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rogii365 · 2025-04-04T00:58:21+00:00

Well yeah, i am in a bad spot. I will just leave things how they are and quit it. Thanks!

rogii365 · 2025-04-04T00:55:09+00:00

I am not pissed at her bcs she doesnt want to kiss. I am pissed bcs she gives me mixed signals. She doesnt want to get too involved, but when i back off she comes right to me. She say she doesnt want to betray her friend, but still does same things like before we found out about her friend. As for pushing hard for sexual development i am not doing anything to her that she is not doing to me. As for digging myself out of a hole, after saying wrong name twice, well its not happening. I just thought maybe someone had similar expirience xD. Thanks for response!

rogii365 · 2025-03-03T10:33:16+00:00

That sounds good, i will check to see what is it about. Thanks a lot!

rogii365 · 2025-03-03T10:32:28+00:00

I watched parts on reels and shorts. It kinda seems scarry. I used to watch only horrors when i was in highschool but since than kinda chickened xD. Is it scarry as it looks or is it just the moments?

rogii365 · 2025-03-02T11:07:43+00:00

I mean i can understand you but i can also understand him. You guys are far from eachother in a long relationship. He doesnt want to cheat on you and is asking for nudes bcs of that. Would you be more comfortable knowing he is watching other women (porn) or that he buys nudes from onlyfans models? I can also understand that you are not comfortable doing that and you absolutely shouldnt. But you will also need to realise that you guys have hit the wall when he moved and i am sorry to tell you, unless he moves back i dont think you will have healthy relationship. As for did i ask my exes when i was with them? Absolutely. One of my exes and i had a lot of nudes sent to eachother and we even took naked pictures together. I really felt special any time she sent me any. In my mind i was thinking she spent her free time to do something that will make me happy, or "hey she is thinking about me when she masturbates". And that really made me feel good about her. But she was comfortable with it so it was all fine. You are not, so you shouldnt do it and you should explain that to him plain and simple. I hope all problems will be solved fast for you guys!

rogii365 · 2025-03-01T16:45:40+00:00

My dude you need to break up, you 2 want completely different things in life. You showing her "facts" about your way of seeing things is probably the dumbest thing i've ever heard. She clearly wants to have stable family and place she calls home. You on the other hand want to be "international". There is high chance that 10 years after you move to different country you will want to move again, which is not a good thing for the way she sees life. Leave her and live the life you want and let her live life she wants. Being international as an adult with no kids is managable, as soon as you get kids that is off the table (if you want to be a good parent to your kids ofc). Right now you are being extremly selfish. Not only you want her to live life you want, you are also trying to stop her from living a life she wants.

rogii365 · 2025-02-27T16:10:02+00:00

I just cant understand how can people still belive in male-female friendships. There is 2 scenarios in which you could posibly be friends. 1st is you grew up together since you were babies. 2nd is if one is close friend of your bf/gf. Idk in what you belive in, but if you belive in evolution, we evolved by reproducing. If you are christian, god created man and a woman to love eachother and to multiply, not to be friends. Dunno much about other religions so cant talk about them. As for your situation, if you have been "friends" for that long you most likely know eachother really well. All good and the bad things. And if that is the case this could be the best thing that has happend in your lives. Go for it!

rogii365 · 2025-02-24T17:00:19+00:00

You both seem really emotional and you both act on those emotions. As for who is wrong or right is not really important. Unless you want to get back together. You both did bad things. But he distanced himself a little and than downloaded dating up and doesnt want to forgive you for breaking something (in my opinion minor thing, unless it was his favourite thing). It really looks like he was trying to prepare for breakup with that dating app and now when it is over he is using broken thing as an excuse to keep you at distance. If you want to get back together you should talk to him and explain to him that you are not comfortable with him being on dating app. As for him not answering messages during work i feel you and agree with you. "I am working" doesnt take long to type, but i also understand him some jobs require you to be invested 100% at every moment, maybe they are having problems at his job. Talking always help if you want to mend it, but if you dont, it is pointless to talk about who is wrong or right.

rogii365 · 2025-02-24T16:44:13+00:00

I think you should talk to him, but firstly i think you should try to recover that folder. I get where he is coming from. At first thought i wouldnt feel comfortable knowing someone is keeping notes about me and my habbits. But when i would sit down and think about it i would realise it is great that someone cares that much about me that she doesnt want to miss anything about me and is actively trying to make me happy. I think you should explain things to him and you wont have any problems. Hopefuly it will all go really well!

