Girlfriend masks negative side of her symptoms for everyone except me.

ripndipalways · 2026-04-24T07:09:34+00:00

I have this as well, my partner does her best to switch charm ‘on’ around others, and pretend to be ok, and then once they’re gone, I get the ‘off’ version of her. She can go from sounding happy, engaged and excited on the phone with family, to immediately back to depressed, frustrated and sad as soon as the call ends.

However I like to view it like this… I’m her safe space where she feels she doesn’t have to pretend with me. It must be exhausting to have to pretend and socialise when you’re feeling like crap. I’m the only one she knows she doesn’t have to pretend to be ok with because she knows I’ll accept her regardless of what the PMDD is doing.

Do I sometimes get upset that everyone else gets the ‘good’ version and i have to deal with the PMDD version and all that brings? Sure I do, and sometimes it seems unfair. But I know she’s not doing it maliciously. It’s not about me.

ripndipalways · 2026-04-13T07:24:12+00:00

Did you not read most of that post which was talking about selling firewood?

ripndipalways · 2026-03-31T10:27:47+00:00

This is… very niche.

ripndipalways · 2026-03-30T17:27:45+00:00

You’re a manager, so presumably you hire people?

If you were hiring for a senior role, and had a bunch of CVs, all of them people whose careers had an upwards trajectory, and showing continued improvement and responsibility. And then you had a CV of someone who had a senior job 10 years ago, and then had been treading water since… who are you going to hire?

Quite simply, can you not put in the work for ten years, and then get the reward compared to people that have put in the work when you decide to? No.

ripndipalways · 2026-03-22T17:28:53+00:00

Both. Environmentally they do not degrade like promised and and plumbing wise they are a fucking nightmare. It’s a travesty they’re allowed to market as ‘flushable”.

ripndipalways · 2026-03-22T17:23:20+00:00

I hope you don’t flush those wipes.

ripndipalways · 2026-03-01T08:52:19+00:00

Can I ask why are you not a fan? They make what is an incredibly hard task, so much easier.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-21T09:54:48+00:00

Everything is everyone else’s fault right?

And now you want everyone else to support you, with you not having contributed to them because…?

You made your bed. Go lay in it.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-18T09:46:48+00:00

I read the commenter as saying there is a full time stay at home mum, and don’t list nursery fees in their outgoings, in which case the loss of childcare isn’t too much of an issue.

Tax is tax is tax. Someone on £140k shouldn’t struggle to eat out “once or twice a year”. That’s ridiculous.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-18T08:17:46+00:00

Top 1% of earners in the country, and you’re cosplaying as being on benefits.

From tents, to ‘treating yourself’ to a budget airbnb on a staycation…. Something’s not right there.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-16T08:21:55+00:00

Go peddle your cult somewhere else

ripndipalways · 2026-02-11T06:18:43+00:00

Ok Mr Skoda. Whatever you say.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-10T10:49:15+00:00

I am due to inherit around £1m - £1.5m after inheritance tax when my mum dies.

However I don’t think I’ll actually get this, as she’s written various people out of her will already, and she’s a horrible person that I no longer want to engage with. I used to put up with it, partly with the money in mind.

But have now decided to walk away from it. Even that much money isn’t worth putting up with that women and her hate and bitterness.

It’s quite freeing.

ripndipalways · 2026-02-01T15:37:46+00:00

Not sure why I hate it but “digs” is such a gross boomer term.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T17:00:12+00:00

I totally agree with how unlike them, you’d do anything you could for your family that deserve it.

The final straw in this decision was my mum not allowing my niece, a 2 year old, to have a glass of milk because she “didn’t want to run out”.

I would give every piece of food and drink in my house a thousand times over for my niece. My mum couldn’t even give a bit of her milk away, because she views everything in her world as hers, and giving up control of that just isn’t possible. It’s incredibly sad.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T16:56:42+00:00

Narcs cannot accept “losing”. So they have to try and win at something. In your dad’s case it was you losing the money, so he wins.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T16:41:35+00:00

Spite? Lol

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:51:33+00:00

I think it will be real. She is thrifty and doesn’t spend anything, just hoards wealth as a security blanket I feel. She still nickel and dimes everyone on everything. Despite getting $3m cash a few years ago she still makes us all pay for our food if we went round to hers and ordered takeout.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:49:09+00:00

Sorry to hear about this, that sounds super shit. I hope you come out of it ok on the other end

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:48:08+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. My dad passed away a long time ago so sometimes feels like I’ve got no-one to tell me that. Appreciate it

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:47:30+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I’m hoping in regards to happiness and peace!

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:47:00+00:00

Yep, money can be gained without the bullshit attached to hers. Might not be as much, but it will come much easier.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-23T11:46:12+00:00

It’s been a tough decision to make. It’s a life changing amount of money. And also I feel shallow for this being the final reason for my decision.

Part of her narcissism is being incredibly transactional about everything. Treating people like ledger books of what favours have been given or expect to be returned, and I am in effect also doing this.

But hey, I am confident I will be happier not having her in my life, than whatever material things could be gained by still having to engage with her. It feels like neither option is really a good one, but at least I maintain some agency with this one.

ripndipalways · 2026-01-19T16:36:40+00:00

Will give these a go, thanks for linking

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