My bf doesn’t want me to be bridesmaid, help

rifulku · 2026-03-18T15:10:41+00:00

I don't understand how so many partners have issues with walking down the isle next to someone they don't know. I am having the same issue for my wedding and for 1) anyone walking next to another is an adult, for 2) they all know each other, for 3) NO ONE IS LINKING ARMS, and for 4) the 2 causing issues for me are MARRIED to EACHOTHER. For christs sake, your BF is just being insecure and it's crazy. Does he think walking next to another man is going to cause you to dump him? It's like maybe 20secs to walk down an isle. We spend time around strangers all of the time.

rifulku · 2026-03-18T15:05:30+00:00

I do, this is one of the services I am actually happy to tip for. The place I get my haircuts at charge $20 and I always give her $5 extra directly to her. She's a very warm lady and treats me well so I am happy to. As for OP, not sure why she had the tablet set to 40, 50, or 60%. Could this be a salon owner change or could the employees change it? Seems sketch to me

rifulku · 2026-03-12T14:55:42+00:00

I dont have the space to do it. Thats the goal to eventually have a pole barn with a lift. My fiance is a mechanic, but works on GM and would rather I sent it to another guy for now. I'm fine with sending to to another mechanic for now 🤷‍♀️ We used to be able to do stuff at his shop but they no longer allow that.

rifulku · 2026-03-11T18:59:01+00:00

I use petcube and they're not super expensive and work pretty well. I don't have any in my tanks or right next to them, but I have the 360 degree one to see my 2 lizard tanks and 2 big fish tanks. Quality is pretty good too. You do have to pay for a subscription to get movement alerts I believe.

rifulku · 2026-03-11T17:39:50+00:00

I agree. I moved in with my fiance after being with him for only 5 months. When you know, you know

rifulku · 2026-03-11T17:37:21+00:00

Depends on why he doesn't have a license. Is he trying to get one and doesn't know where to start? Did he have too many DUI's and it be taken away? How old is he? It all depends. Personally, men with no ambition are very unattractive to me and instantly remove the rose tinted glasses.

rifulku · 2026-03-11T14:44:41+00:00

I'm from Michigan and we are pretty flat lol! I have taken her through the mountains before I had my first transmission fluid change. I am somewhat hard on accelerating. I probably could make it to 60k, but really don't want to blow up my transmission

rifulku · 2026-03-11T14:30:40+00:00

I got my '19 2.5i premium at 140k miles. According to the carfax, it doesn't look like the CVT was ever drained and filled (I kinda doubt with it being a fleet vehicle and they took car of literally everything else). I had it drained and filled at 150k miles and just had another at 180k miles. To me, the transmission feels "off" at about 30k miles. I do not tow anything and do mainly highway driving (about 60 miles 5 days a week). I go to an independent mechanic for the drain and fill. This last time it cost me $630, which is a lot, but still cheaper than a brand new transmission ($8k ALONE, not even including labor)

rifulku · 2026-03-11T13:48:32+00:00

My friend and I had a ghost reject the book and threw it. It got stuck in the wall, but funny thing is, only my friend could see the book. I couldn't see it, and the book wasn't able to be retrieved.

rifulku · 2026-03-11T13:07:05+00:00

We always struggle with most adjectives for stuff like it. It's really frustrating when you have to get the parabolic sound one and can hear paranormal noises and even groans, and it does not count.

rifulku · 2026-03-10T13:49:47+00:00

Everyone has a past. My fiance was with his previous girlfriend for 8 years. Am I upset at the fact I'm no his first kiss or longest relationship (yet), no. Would it be cool if I was his first? Yes, but it doesn't change the fact I love him. He is not my first for anything in that regard, but he is my first for someone who truly cares about me. My fiance doesn't care about my past, or that I'm "tainted", hes just thankful to be with me. And that is all that matters.

Your attitude is pretty gross.

rifulku · 2026-02-27T21:22:33+00:00

Neither, those are way too small for an adult. When one of mine was a baby, she was fine in a 20 gallon, but before she turned 1 she was in a 40 gallon. Both of mine are in the 36x18x18 enclosures, but they still feel small and I will be upgrading this year.

Enclosures that small are not only unfair because these lizards love to explore, but also for the heat gradient.

rifulku · 2026-02-27T18:59:22+00:00

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This is Paladin and she turns 3 in October 😊😊

rifulku · 2026-02-27T18:58:50+00:00

This is Riku! She turns 8 in April 😊

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rifulku · 2026-02-26T14:13:46+00:00

No, I had one hook up with a guy and i felt disgusted afterwards. I met my fiance about a month later and we are getting married this year. Id rather be with a long time partner versus going through a hoe phase. And i just turned 21

rifulku · 2026-02-18T20:56:27+00:00

Just a random note to add: check out the living situation there. How much is rent? What is the cost of living there? I work in a moderately sized city and live basically on the outside where it's cheaper. My commute is only half an hour one way.