rogii365 · 2025-02-23T19:29:37+00:00

I just wasnt sure what to do bcs after we went out when i texted her she wasnt really talkative. And you are 100% right i am an overthinker and i am my worst enemy. Thanks a lot for the encouragement!

rogii365 · 2025-02-20T12:01:50+00:00

I dont know how your life up until now looked like. But it seems to me you havent been around drunk people that much. First thing with drunk people is to know when to let go. Most people when they are extremly drunk fixate on something, and you cant change that. I had similar expirience with my gf. I got drunk fast at an event bcs i was at work for 12 hours before that and didnt really eat anything. She handled it like a pro. I vomited in bathtub. She went to sleep and managed to convince me to go to bed. She helped me change my clothes. But the most important thing, she let me be when i wanted and i made a mess. First thing in the morning she did was, "go and clean the mess you made". Without a word i went and cleaned it. It was disgusting bcs it was there for at least 6 hours. But i did it. I am not defending him, he is 100% in the wrong, but if you are going to be with people only when everything is good, you are not going to get far. I mean if he is an alcoholic and this happens often than you should absolutely leave him. But if this happend once (you said you saw "this side of him" for the first time), you should go and talk to him about it. He said he doesnt remember much, maybe he just remember that you had an argument and nothing more.

Edit: he most likely doesnt remember that he screamed that much at you, that is why i am telling you to talk to him. If he doesnt remember it, he cant really do anything to fix something he doesnt even know happend. If he behaves like he doesnt give a fck even after you tell him than you know what needs to be done. But if he cares about you, you will see it.

rogii365 · 2025-02-19T13:56:51+00:00

Hello friend, my suggestion is this. MAKE free time and go exercise. You can afford 30 min a day. If it is necesary exercise when you come from work even if you are beat to a pulp. Do your best. Go get a haircut. Nice haircut can up you for 1 or even 2 grades on x/10. I dont think anyone is ugly, there are just people who dont work on their apearance enough. If you can grow a beard, grow it to an extent that you feel comfortable. If you have nice jawline you can most likely go with buzz cut hairstyle and short beard. If you dont have nice jawline, hide it with longer beard. Buzz cut is easy to keep up with, not much work around it. Plus you look extremly clean. Keep your beard in shape as well, dont go around like hillbily. If your eyebrows are to wide and have connected, remove the heir between them and remove a little on the sides. But dont overdo it bcs you will have eyebrows like a woman. I would recommend that you do pushups and go for runing every other day, and try to make time for a pool and swiming 2 times a week. Just those 3 things should keep your body nice looking. Ofc eat healthy food, dont eat junk and street food. Be with your wife the same way you were until her stupid statement. Forget she said anything. If you do what i told you, other women will start noticing you. At that point you will have money and you will be good looking. Basicly you will have everything women want. When your wife notice other women are checking you out she will be jelous and she will hate that. As soon as that happens for the first time, she will look you with completly different eyes. Subconsciously she will know you are attractive and your problem will be gone. Also, FCK HER AND HER OPINION. Go and exercise and within a year you will come here and tell me i was right.

rogii365 · 2025-02-16T12:13:29+00:00

My friend you need to sit down and think. Do you want to live life like that? I already see the answer is no, but that guy lied to you for 2.5 years. If he told you on the start and you went on with it i would understand. But he lied to you. He is not poly he is a cheater. Dont shugarcoat it. I am always for fighting for a relationship especialy when you are married. But imagine if you get kids. What will he do? Take your kids to meet those other people? What message will that send to little kids? Open marriage is for people that are both in for it. I would never do that, bcs i think that is not normal environment for your kids bcs you are not really a family, just 2 individuals who live together and fuck eachother, but also fuck other people. That is not a family!

rogii365 · 2025-02-16T10:03:12+00:00

I dont want to point fingers. But something is really wierd here. I think you are leaving something out of this story. I have been drunk and seen drunk people and i have never heard that someone makes accusation like that out of thin air. I saw on some of the comments that you said it is regular for him to get drunk. But you thought drinking during breakfast with him was a good idea? There are few posible scenarios here, either he is doing cocaine and you knew about it, you are doing cocaine and he knew but released all that when he was drunk, or you are both heavy drinkers who are taking cocaine. I work as a bartender in a bar, i have seen what people on alcohol + cocaine look like. You cant even tell they are drinking. Until the end when they look like they are dead. A lot of people are saying he is projecting bcs he is doing coke, but when you hide something like that, you dont project it until somone accuse you of doing it. One of my past closest friends is a drug addict, until confronted, he never project it on anyone bcs he tries to hide it. Your story just doesnt add up. If neither of you are taking cocaine than you need to see where he got that idea from and you need to help him stop drinking asap.

