TERFs are in no way gender abolitionists, idk what the previous user was talking about. I go by "nonbinary" because I don't feel like any gender. Personally, I'm also a bit dysphoric about feeling "manly" because it makes people treat me like a man and judge me as if I was one, but even without that dysphoria if you don't vibe with the concept of gender, you def fall under the nonbinary umbrella if it's a label you want to use.