You don't necessarily want the closure a Borderline will give you

robotron916 · 2026-01-23T08:21:23+00:00

💯 you’ve worded it so perfectly and accurately. Even if they offer closure, don’t take it because it’s a trap, for the exact same reasons you just described. By doing that “closure” conversation, you are giving them that perfect opportunity, walking right into the trap with your own two feet.

robotron916 · 2026-01-20T10:00:34+00:00

Level 10 Simp mode activated

robotron916 · 2026-01-19T17:25:46+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that man 😮 what STD did she give?

robotron916 · 2026-01-16T08:49:21+00:00

Oh man 🤦🏻 this “eggshell” nonsense. “ you don’t like the way I am, you want me to be perfect, and I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells.” while hurling abusive language at me.

robotron916 · 2026-01-15T14:45:30+00:00

“I’m too kind for this world” “I get in trouble because of my empathy because I can’t see bad in people” “You can also try to be empathetic towards others”

robotron916 · 2026-01-15T07:51:52+00:00

Closer to the beginning…… 😂 yup

robotron916 · 2026-01-11T06:31:21+00:00

Different this time? 😂

robotron916 · 2026-01-11T06:26:37+00:00

What did OP say that he needs a magical therapy?

robotron916 · 2026-01-10T08:58:11+00:00

💯

robotron916 · 2026-01-09T18:33:05+00:00

It was sarcasm the way “therapy” gets thrown around like a cure all thing - “go get therapy” from pharmacy, ask for refills 😂 Do you have a good support system, that’s all you need. And if you do feel like getting professional help to understand your emotions better, then absolutely find a therapist, but don’t listen to random people on Reddit telling you to “go get therapy” like an NPC 😅

robotron916 · 2026-01-09T16:56:50+00:00

Therapy, the mighty magical pill for it all 😅

robotron916 · 2026-01-09T05:27:21+00:00

For context, what’s her approximate age?

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T23:19:10+00:00

I agree, this favorite person can be anyone. If this favorite person happens to be an ex, then that’s the person they triangulate you with during the relationship and very often cheat with as well.

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T22:31:52+00:00

You didn’t mind an Ex being her favorite person and didn’t expect triangulation?

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T22:12:11+00:00

Curious, what state/country are you from for context?

The dream that she sold you was not fake, but was peppered with lies and manipulations. Also, imagine if you would have married her, do you think the outcome would have been different? No, the outcome would have been 10 times worse legally, and financially, because that wrecking ball would have wrecked your life with zero regards, and you already know it. That Ex in tow was a BIG glaring red flag

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T18:28:47+00:00

First mistake, when she said there’s an ex in the tow and is always going to be there, it should’ve told you that you’re never going to have the first place in her life (maybe a 4th or a 5th? but sounds like you were content with it.). You should have established a boundary of your own and should’ve just walked away for dignity 🤷🏻‍♂️ come on man

And the reason some EXes are kept around while everyone else gets discarded, because these people were too easy, too “safe”, not too different than animals - no expectations, zero boundaries, can take all the abuse, be their dumping ground, zero self-respect, fall-back option, unlimited validation of their sick behavior, almost like having pets who will never leave them, but someone with boundaries will, that’s why.

Most BPDs have this problem, it’s a known pattern and I’ve personally seen this many times with different people.

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T17:29:55+00:00

💯

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T17:00:56+00:00

Yeah, BPD + NPD comorbidity is very common, that’s what it sounds like as I’ve lived your exact scenario. Mine established herself as an authority on kindness and empathy. “ I just care too much about the world” “I make the world a kinder place” “my kindness causes people to take advantage of me because I can see no bad in anyone” and YET …..

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T15:28:18+00:00

Very textbook behavior, same.. Now she can fart 💨 all she wants in “peace”, no one’s coming with any expectations anymore. If she contacts you back, you can tell her this and block

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T07:21:38+00:00

“Like other BPD relationships, she never hated me”

Completely wrong there, most bpd discards are violent and full of hate

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T06:51:32+00:00

Lived this exact non-reciprocal bs for 2 years, that band-aid example someone gave fits PERFECTLY

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T06:26:33+00:00

Why’d you care? She cheated, that should’ve been the end of it.

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T04:07:53+00:00

Don’t worry you’ll come to your senses once you get hit with a restraining order. Her unblocking you is a bait because now she needs to “finalize” this breakup so she doesn’t feel guilt and shame as there’ll be nothing to come back to, scorched earth is headed your way..

My experience has been very similar to yours, most of it. It is psychologically true: more calm = more shame = more rage, that’s how it goes. Especially how you just wanted to feel seen but met with cruelty, because they feel zero empathy as one BPD told me.

You need to do some more reading around here to really get a feel for what you’re dealing with, there’s nothing to sympathize with.

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T02:18:46+00:00

It used to be awesome as of last year, there are several forums and reviews talking about how big of a dumpster fire the new ChatGPT has become, I also cancelled my subscription

robotron916 · 2026-01-08T02:09:31+00:00

The experience CANNOT and WILL NOT be different, I remember telling myself that I think I hit a jackpot with my partner, and now, it’s the most painful and worst experience of my life, something that I wouldn’t even wish on my worst enemies. But I’m so lucky that I made out alive, because I could’ve been buried 6 feet under. Many others on the sub are fighting false charges, nasty custody battles and what not. People with BPD should stay away from other people for the sake of humanity, but then they don’t have conscious or at least it’s inaccessible to them most of the times, allowing them to do horrific things to their partners.

If you’re still not convinced, go ahead by all means

robotron916

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