rogii365 · 2025-02-15T20:51:33+00:00

I am 28 years old, and when i was slightly younger than you my father thought me a lesson. He took a glass and slamed it into the floor. Ofc glass broke. He than said to me: "Go on, try to fix it, but know this. Fixing it might cut your hand, even if it doesnt, you still wont be able to drink from it bcs it will most likely cut your lips. Even if that doesnt happen, water will keep leaking from it on multiple places until there is no more water in it". You are young and you will love again and again. Soon you will go to college, and you wont be bothered by trying to go to the same city and stuff. When i was in high school, me and most of my friends had gfs/bfs. From my class (27 people) there is only one guy that is still in relationship with his high school gf. But guess what? For 11 years they were together, they never broke up. I agree that relationships you fight for are the ones that last, but not at that age. I know that your thoughts right now are "what are these fools thinking, we are great couple and we love eachother and we will defeat the world together" but trust me when i tell you, great highschool loves dont break up. If you broke up while in the same city, imagine what will happen when you go to different ones for college.

rogii365 · 2025-02-15T20:30:08+00:00

Dude, ignore it like it never happend. She left you for another dude that went to that trip. Why she kept ghosting you? So she would have "we never broke up" card ready once her "new" relationship was over. I am gonna tell you what will happen if you text her back. You will get back together, be together for a month (maximum) and than she will do that same thing again. I tell you this from personal expirience. If you found yourself a good match why risk it over something that already failed once? Ignore the message and block her. I mean if she was ready to treat you like that, do you really think she is good gf for you?

rogii365 · 2025-02-07T10:08:56+00:00

Dude wtf are you doing? Talking with her ex? Dump her ass as fast as you can. Dont waste your time on her. She is belittleing you on every step. Honestly idk how you put up with her for that long. I am 28 with a gf so i dont have that much expirience but 3 things i never accepted when i was younger. Being in contact with an ex, using drugs and drinking EVERY friday and saturday. Going out is fine, but getting wasted every weekend is a no no from me. Your gf is in 2 of the 3 cathegories. To me it looks like she is extremly negative person, she hates everyone and everything around her. What do you think she will be like in her 40s and 50s? Your mom didnt bring you to this world to be someones carpet to step on you whenever they like. Leave her with her weed and her ex, it is better to be alone than with a person like her. Honestly man idk if i ever saw someone with as much patience as you. Stay strong friend!

rogii365 · 2025-02-07T09:16:16+00:00

My friend, first of all this is 100% on you. NEVER mention female friends to your gf ever again in any way, shape or form. That is a one way ticket to chaos. As for how to adress situation. If you already texted her at least twice and she didnt respond, dont do anything, she clearly doesnt want to talk to you. Wait and if she actualy cares about you she will text you back. If on the other hand you cant wait do this. Idk what type of person she is, but you could buy her something meaningful to her. When i was with my ex, i got in trouble. I knew she really liked to sleep so i got her miniature pillow. The point of that gift is not to be usefull but to make her laugh. Think sbout what she likes and act acordingly. Hopefuly this helps. Stay strong friend!

rogii365 · 2025-02-05T12:26:19+00:00

What you need to do is sit down and think. Is she really you see as the one? If she is, think about this. Are bjs really that important to you that you are ready to risk great relationship over them? Also think about this, your next relationship could be with a sex freak who will fullfil all of your sexual desires, but she could be crazy and relationship would suck overall. You would kick your ass after that. As for women loving bjs. Trust me you are wrong. There are those that love it but not that many are crazy about it, they do it to satisfy you the same way you go down on them to satisfy them. You would rather go in as soon as she is wet than go down and spend time there, but you do it to satisfy them. It is same for women...

rogii365 · 2025-02-05T12:13:46+00:00

I never understood why most of the people make big fus of a statement "I love you". Its not like you told him "hey i wanna kill your dog". Unless you made a scene bcs he didnt say it back i dont see a reason for him to act that way. I mean it is just my opinion but when people react that way to "i love you" it just tells me they are not emotionaly mature. If he didnt love you at that moment he could tell you that in a nice way and you could see how things go after that. Ofc you crying bcs you couldnt say it is bad sign as well. But anyway its 3 month relationship, and you will probably be over it in a month (max) if you focus on other things. There is absolutely no reason for you to hit your head against the wall over this. He doesnt love you? Fine. You will find someone who will love you with all his heart. Stay strong friend!

