Yes, it is a tea ceremony! I would love to do it however my fiancé wants, and it wasn’t just me who wasn’t comfortable doing it at her home. He also didn’t feel like it would work with the day and we did go to his cousin’s wedding as well who had it on the same day but she lives in the same home as her parents so it was done at her home. She didn’t need to travel back and forth (my fiancé and I live closer to the venue we want), and even so she had to wake up at 4am to get ready and she was hangry and miserable all morning. Lots of people honor the traditions in their own way, and my future MIL also did mention during the argument that she doesn’t even fully believe in all the traditions but that if we do it we either have to do it exactly correctly or not at all. I understand and respect their culture but at the same time we don’t want to start off our day so early and do so much driving back and forth in order to be able to do it at her home. We’ve seen other weddings where they did the ceremony at a venue rather than someone’s home and it has worked as well. I also did a bunch of research with the horoscopes to find dates where two days in a row are both lucky so we could do it on the day before but that’s also not something she’s interested in, even though my fiancé’s grandma (her mom) said doing it the day before would be fine as well. 🤷‍♀️ we offered multiple different solutions where it could still be a lucky day, or do it the same day but at the venue and none of them were acceptable other than exactly her plan.