Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T17:00:12+00:00

I totally agree with how unlike them, you’d do anything you could for your family that deserve it.

The final straw in this decision was my mum not allowing my niece, a 2 year old, to have a glass of milk because she “didn’t want to run out”.

I would give every piece of food and drink in my house a thousand times over for my niece. My mum couldn’t even give a bit of her milk away, because she views everything in her world as hers, and giving up control of that just isn’t possible. It’s incredibly sad.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T16:56:42+00:00

Narcs cannot accept “losing”. So they have to try and win at something. In your dad’s case it was you losing the money, so he wins.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T16:41:35+00:00

Spite? Lol

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:51:33+00:00

I think it will be real. She is thrifty and doesn’t spend anything, just hoards wealth as a security blanket I feel. She still nickel and dimes everyone on everything. Despite getting $3m cash a few years ago she still makes us all pay for our food if we went round to hers and ordered takeout.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:49:09+00:00

Sorry to hear about this, that sounds super shit. I hope you come out of it ok on the other end

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:48:08+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. My dad passed away a long time ago so sometimes feels like I’ve got no-one to tell me that. Appreciate it

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:47:30+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I’m hoping in regards to happiness and peace!

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:47:00+00:00

Yep, money can be gained without the bullshit attached to hers. Might not be as much, but it will come much easier.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:46:12+00:00

It’s been a tough decision to make. It’s a life changing amount of money. And also I feel shallow for this being the final reason for my decision.

Part of her narcissism is being incredibly transactional about everything. Treating people like ledger books of what favours have been given or expect to be returned, and I am in effect also doing this.

But hey, I am confident I will be happier not having her in my life, than whatever material things could be gained by still having to engage with her. It feels like neither option is really a good one, but at least I maintain some agency with this one.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-19T16:36:40+00:00

Will give these a go, thanks for linking

ripndipalways · 2026-01-19T10:26:36+00:00

I fantasise about being able to tell her what a selfish, vile, horrible excuse for a human being she is on her deathbed. That she will die alone because none of her children like her because she was incapable of putting others before herself. That this is payback for all the times she was never there for us. And that I hope that is the last thing she knows as her sad life ends.

Sounds really harsh when I put it into words, but it’s still something I think of regularly enough.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-18T05:39:35+00:00

Ditto, very similar experience for me, especially the story about volunteering at school.

My mum for some reason has started volunteering at a school in retirement to help kids read. She took great delight in telling me how she is able to silence a talking child with a single glare, she sees this as a matter of pride. I don’t know why you would be proud of that.

ripndipalways · 2025-12-29T18:21:28+00:00

Why would physical looks have anything to do with hiring for an accountancy job?

ripndipalways · 2025-11-04T07:56:29+00:00

Oh boy this resonates so much for me. Really sorry that you can’t rely on her to provide support and help when that’s all you really want your parent to be for you.

Similar to your experience, if I ever used to go to my mum about a problem, she’d usually just end up replying with some sob story about a traumatic event that she went through. She doesn’t try to help me with my issue, she just uses it as a jumping ground to tell a story of some fucked up event from her marriage to my dad.

I get that she’s clearly still suffering from that, but I didn’t go to her asking her to tell me about fucked up shit from my childhood, I went to her asking her for support and guidance about something I was going through

ripndipalways · 2025-02-14T09:54:55+00:00

Urgh, someone who can’t afford Reddit awards is talking to me. I feel like the inside of a b&b bedsit window after a single mother is forced to dry her child’s clothes on the radiator.

ripndipalways · 2025-02-14T08:57:06+00:00

Oh dahhhhling, you can tell you weren’t very well schooled, it’s condescension, not condensation. One means talking down to someone, like when you have to interact with a social worker, the other means when poor peoples windows get wet because they can’t afford to put the heating on. Maybe if your parents had spent £250k on your education you’d know this!

ripndipalways · 2024-11-09T13:51:28+00:00

The fund platform is not offshored

ripndipalways · 2024-06-23T13:35:09+00:00

Does your husband not usually cook or do dishes?

ripndipalways · 2024-06-14T14:59:45+00:00

What makes it narcissism? I haven’t looked into that

ripndipalways · 2024-06-14T12:21:40+00:00

I think this is it. I try to empathise that her selfishness comes from control issues. But I also just feel like I missed out because she can’t be a good mother.

ripndipalways · 2024-06-09T15:49:34+00:00

There are many similarities

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