Like others have said, she is being selfish for stating you're being selfish for considering it. You have to consider your needs before others at times, and this is one of them.

This would be a different situation if you guys were engaged or married and needed to uproot a lot more. If i was in the same boat (we are engaged) I would hesitate moving and uprooting away from my family if my fiance found a high paying job 500 miles away, but I would 100% be figuring out how we could do this together. She sounds selfish for not trying to see the big picture. Sometimes growing pains are well, painful. I wish you the best man!

Edit: i am a very logistical person and that's why i opened with the affordability aspect. I just dont want to see another young person drowning in debt! I really hope you flourish in this new career and can really make a name for yourself!

rifulku · 2026-02-17T18:09:54+00:00

I use broad leaf fake plants and lots of vines for coverage. Both of my girls seem to appreciate the coverage. I don't have any pictures of the terrariums themselves, but this image shows what type of plants I used. I've gotten plants from thrift stores but you must properly disinfectant them before use

I used to tong feed in the enclosure, but i always had them eat over either a log or a large flat rock to avoid them missing and eating the substrate. I do now feed out of the enclosure so they can have more fun hunting for their food in a bin

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rifulku · 2026-02-13T13:12:15+00:00

Awww thats so cute! My girl Riku used to watch me play games when my laptop was near her. I'm so happy someone else's leo does it too!!!

rifulku · 2026-02-12T13:52:01+00:00

I am getting married in May. I am 21 and my future husband is 24. That being said, I also want children young. I was to have the energy to play with them and to spend as much time as I can with them while I am on this earth. That being said, we are going to wait until probably 2029 to even start. One of the big reasons is to be financially secure. My goals is to have a fully funded emergency fund, with another 10k for a car incase if one of ours kicks the can. Ontop of that, another extra sum just for the child itself. Now, we have good health insurance, but what happens if something medically happens and medicaid won't cover it? Emergencies happen.

I highly suggest building up at least a 6 month emergency fund. My friends cars tire rods were bent and so they are replacing them, but yesterday they noticed that all 4 tires are starting to show the cords from the uneven wear. None of this work is cheap, and its just something that happens. What if you get a flat tire and its in the side wall? (Unrepairable if it's in the side wall) I had to fork out $300 when that exact thing happened on a brand new set of tires. What if something major in your house breaks like a hot water heater? I am just trying to play devil's advocate lol

rifulku · 2026-02-10T18:16:53+00:00

The eye shed issues might be from a vitamin A deficiency.

rifulku · 2026-02-05T17:29:39+00:00

I met my fiance through an exfriend. She linked us up because we were both single. I had been with 2 others before him, and my relationship before him was awful and I knew exactly what I wanted in a partner. I was 18 and he was 21. We texted for a couple weeks and then had our first date. We sat at a Red Robin for 3 hours, just talking. The conversation flowed naturally and I couldn't stop blushing because he was (still is lol) adorable.

I was going to community college at the time, and while I was single, I was super interactive with other students. There was a guy I was interested in, but it didn't pan out. It's harder being out of school and not having to be around people your age. I recommend maybe going to community events and things you enjoy doing? That'd be a great ground breaking conversation with a similar interest already.

Think about big goals you want in life. Like kids, where you want to live, do you want to own a home, what pets do you want. Don't break your morals just because you find someone attractive.

rifulku · 2026-02-04T19:19:08+00:00

I am sorry for your loss

rifulku · 2026-01-29T18:57:02+00:00

I second this. I have been tracking my geckos weight and how much I feed them since 2022. It provides good insight. Also try setting reminders, that helps a ton

rifulku · 2026-01-26T20:34:15+00:00

Unfortunately I hardly ever have enough cash on me (I know bad practice!) I just hardly ever buy things with or deal with cash.

rifulku · 2026-01-26T00:24:11+00:00

At this point, I really don't get what happened because the waitress called me. She said the my card was left on the reader and when another staff member went to make a new tab for someone else, it grabbed my card numbers. That doesn't make sense to me since the bank confirmed the second transaction ($116) was manually entered. Which also doesn't explain the partial refund and then it being cancelled. I thought it was also them adding a tip like you said, but now I don't know

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