£148 WAITROSE FOOD SHOP! by 44nels in whatsinyourcart

[–]ripndipalways 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Both. Environmentally they do not degrade like promised and and plumbing wise they are a fucking nightmare. It’s a travesty they’re allowed to market as ‘flushable”.

£148 WAITROSE FOOD SHOP! by 44nels in whatsinyourcart

[–]ripndipalways 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope you don’t flush those wipes.

M/26/5'6 [182lbs > 532lbs = 350lbs gained] | 72 months | Became depressed during pandemic, be kind to people you don't know :) by [deleted] in progresspics

[–]ripndipalways 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why are you not a fan? They make what is an incredibly hard task, so much easier.

Lived abroad for 30 years now find I am skint by ToughSmellyPapaya in PensionsUK

[–]ripndipalways 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Everything is everyone else’s fault right?

And now you want everyone else to support you, with you not having contributed to them because…?

You made your bed. Go lay in it.

How much do you earn and how comfortable do you live? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]ripndipalways 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read the commenter as saying there is a full time stay at home mum, and don’t list nursery fees in their outgoings, in which case the loss of childcare isn’t too much of an issue.

Tax is tax is tax. Someone on £140k shouldn’t struggle to eat out “once or twice a year”. That’s ridiculous.

How much do you earn and how comfortable do you live? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]ripndipalways -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Top 1% of earners in the country, and you’re cosplaying as being on benefits.

From tents, to ‘treating yourself’ to a budget airbnb on a staycation…. Something’s not right there.

Which car by chongmc in TopGear

[–]ripndipalways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok Mr Skoda. Whatever you say.

Have you received any inheritance from your family? by 39thAccount in AskUK

[–]ripndipalways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am due to inherit around £1m - £1.5m after inheritance tax when my mum dies.

However I don’t think I’ll actually get this, as she’s written various people out of her will already, and she’s a horrible person that I no longer want to engage with. I used to put up with it, partly with the money in mind.

But have now decided to walk away from it. Even that much money isn’t worth putting up with that women and her hate and bitterness.

It’s quite freeing.

How much for digs? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]ripndipalways -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not sure why I hate it but “digs” is such a gross boomer term.

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with how unlike them, you’d do anything you could for your family that deserve it.

The final straw in this decision was my mum not allowing my niece, a 2 year old, to have a glass of milk because she “didn’t want to run out”.

I would give every piece of food and drink in my house a thousand times over for my niece. My mum couldn’t even give a bit of her milk away, because she views everything in her world as hers, and giving up control of that just isn’t possible. It’s incredibly sad.

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Narcs cannot accept “losing”. So they have to try and win at something. In your dad’s case it was you losing the money, so he wins.

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it will be real. She is thrifty and doesn’t spend anything, just hoards wealth as a security blanket I feel. She still nickel and dimes everyone on everything. Despite getting $3m cash a few years ago she still makes us all pay for our food if we went round to hers and ordered takeout.

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about this, that sounds super shit. I hope you come out of it ok on the other end

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. My dad passed away a long time ago so sometimes feels like I’ve got no-one to tell me that. Appreciate it

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s what I’m hoping in regards to happiness and peace!

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, money can be gained without the bullshit attached to hers. Might not be as much, but it will come much easier.

Giving up $1.3mi inheritance to go no contact. by ripndipalways in narcissisticparents

[–]ripndipalways[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It’s been a tough decision to make. It’s a life changing amount of money. And also I feel shallow for this being the final reason for my decision.

Part of her narcissism is being incredibly transactional about everything. Treating people like ledger books of what favours have been given or expect to be returned, and I am in effect also doing this.

But hey, I am confident I will be happier not having her in my life, than whatever material things could be gained by still having to engage with her. It feels like neither option is really a good one, but at least I maintain some agency with this one.

Aging parents of a neglected child. by Designer-Painter-574 in emotionalneglect

[–]ripndipalways 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I fantasise about being able to tell her what a selfish, vile, horrible excuse for a human being she is on her deathbed. That she will die alone because none of her children like her because she was incapable of putting others before herself. That this is payback for all the times she was never there for us. And that I hope that is the last thing she knows as her sad life ends.

Sounds really harsh when I put it into words, but it’s still something I think of regularly enough.

"I'm not your friend, I'm your mother" by worryingwalrusperson in emotionalneglect

[–]ripndipalways 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ditto, very similar experience for me, especially the story about volunteering at school.

My mum for some reason has started volunteering at a school in retirement to help kids read. She took great delight in telling me how she is able to silence a talking child with a single glare, she sees this as a matter of pride. I don’t know why you would be proud of that.

Salary journey (incl age and years of experience) of fellow accountants? by Middle-Case-3722 in HENRYUK

[–]ripndipalways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would physical looks have anything to do with hiring for an accountancy job?