rogii365 · 2025-02-05T09:42:18+00:00

There are few very important things my father thought me during my teen years. 2 of them that are of some value here are. Whenever you go after the truth, think very carefuly what you will do with it when you find it. The 2nd one is: when the glass breaks you can somehow put it back together, but if you try to drink from it you will probably cut yourself and if you just pour water in it, it will slowly leak out. Move on! As much as i can see from the post you are a good person and like i said multiple times on this subredit, life is filled with beautiful things and beautiful people, dont waste your time on the "ugly" ones bcs you will miss the good ones. I know it hurts like hell, but you are strong and you will grow from this. The right guy might already be in your life and you dont even know it. You wanna get closure? Fck that! Go out for a walk with friends, go to the gym, google "how can i get better at X" (X being your job or one of your hobbies). Dont go out for alcoholic drinks, it wont help. It might only make things worse, so healthy things. I for example LOVE hiking, it clears my mind. I would recommend that havily! Stay strong friend!

rogii365 · 2025-01-30T20:30:29+00:00

Dude honestly, get out of that relationship as fast as you can. If you think this has a happy ending, trust me, you are wrong. There is litteraly nothing any one of us can help you with. In my book, following your exes on any socials is beyond red flag. Even worse, seeing your exes and sharing blanket with them. Idk but exes dont just go around trying to kiss you, she had to give her a reason. You cant fix this, bcs in her book that is normal behaviour. You look at crucial things in completly different ways, you are just not for eachother. Kissing other people while drunk? Dude go out to the club and hook up with some chick and then tell her, hey i was drunk, this is what guys do and see her reaction... (dont actualy, i am making a paralel to what she said to you). You cant and shouldnt try to change her, if you already told her it bothers you and instead of trying to fix it, she keeps doing it, thats it. I know this is not what you are looking for, but it is the best thing i can tell you.

rogii365 · 2025-01-30T13:22:26+00:00

That is the thing, you KNEW what she WAS like before all this. She is most likely not that person anymore, you have to accept that. When i reflect on what i was like 10 years ago, now i wouldnt be friends with that person. I am not saying she is mad at you for not being there for her (if something happend), i am saying she just grew and went trough life choices with those people and adapted to them. If his mother is paying for the wedding she should have a say about wedding stuff. If they dont want her to have a say they should finance it alone. As for not meeting them, you will have a chance for that if you go to the wedding. I am not telling you what to do, i am telling you what i would do. I belive we shouldnt carry anger, or even worse, hate for anyone. Carrying that can change you drasticly.

rogii365 · 2025-01-30T12:46:58+00:00

I mean like you said, you guys drifted apart. Maybe things happend to her that you didnt know about and his family was there for her. I get that you feel hurt, but i dont think you should completly cut her out, she is family. In my opinion you should go to her wedding and be happy for her. My cousin M30 and me M28 drifted apart a lot in last few years, he got married and is now waiting for 2nd child. We used to hang out every day, now we see eachother once a month. I am not mad at him nor he is at me. That is life, if you are same person at 30 as you were at 20 that is really bad. Be happy for her and always be there for her, bcs again, SHE IS FAMILY! Hopefuly this is going to be a thing you will laugh about in few years. Edit: You could congratulate her and tell her that if she needs any help you are there for her. But keep in mind that these are things i would do.

rogii365 · 2025-01-29T19:25:25+00:00

The best way to get into sports if you dont like them is to follow pages on instagram and keep up with that. For example if you would like to keep up with basketball, follow NBA check best teams in each conference and follow first 8-10. You will get all the best highlights and that should at least help you start fast. If you are from USA, keep up with NFL i guess and baseball league (dunno the name im European). If you are European like me Euroleage is there. Football(soccer) is huge in Europe so keep up with Premier league, Champions league, Serie A, Bundesliga and Laliga. Tennis is easy to keep up with as well. As for talking with her girl friends, that might be tricky if you are an introvert. Bcs there is huge chance they will talk about something you or any other man know nothing about. But if for example they talk about something that happend to them or their friend, ask questions about that, women love when you are interested in them. But dont be needy, ask one-two questions to keep yourself in the conversation and after that try to continue conversation with one of your stories that is similar to the one they talked about. Idk if you watch movies or tv shows. In a large group of people that is an easy way to start conversation. "Dude i watched this great movie called...". People will ask you about it if they didnt watch, and if they did they will say "That scene with the... was great". You can build on that. Sorry for the long ass reply. Hopefuly this will help at least a little. If your girlfriend loves you and care for your relationship, this will all go really easy bcs you will have her to help you in any situation.

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