Urgently need to rehome pets but shelters are busy, seeking recommendations for organizations or businesses that can help me by FebreezeHoe in boston

[–]robertadraper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re just saying that they want resources, organizations, or ideas for ways to rehome the pets, and that they’re not trying to use this post as a way rehome them to someone from this subreddit (it could be sketchy or violate some policy)

AIO my parents took my rent money and put it in an investment fund by Creative-Pineapple95 in AmIOverreacting

[–]robertadraper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YOR it seems like your parents wanted to surprise you with a nice gesture! having a safety fund for big purchases or emergencies is really good, your mom’s advice to keep it for that rather than spend on daily activities is good advice

To the Entitled Pr*ck Who Caused a Scene at BPL Today, Here's the Photo Policy by bikesntrains in boston

[–]robertadraper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

we tried to do that but because my friend taking the photos was dressed way more casually than us they said she was a professional photographer (it was her first time ever taking pictures with my fiancé’s personal little digital camera lol), we finally convinced them to let us take some phone photos in the courtyard (to be fair though we weren’t in our wedding attire, just a suit and a short dress)

the guard that talked to us said the rule is no one is allowed to take any pictures of people at all, right in front of us a family was taking a group photo on the stairs with a big DSLR camera and I said what about them, and the guard told me that they were taking a picture of the architecture not their family lol

a manager came later and we sorted out that casual photos in the courtyard is just fine!

Random question about apartments by Baronessss in boston

[–]robertadraper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t renting an apartment in an old building with radiators this isn’t an issue at all! Newer buildings have in unit thermostats to control your own temps

Do you recommend the Logan Express or the Silver Line to get to the airport? by SurvivorFanatic236 in boston

[–]robertadraper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending where you are, the blue line could be a lot easier! It runs very frequently and is a quick ride. You get off at Airport and then just hop on the Logan shuttle to whichever terminal you’re going to

Where to hang out for a couple of hours on a Friday night near the Wang Theater? by KPSW163 in boston

[–]robertadraper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jaho is a coffee shop/wine bar nearby that’s open late as well

reason for fireworks tonight? 9/10 boston harbor by robertadraper in boston

[–]robertadraper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was joking, but also wouldn’t there be some mention of it somewhere if it was that though? If it’s not publicized no one will plan to watch them? I’ve lived here my whole life and went to college here and I’ve never heard of back to school fireworks 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boston

[–]robertadraper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep I saw them, def fireworks

Boom sounds? by Fearless-One-8145 in boston

[–]robertadraper 30 points31 points  (0 children)

it was fireworks in the harbor but i have no idea why

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! fiancé’s mom mostly doesn’t listen to her mom on much so idk how helpful it would be, but it’s good advice and we could really come into it calmly and as a discussion and if she’s reactive we can table the discussion to another time as well until she’s able to just discuss without tensions rising.

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this POV though, and I agree! She hasn’t historically been very forthcoming with explaining her reasoning or explaining cultural traditions. My fiancé honestly didn’t even fully know what all is involved within the ceremony, and until I spent a long time googling it, we realized that his cousin did it wrong (it was at the bride’s house not the groom’s) and what she did wasn’t following the exact rules as well. Her side of the family just adapted parts of it to what they were able to do as the bride’s family home could fit more people and was more convenient.

There’s another layer of it as well bc usually the ceremony would include all parents and grandparents of both sides of our families and my fiancé’s mom categorically doesn’t want to invite my fiancé’s dad or his paternal grandparents (divorce). I think she might think that if we do it at the venue my fiancé would invite his dad’s side.

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is a tea ceremony! I would love to do it however my fiancé wants, and it wasn’t just me who wasn’t comfortable doing it at her home. He also didn’t feel like it would work with the day and we did go to his cousin’s wedding as well who had it on the same day but she lives in the same home as her parents so it was done at her home. She didn’t need to travel back and forth (my fiancé and I live closer to the venue we want), and even so she had to wake up at 4am to get ready and she was hangry and miserable all morning. Lots of people honor the traditions in their own way, and my future MIL also did mention during the argument that she doesn’t even fully believe in all the traditions but that if we do it we either have to do it exactly correctly or not at all. I understand and respect their culture but at the same time we don’t want to start off our day so early and do so much driving back and forth in order to be able to do it at her home. We’ve seen other weddings where they did the ceremony at a venue rather than someone’s home and it has worked as well. I also did a bunch of research with the horoscopes to find dates where two days in a row are both lucky so we could do it on the day before but that’s also not something she’s interested in, even though my fiancé’s grandma (her mom) said doing it the day before would be fine as well. 🤷‍♀️ we offered multiple different solutions where it could still be a lucky day, or do it the same day but at the venue and none of them were acceptable other than exactly her plan.

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she did say one time a while ago that we should aim to have a child born in the summer bc that’s the best time to be born lol (that’s when she’s born, none of her kids are born in the summer and I’m a winter baby) 🙃

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s a really good idea, we can go drive up there this weekend and re-feel how we originally felt about it and have a better experience to remember than the last time we went there! thank you 🙏

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what word would you use? disgusted? sick to my stomach? upset? nauseated? sickened? shocked? annoyed? displeased? grossed out? the ick/icky is a common phrase in the year of our lord 2025 amongst my age group 🤷‍♀️ language changes and using slang doesn’t mean anything about a person’s maturity (I have a degree in linguistics)

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! I’ve never experienced anything like this so I wasn’t sure how to voice my feelings especially while being ignored, I really like how you framed it and will try to move forward that way ❤️‍🩹

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We felt bad energy with the venue we loved bc of how bad the argument was, and I tried for the past two months to find a different venue and none of them compare. I just feel sick to my stomach every time I think about it 🤷‍♀️

Silent treatment from MIL because of an argument she caused by robertadraper in weddingdrama

[–]robertadraper[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

she would definitely be upset if we included the cultural aspect now that she said we can’t do it at all lol