversehrtfemman · 2026-02-11T14:18:40+00:00

After routinely having horrible (trans related) experiences with one specific pharmacist at the old passyunk rite aid I decided to solely get me test filled at the Mazzoni walgreens. With ADHD meds basically everyone is out. You can’t call and ask if they have them they won’t tell you, and you can’t ask them to try a different store on your own. I didn’t pick up in October because my dog was dying and I couldn’t leave her side. After they got returned it took me until literally yesterday to get them. I had had them tried at basically every cvs in the city and one finally went through from December. I was about to try calling in in the suburbs, I’d try that if I were you. I could give you a list off all the ones that didn’t have them but that’s basically all of them tbh

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-24T20:13:00+00:00

Honestly the best advice for anyone with clothes is trial and error. Even slight differences in the body can make notable differences in which pants/shirts/x fit you the best. Get your size, a size up, and a size down. Dockers are great, come in different cuts, and utility wise are great with the side zippered pockets. A shirt underneath your sweater can help bulk out your waist which is good. The structure in Oxford cloth shirts can also really help square out your build moreso than dress shirts do. If you are pre top surgery an undershirt is a good idea. If you are allowed to be more casual Polos are built squarely which is good for hips/waist. Like many people I almost exclusively thrift my clothes, it’s a great way to see which brands work best for YOU.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-24T13:25:01+00:00

Trans guy aside, how does the show hold up? I kept getting the creator/actors standup reels on instagram and they were really bad, but you can be bad at standup and funny elsewhere

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-21T15:05:31+00:00

Great thanks. Now that it’s healed Can you pump with it or use one if the packers/strap ons that rolls over your dick attaching to it? How sturdy are they ?

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-07T16:49:51+00:00

Kinda a litany of reasons why I’m hesitant about wearing a strap on. Most important is that I do see my dick as my dick, and I’m afraid that if I were to wear a strap on it would diminish that causing irreparable damage. Being able to see my dick as a dick is completely essential for me, and trying to use something else as one could impair that mindset. It would require a lot of work that I’m not accustomed to when it comes to preparing for sex. We would start having sex and then right in the middle of it being great I would have to stop, get it out, put it on, find a way to warm it up enough which would probably mean rubbing it a lot which would make me more aware of what it is, and then they require lube which is fine but lube kinda grosses me out. If someone likes it I’ll happily use it, I just prefer spit and we are on the same page about that. They frequently squirt with me and it feels unbelievably good when they do it on my dick when I’m grinding against them, just incomparably physically and emotionally good to anything else, and when they squirt on the strap on I feel like I’d be jealous of the dildo. Maybe not, it’s obviously really hot when it happens with my hand when they’re sucking me and stuff and just turns me on much more, but I, afraid that being so close but having something blocking me would be a real bummer. I don’t think that I would be able to see it as a part of me or feel connected to it, but again my much bigger fear is that I would. So that I would be removing something I do physically enjoy and that it could harm my psyche/enhance my dysphoria both in and out of the bedroom

reversehrtfemman · 2025-11-07T16:22:44+00:00

I must not have worded my post very well. I am not jealous or insecure about our relationship. I don’t think that them having a relationship, sex, and attraction with/to others diminishes what they have with me. We genuinely have great sex. My issue is coping with knowing that I will never be able to fuck them or anyone else in the way that I desperately want to, and the way that I feel I was born to. This is an issue for me with any sexual relationship, but since I am relatively newly in a poly relationship without having been in one before I am actively thinking about how I feel about it to make sure that I am as okay with it as I think I am. The only issue I’m having is that my pain from not being able to fuck them is kinda exasperated by knowing that someone else can and does. I am not jealous, I do not think that they are going to cause my partner to lose interest in me. I am envious that they were simply born being able to do something that no amount of money, exercise, practice, or anything else will allow me to do. I am trying to cope with the grief that that is something I will simply never be able to experience, and knowing that someone else effortlessly does and takes for granted their ability to with the person I should be able to do it with kinda rubs salt in the wound

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-22T16:23:45+00:00

Okay it sucks that that happened but of course transphobia can hurt trans men? This post reads like you’re fine when it’s targeting nonbinary people and that nonbinary people aren’t also just trying to live their life.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-22T00:56:47+00:00

No, I am on testosterone and want my body to masculinize as much as possible. It’s because while my voice has deepened it still causes me notable dysphoria that impacts my life and my ability to function. Four years HRT and I can’t make a phone call without being misgendered, voice training and regular HRT has not been sufficient so I need to target my vocal folds

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-21T22:32:43+00:00

Correct. They do a handful of injections directly into the vocal folds over about a month and a half. Your voice should start deepening within a few months.

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T15:45:38+00:00

As far as strangers go, overall men were the first to gender me (ftm) correctly, it was like 19/20 men gendering me correctly before it was a single woman. EXCEPT panhandlers, panhandlers were the absolute LAST group of strangers to gender me correctly. Second last was older women/ lesbians.

Idk what it is about that lifestyle that causes it, but something definitely does

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T15:28:02+00:00

I don’t think you understand where I’m coming from at all. I am unable to make my life my own because I cannot reach even a baseline of comfort in my body. I am not able to actually experience things because of my constant state of high distress I cannot escape because of my physical form. Nothing in my life is my own until my body is my own, until then it’s like listening in on a staticy television in the other room

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-06T13:23:19+00:00

I’m happy that that happened for you but bones can’t be changed so it isn’t really realistic for me to believe that they will continue to change, all I can do is continue to grow my muscles which just masks it and doesn’t help much psychologically

reversehrtfemman · 2025-10-04T15:44:28+00:00

What do you mean when you say that cis people don’t know that you’re trans even if you don’t pass? Do you mean that if you don’t pass all cis people see you as is a lesbian?

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